My ideal living situation with a partner would be:

Two entirely separate living areas with individual bedrooms, plus a third area for both of us that also has a bed.

So in other words, I'll probably be single forever.

I also need to sleep alone. Everyone is different. My wife stirs so much that it's better to sleep in separate beds and have ehmmm surprise night visits.

We all sleep alone soundly

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Oh my sweet summer child...

Unless you have sleep apnea, the key then is to get a sleep study, and get a cpap. It changed so much for my wife

I sleep better when I’m next to my wife.

Nah. My wife snores like hell, but I can't fall asleep when she isn't there.

Me and husband each have our own blankets and sheets and such on the one king bed. Cause he's a furnace and I'd explode if I got that hot. It's much nicer.

Married and swear by seperate beds. It's amazing if you've got the space. But it is good to make sure you get plenty of "lying about in bed together" time. But it's great to be able to go off to your own bed after for a peaceful, undisturbed sleep. And being able to read a night or get dressed in the morning without worrying about disturbing your partner.

I've dated one person who could not bear to be touched at all in her sleep (but she insisted on sharing the same bed, which made things awkward for me) and another person who snored, but I think that humans probably generally sleep better together. It isn't a sexual thing - look at non-human animals and how they often sleep cuddled up together. As a kid, I shared a bed with my grandfather (we lived in a small apartment) and I would fall asleep hugging him, and as an adult I slept better when I could cuddle up with my dog.

I guess I’m in the minority that I have a harder time sleeping without my spouse than with. I realized about six months in that I’d rapidly developed some sort of dependence where I would fall asleep quickly if I spooned her. She had surgery in January and spent several weeks in the guest room so she could avoid the stairs, so we’ve tried being apart. It is nice if you have the space/budget for a king bed, though, to spread out from each other some.

I sleep much better when my wife is nearby. We have a super king though so she isn't exactly smushed against me, she's just nearby.

My wife and I have separate sheets and blankets, it's almost like our own beds. It's some good sleep.

Me and my husband HAVE to have separate beds. He moves around a lot and it's like being in an earthquake.

I'm a fan of the big bed and separate blankets strategy. It's similar, but you don't have to get up to cuddle, you just scootch closer.

Hasn't the idea of "sleep divorce" been circulating In news recently?

I like John Hodgman's suggestion: Couples should sleep in two beds, in two villas, separated by a reflecting pool.

I mean, I would like it if I could afford it.

Been doing this since the pandemic. And no, it's not a dead bedroom situation, not by a longshot. We just have wildly different circadian rhythms, sleeping habits, we both snore, all of which was leading to consistently interrupted sleep for both of us. This was the only compromise that didn't impact anyone's health. Sharing a bed all the time is romantic, but hardly practical in the long run. Especially when prostatitis and peri-menopause enter the picture.

It's also been a godsend when anyone gets sick. Plus, a ton of decorating options opened up for both of us - it's nice.

Also: the royals do this. With all the wealth the Windsors have, giving everyone their own private suite was where they landed. Makes you think.

We do separate beds. Mostly because I have a clinical sleep disorder. But we also have different mattress preferences, so even then I could make a case for it. Works great.

There's an episode of How I Met Your Mother where Marshall and Lily try this

When my kids were babies and slept in our bed, people would tell me "they need to learn to sleep alone" and I would laugh and tell them no, sleeping alone is so easy, you have to have practice to be able to sleep with someone else. All of them transitioned very easily to sleeping alone, because it is so easy.