Ask Lemmy

"If they are willing to cheat with you, they are willing to cheat on you."

You choose which emotions to empower and which to discourage. I think Buddha said it?

Basically, you really can choose to focus on the good parts of life/an event and you don't have to let the negatives consume you.

Maya Angelou: 'When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.'

Expanding on the second point: we are what we focus on. if you are practicing to be the type of person who believes people are bad you look for the evidence of bad in people. “Everyone lets me down”. To do this requires discounting and avoiding and ignoring the good that people do.

This means if you do this sort of thing you’re also not that great of a person.

Just imagine being on the other side of it: think of all the nice things you might do for such a person and got overlooked because they focus on complaining about all the bad people in their life all just to prove people are bad.

In regards to having children. "You're going to fuck them up in some way no matter what you do, just try to minimize it"

Paraphrasing from Terrence McKenna.

"The one thing that seems constant through all the years is that... nothing lasts. Nothing lasts. Which is good news for some but will bum out others. Your happiness is slowly turning into something else, while your sadness will also become something else."

Being is better then having and having is better then seeming.

Ps: If you are reading this share your 2 cents about the above. Came up with it myself!

"Slow is smooth and smooth is fast"

This has helped me learn nearly every physical skill I know.

"if you have a problem, you can either solve it or you can't. If you can fix it, no problem! If you can't, no point in worrying about it!" -from a cartoon sheep from Garfield and Friends, turns out this is writing a bodhisattva.

I'm shit at implementing this wisdom but it's still pretty good.

Never hold onto anything so tightly that you can't let go.

That startrek quote about making no mistakes and still losing

Be a good person, not a nice person.

From others in general - Always invest in the things that separate you from the ground; shoes, tires, and your mattress.

From a coach I knew - Every so often sit down and make sure your actions fit with your goals. It's easier to get off course than you think.

From my father - The Hassle Factor. A job can give you three things, enough money to make up for the time you don't have, enough time to make up for the money you don't have, and a sense of satisfaction. If you aren't getting at least two of the three, the job isn't worth the hassle.

I got told something along the lines of: If I undersell my work, it's like pissing on my own work when I sold it bellow market rates.

I got told this by an old junkie guy who got a DUI and disappeared one day.

I tend to look for wisdom in films/shows the most. Here are some of my fav quotes.

1. "Everybody needs help sometimes, Peter. Even Spider-Man"- MJ (Spiderman 3)

2. "I believe there's a hero in all of us, that keeps us honest, gives us strength, makes us noble. And finally allows us to die with pride, even though sometimes we have to be steady and give up the thing we want most—even our dreams." - Aunt May (Spiderman 2)

3. "You gotta let go of that stuff from the past, 'cause it just doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is what you choose to be now"- Po (Kung Fu Panda 2)

I wonder how many here just quote themselves.

Lots of people on the internet are competing for who is the most contrarian.

When someone shows you who they are, believe it the first time.

Also, if everyone you meet is nice, it's because you're a nice person. Conversely, if you think everyone's an asshole, you're the asshole.

Two TV quotes go through my head every day.

Bill Nye: Everyone you'll ever meet knows something you don't.

Doctor Who: Always try to be nice, but never fail to be kind.

In general terms, people as individuals = good. People in groups = bad.

Sex is like air. It's not a big deal unless you're not getting any.

Poop on company time.

"Like your job. Love your wife." - Dell from Trains, Planes, and Automobiles. You can generalize that to say, your job is just a means to an end. Don't work a job you hate, but look elsewhere for true fulfillment in life.

"Go to the bathroom when you don't have to go so you don't have to go when you have to go"

Or, er, use the bathroom when one is available so you don't need one and there isn't one there. I can now use the restroom on demand even if it's not much just so I'm not desperate later and can find a better location.