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[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 36 points 2 years ago (3 children)

I would never talk to another person the way I talk to myself. No one deserves that.

So! A thing that helped me was to depersonalize my self-hate so it's like I'm viciously ripping into a different person. That makes me feel gross, like a bully or something, and I now do it much less. Gotta have empathy for the stranger that is yourself.

[–] NephewAlphaBravo@hexbear.net 10 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

I think I've mostly partitioned off my brain into "me" and "my brain, who horks up random thoughts"

So when this raving weirdo chimes in I get to be like "hell yeah that would be cool thanks" or "nah fuck off asshole"

[–] LanyrdSkynrd@hexbear.net 8 points 2 years ago

That's a great strategy, thanks for sharing.

[–] Outdoor_Catgirl@hexbear.net 5 points 2 years ago

You'd never say "I'm going to fucking kill you. You deserve to die. You are the lowest human scum of this earth." to anyone. So why do it to your self ?

[–] NephewAlphaBravo@hexbear.net 32 points 2 years ago (1 children)

it's not a good idea to talk to someone like that when you have to spend all day with them

[–] CA0311@hexbear.net 26 points 2 years ago (2 children)

this is true and correct thinking but do you ever more or less consciously know something but still feel and act differently? i do lol

[–] NephewAlphaBravo@hexbear.net 16 points 2 years ago

Therapists need therapists too

[–] AlicePraxis@hexbear.net 16 points 2 years ago

every day of my life. cognitive dissonance is a hell of a drug

[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 18 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

meow-hug

I was once told that you should never say anything to yourself that you wouldn't say to a child. Treat your inner thoughts like a kid. You wouldn't say those kinds of things to a kid (I hope) so you shouldn't say those things to yourself either.

[–] HarryLime@hexbear.net 18 points 2 years ago

Rodney Dangerfield browsing Hexbear voice: Aaay, did my wife write this post?

[–] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 15 points 2 years ago

Why are you plagiarizing my journal this is some bullshit

[–] buh@hexbear.net 13 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] CA0311@hexbear.net 9 points 2 years ago
[–] TheSpectreOfGay@hexbear.net 12 points 2 years ago
[–] panopticon@hexbear.net 10 points 2 years ago
[–] HerbalGamer@lemm.ee 7 points 2 years ago

you know you could just throw the journal away

[–] CliffordBigRedDog@hexbear.net 7 points 2 years ago

Literally me fr

[–] Utter_Karate@hexbear.net 6 points 2 years ago

I too have read a newspaper article recently. My sympathies, comrade!

[–] emizeko@hexbear.net 5 points 2 years ago

how I feel reading Israeli official's latest cringe that trivializes the holocaust and devalues the word antisemitism

[–] shath@hexbear.net 5 points 2 years ago

wowa you're right

[–] FumpyAer@hexbear.net 5 points 2 years ago

Hey, this guy Pete Walker's book really helped me to minimize self-attacks like you're describing. The book is called Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.

This article describes how to combat an overactive inner critic, but I believe his book does a better job. But it's still worth a read.

Consider buying the book or you can download it for free at this link.

[–] StellarTabi@hexbear.net 5 points 2 years ago
[–] sovietknuckles@hexbear.net 4 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (2 children)

Whenever you feel like this, just remember that you're the best

I'm the best part 1 I'm the best part 2

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YvT_Z4bwNdw

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[–] AOCapitulator@hexbear.net 3 points 2 years ago

Been taking to a Zionist eh?