Ask Lemmy

Their taste in music. There aren't enough metal heads in my life.

Compassion for the vulnerable and weak.

Bravery. My wife she's a revolutionary. She was on the street when they kicked out the dictator and they were shooting real bullets. I admire her

I'm a lonely male so the answer is if they give me a modicum of attention and kindness.

I'm going to be so shallow as to claim that if they look attractive, I find that instantly hot.

Unapologetic intellectual curiosity! I absolutely love being around people who love learning new things and who get excited to find out more when they discover a new topic.
It's one of the first qualities that really stood out when I first met my husband - in a University lecture with 1000 people, he just nonchalantly sat down in the frontmost row because that's where he could hear the professor the best and ask questions. No shyness or awkwardness about it, which I found incredibly inspiring for some reason! I usually hid in one of the back rows because I was massively overthinking everything and afraid that the professor might call me out when he sees me not paying attention.

Most people are going to say personality, but I am going to go with breast size.

A quote (or mis-quote) from "So I Married an Axe Murderer" https://youtu.be/W_ENWgPmXnY?t=134

They use Arch Linux.

I’m attracted to women with a more traditionally masculine personality or presentation. The helpers/protectors. Or non-binary. Bonus points if their whole Look is to deliberately intimidate strangers.

TL;DR image basically this but in all black.

Kindness, low ego, emotional intelligence, positive mindset.

The ability to not give a fuck about what others think about them, showing people close to them that they care about them and tries to help out anyway that they can, showing appreciation when someone does something for them.

I see these qualities in my (guy) friend which is why I had a crush on him. Also he kinda looks like Leon Kennedy sooo...👀

It is confidence. It is always always always confidence. Close the thread there's your answer for everything.

Belief in and support for Universal Basic Income.

Anti-consumerism, it's a shame so few people possess it.

Being kind

It used to be a pulse, but at my age I can't be so picky.

Big tits.

There's no cheat code to get them to like you, dude.

Passion. Idc if they like fixing up cars, playing guitar or painting. Although that's not something instant. It's more on a getting to know them basis but oh well xD

It's 2: Intelligent and kind

Badminton skills

Being my wife

Throwing themselves at me sexually. If I'm not going to have to make a lot of effort for it the person gets way more attractive to me, even if they're not someone I'd typically go for. Conversely I've lost interest in a lot of very attractive women when they made it clear they were playing hard to get or just weren't very sexual in general.

Instantly? It’s a somewhat vague term, but magnanimity, having “loftiness of spirit.” To me, it means that when they enter a room they carry a subtle gravity. Their eyes are focused on what and who is around them, taking in each in turn with a clear understanding of what they see but a respect for what they don’t. A trim smile that welcomes greetings and promises warm words in return. They breathe with the calm ease of someone healthy and comfortable in their own skin, and with each step they appear to not just approach their physical destination, but their own personal fulfillment.

Understanding and compassion. Kindness. I've been with enough women in my time to be able to definitively say that the HOTTEST woman in the universe yet a total bitch would not be able to hold a candle to a homely kind hearted gal.

To me it's passion. Talking about their topic of predilection with fire in their eyes. That does it

Being hot and horny does it for me.

Unfortunately, I seem to favor the neurotic. It's not a thing I can control. I know damn well not to act on it, but attraction/infatuation can be a bastard sometimes. On the flip side, on the not-instant side of things, plenty of togetherness and shows of affection and tenderness can also call forth attraction over time.

Funny.