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[–] rustyfish@lemmy.world 119 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Reminder: If someone constantly bitches about his colleagues, calles them idiots and acts like he is the only one who does everything right all the time. Then this person is the problem and is projecting harder than a drive-in cinema.

This is true 100% of the time.

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 55 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

I recently had a meeting with my supervisor, and he was complaining about how a previous meeting ran over time and repeatedly complaining about how some former team members who moved to a different team caused the meeting to run over time because they wouldn't just agree to do what he asked, but kept arguing with him about why it isn't a good idea.

I had to interrupt him to point out that the meeting we were in, in which he was complaining about the previous meeting running over time because of the previous team members, had just run over time, and they weren't in the meeting this time.

I don't think he liked what I said, but he ended the meeting, and that's what I wanted to happen.

He did my annual review three days later and complained that I don't work well with others, and specifically indicated that I don't work well with him.

He's the only supervisor who has ever complained about me in the 36 years I've been working.

We've had two people retire last year directly because of him. There is another person who refuses to have a meeting with him unless it is recorded.

[–] Clent@lemmy.world 14 points 1 year ago

Sounds like your company hired one of my previous managers.

We routed around him until the company eventually relieved themselves of the dead weight.

[–] beetus@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Surprised you don't take this sort of detail up to your skip level. Corporations are not entirely blind to issues in all cases. Actually, I bet you have raised these concerns. For all the folks nodding along, talk to your boss' boss!! You owe it to yourself to try

[–] NABDad@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

I have, and others have as well. It doesn't look like the situation can be improved through the chain of command.

Although, I heard through the grapevine that he was written up by the director of a department we support. Honestly, given what I know about that person, I'm surprised he survived that. However, he did.

[–] gamermanh@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

It's the "I'm always right" part that guarantees it

I work with a bunch of fucking idiots who regularly fuck stuff up. But I'm also a fucking idiot constantly fucking Up so I belong

[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yea, the having shitty coworker thing DOES happen. It's more the, "I'm the only good one..." thing that's the indicator. Even most actually shitty coworkers are good some of the time or else they'd hopefully be canned quickly.

[–] indepndnt@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

And if you work somewhere where shitty people are never fired, it's probably a good time to find another job. Unless, you know, you're a shitty person and want job security.

[–] xantoxis@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It's the complaining about it--asserting your correctness to everyone around you--that makes someone the asshole.

Everyone always thinks they're right. If you didn't think you were right to act a certain way, you would do something different! Acknowledging afterwards that you were wrong and made a mistake is what makes someone tolerable.

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[–] splinty@lemmy.world 12 points 1 year ago

I think this is generally true...

... except for driving. I'm the only decent driver out there.

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[–] Axle182@lemmy.world 79 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Only Thomas, master of all four elements could bring balance to the world.

[–] moriquende@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

His name is thomas fyi.

[–] Trainguyrom@reddthat.com 74 points 1 year ago
[–] bstix@feddit.dk 71 points 1 year ago

(or how to understand those who cannot be understood)

The subtitle really highlights his superior understanding.

I think I get it. Listen. There are four types of people: Red person, yellow person, green person and blue person. And they're all narcissistic psychopath idiots. Easy.

[–] Zoomboingding@lemmy.world 60 points 1 year ago
[–] thedirtyknapkin@lemmy.world 58 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (4 children)

reminder not to judge a book by its cover. these kinds of self improvement books are often titled to attract the people that need them more than reflect the opinions inside. like that one social media post of the lady burning a book titled "guys like girls who..." because she assumed it was hateful, but the point of the book was to help young women build confidence and realize they don't need male approval.

[–] protist@mander.xyz 45 points 1 year ago (2 children)

These books are pseudoscientific bullshit, to be clear

[–] UndercoverUlrikHD@programming.dev 6 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Anything related to psychology and sociology is pseudoscience.

[–] ProgrammingSocks@pawb.social 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

No, you're massively overgeneralizing. Freud is pseudoscience, but there's lots of very real studies especially around the 60s (before ethics were considered) that follow the scientific method and have real measurable outcomes and conclusions.

Don't be anti science. Science is a method, not a social club.

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[–] protist@mander.xyz 9 points 1 year ago (4 children)

The only reason you think you have space to say that is because doing direct psychological experimentation on humans is extremely unethical

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[–] thedirtyknapkin@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

yeah that's fair, i didn't check myself lol. just saw the ghost of others errors in this post.

[–] mineralfellow@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I tried reading one of these. Gave up when I realized it was basically a very slightly modified version of the four humours philosophy of philosophy. Couldn’t find anything helpful in it.

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[–] Death@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (2 children)

if any book requires its title to be a clickbait in order to sell and author are willing to use such a move, i'd doubt about the quality of its content

[–] thedirtyknapkin@lemmy.world 6 points 1 year ago

hmm, idk, again in the "guys like girls who" example. it's targeting people with bad self image and telling them they're fine the way they are. if you hate that then you're being way too of a purist on your "clickbait" stance

[–] Randomgal@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago

Not necessarily. We live in a capitalist distopia where it doesn't matter how good you are at what you do or what you sell. You won't sell shit if you can't market yourself. The opposite also applies.

I figured they were conspicuous show pieces, intended for others to see on one's bookshelf or in one's hand in public.

[–] Solarny@lemmy.world 51 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Surrounded by Thomas Erikson

[–] Eagle0600@yiffit.net 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Pounded in the butt by Thomas Ericson while being surrounded by setbacks, narcissists, psychopaths, and idiots.

[–] bingbong@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 1 year ago

-thomas erikson

[–] BeigeAgenda@lemmy.ca 47 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Part of Dark Helmets library.

https://img.memegenerator.net/instances/61158722.jpg

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago

Keep firing, assholes!

[–] Nobody@lemmy.world 37 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If you meet an asshole in the morning, you met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day long, you are the asshole.

[–] XTornado@lemmy.ml 37 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Uhm... But I am a proctologist....

[–] xantoxis@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you can get paid to interact with assholes all day long, you might as well. Most of us don't get paid.

[–] samus12345@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

You do if you do any kind of customer service. Just not enough.

[–] qarbone@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago

Unless you work with businesspeople. Then both parts are true.

[–] Deestan@lemmy.world 35 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Isn't that exactly what these books are calling out? That if you feel surrounded by idiots, it's you who need to work on empathy and communication skills?

[–] dudinax@programming.dev 27 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

You're the only person here who's read them.

[–] Deestan@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago

I read a paragraph of a summary of one of them at some point, can't really speak for the series as a whole :)

[–] Happybara@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

This is correct. Fro what i remember In Surrounded by Idiots he starts with a story about a business owner he knew that used the title phrase to describe his own employees and then uses that to lead into the book which is about connecting with other people, perspective, and empathy.

The book is titled like that because it would resonate with the people that actually believe that and are the ones that really need to read the book.

[–] Taiatari@lemmy.world 35 points 1 year ago

Man I hate that guy and his pseudo science.

[–] webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 28 points 1 year ago (2 children)

He used to be a leaderships coach for manager so can kinda see where hes coming from.

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[–] doofer_name@feddit.de 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

the four types of human behaviour

There are only four?! Gosh. That makes my job sooo much easier. If I only had known before.

[–] arken@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

Gryffindor, Ravenclaw, Hufflepuff and Slytherin

[–] KroninJ@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

If it smells like shit everywhere you go, might be time to check under your own shoes.

[–] ordellrb@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Interesting choice of Color

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[–] I_Miss_Daniel@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Surrounded by fat controllers.

[–] IWantToFuckSpez@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

They are called The Duke controllers

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