At one point instagram decided to show me so much vitriolic comments I actively started to hate people, thinking thats what people were like (I admit i was isolated and had mental health issues at the time). So for me that's one major reason why I chose to leave
this post was submitted on 27 Nov 2025
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The entire point of social media was to show off how fake and better than everyone else's lives yours is. Now everyones lives suck and theyre too lazy to fake it because ai means anyone can shop themselves in the bahamas.
Edit: rich celebrities post on social media all the time. Youre just not thinking of the hypercapitalist influencers. Gotta expand your horizons.
Hmm I am just a temporarily embarrassed hyper capitalist influence…am I not?
I am completely baffled by headlines like this that can be solved by just fucking talking to people who don't work in tech. "Why have you stopped posting on social media?" "Because Facebook sucks ass and you won't show anything I post to my friends anyway"
Because all social media is a fetid cesspool of pedofascist bootlicking and foreign bots pretending to be pedofascist bootlickers and foreign troll farms pretending to be pedofascist bootlickers. That's why I left, anyway.
I value my privacy
because it was always kinda dumb.
I'd wager a lot of them are growing up and realizing just how much of their lives have been wasted on nothing.
I started using social media to connect with friends and family, old and new, and to interact with the humans in my local community.
But those people are buried under a pile of ads, scams, and "suggestions" about shit I don't care about.
Not to mention the absolutely wild privacy violations on an ongoing and increasingly dystopian basis.
I don’t think a lot of my generation are proud enough of what they’ve got going on to show it off
Because you're now interacting with unhinged strangers or unhinged family members and no one wants to deal with that in their daily lives.
This isn't like the days of Myspace or early Facebook or even old PHP forums where you essentially chose who you interacted with and in turn selected who could interact with you. But it's also the fact, at least for me personally, I just don't want to share all the details that go on in my life anymore with everyone. It used to be I could post something personal online and only the people I trusted or very close friends could see it and thats who I wanted to see it. I didn't want my Parents to stumble across the fact that a girl I was dating had a weird/unique fetish or whatever. Once my parents got on Facebook then it was over.
Social media is fine when you're allowed to keep it within a contained, personal, and customized environment. Once you open the flood gates and allow EVERYONE into your life you might as well be screaming on a street corner about what you had for breakfast.
The thing is in the early days you had some control. Now you don’t.
But by the settings have been removed and our personal content has been squirrelled off to be regurgitated for tech bots narrative. Anything someone might see now It’s not the real shared me. It’s a Frankenstein’s monster virtual version of me where only my ability to sell something or convey the current message gets through to others. Because that’s all that is of value to them, not what is of help to me. I started censoring a long time ago as I suspect many other did.
But if anyone wants to know I had eggs at bennys for breakfast and they were OMG (insert orgasm face) they are so well priced too, get down there asap and get some before benny meets an untimely end. Don’t forget to subscribe for more money saving breakfasts. /S
It is largely unpleasant, deliberately unrewarding yet addictive, occasionally punished, politically slanted towards billionaires, and a privacy nightmare. If anything it's a testament to the human desire for connection that we've used it this long.
I'm in my 60s. Posting on social media mostly isn't fun any more, and I don't really want to put more money in the hands of billionnaire fascists. So Facebook, Reddit and Twitter are gone (I've had to keep Messenger as I have friends who only communicate using that platform) and I've never bothered with TikTok, Instagram or Snapchat anyway. This platform and Bluesky are the only ones left and I'm mostly a lurker anyway.
This place feels a low key where you can share conversations. It feels somewhat genuine.
I don’t feel l am being marketed too or being used as a tool here.
Its very nice here.
add to the fact that these platforms are still relatively small so I can recognize usernames thus making it feel more personal I suppose?
Also I run my own instances of everything in the fediverse so I have more control of what and whom I want to see/hear from. If you're a person I don't agree with and have negative opinions then I can easily block you from everything.
Constantly having the right-wing views of weapons grade cunts shoved into your eyeballs will do that.
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