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I think I’m falling for my internet pen pal (who really seems much more than that). I don’t know what the fuck happened, but some redditor messaged me about a very niche post I made on a niche subreddit and we’ve been talking for almost 6 months.

I’ve never seen them, they’ve never seen me, etc. But like I said we’ve been messaging (first on Reddit then I got their number) pretty consistently now.

It’s truly bizarre but I think I found someone who understands me idk weird af

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[–] corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

As someone who finds themselves having crushes on Hexbear users, people I meet on dating apps, and random people I see on the street....

Nah homie I totally get it

[–] Hohsia@hexbear.net 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

My logical brain says this is only happening because it’s been almost a year since I’ve been on a date. Also, I guess this isn’t really much different from dating apps, I guess it’s hitting me because we were just chatting about a topic and there was no romantic interest whatsoever at the beginning

My emotional brain says if I don’t seize this opportunity I will die alone

Many such cases!

[–] someone@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago

I think one of the lessons of the past few years is that the world can change overnight. Take every chance at happiness that you can get.

[–] corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Many people are saying! Been hearing it more and more, folks.

[–] Pluto@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago

Okay, Trump.

[–] Pluto@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I consider you to be a friend.

It's not para-social unless you don't care about me back.

That's all.

[–] corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You should kiss them - NOW!!! cat-trans

This is like how my wife and I met, and after three years e-dating we've been living together happily for four ❤ Wishing you luck whatever you decide to do with this, being understood and not having to worry about what you're saying feels so good.

[–] Hohsia@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Well the first step would be ensuring that we can find out what each other looks like 😅

Any recommendations? I think they have an instagram albeit mine is pretty bare

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago

I dunno, ask them or something? I messaged wifey on discord back before it was 100% dogshit, lmao

[–] henfredemars 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I met my wife as another user on a porn site over a series of witty comments.

It happens, and life is weird sometimes. Just take it easy, go slow, and stay safe.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

on a porn site

Easily the most cursed e-dating story I have ever heard, but also it's wonderful how love blooms in the goofiest places. stalin-heart

[–] henfredemars 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Hey, when your preferences are really niche, you make do. Thanks!

[–] Tunnelvision@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago

Honestly makes a lot of sense, but man that’s gotta be like one in a million shot.

[–] Pluto@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago
[–] Infamousblt@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Sounds awesome honestly. Nothing weird about appreciating or celebrating human to human connection in all of its wonderful forms