I am all in for people to start their treatment according to such a diagnosis if it "works wonders". What I fear is that an era is coming where people in mass will selfdiagnose this and that and then have a reason to not put in effort. I have already seen this in university in action.
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ADHD is not a reason not to put in effort. I have ADHD and I put in so fucking much effort all the time, just to do normal stuff. No one let's us off the hook for shit just because we have ADHD. The best we get are meds that aren't addictive to us and help a lot, but we're treated like drug addicts or dealers for wanting, and have barriers put in the way of getting them that only really hurt people with ADHD. There's no real benefit to being diagnosed incorrectly, so this take just pisses me off and looks like more ignorant pearl clutching.
This. It's always been tons of effort for me, just with little results, at least when I finally broke down and first got my depression diagnosis, then went to seek more answers.
With medication and a lot of therapy, it's now more results and paradoxically less effort as I now try to pace myself instead of putting all of my resources out there all the time.
"doing my nut in" is doing my nut in
Omg Yes!!
Im in software development and the current company (that i already want to leave after one year because a collegue/teamlead suddenly is an asshole, nitpick and does not communicate clearly to help me at my job!), the senior developer litterly on my first day getting to know him said: "we are are a little special. We all are not normal" as i told him about my conditions.
I HATE IT SO MUCH WHEN PEOPLE SAY STUFF LIKE: "We all have a bit autism/are hyperactive". ITS NOT QUIRKY IT IS A DISABILITY! ITS NOT ALL SUFFERING EITHER THOUGH BUT PLEASE TAKE IT SERIOUSELY!
I agree the stance is invalidating and wrong. That said highly technical jobs strongly favor neurodiverse people. I know my last job (engineer at aerospace company) had a very high percentage of neurodivergent engineers, like probably over 90% from what I could tell, including myself. Not in a subtle way either, like most of them had diagnoses already and the rest showed so many signs I don't doubt an expert would diagnose them pretty quickly. I doubt that's what he meant but you probably really are surrounded by neurodivergent people at work (even if they don't know they are).
I think I'm still in the "That's not neurodivergent behavior. That's just a totally normal thing that totally normal people do, all the time", phase of denial.
then you realise most your good friends are neurodivergents
and also that neurodivergence is a lot more common than people think it is, it's just finally socially acceptable to not force yourself to hide it 100% of the time
same phenomenon as "huh I wonder why so many people are LGBTQ+ these days?" lol
I don't even know if I'm diagnosed. My psychiatrist started treating me for it and it worked wonders so.... Maybe? I've just never bothered asking.
some ADHD medications can be used off-label for depression and other psychiatric symptoms
my psych did the same for me with depression and that was what finally flipped me from "there's no way in hell I have ADHD because I got good grades as a kid" to "oh shit there's probably a reason this medication allows me to actually feel calm and in control of my brain and not simply less depressed"
Yes. Diagnosed last year at 41.