It's most likely compacted with lint, stopping the cable from inserting in all the way. It usually compacts right at the back. You can use a sturdy toothpick or blunt tweezers or a paperclip even to clear it. Use a spritz of IPA alcohol into the port to loosen it up first.
And the pins lie at different angles, it's very easy to think you're missing pins, when it's just the light reflecting differently off them. They're probably fine, it takes a lot to dislodge them. Again it's probably just lint and debris buildup.
It's tribalism. Don't get sucked into it, if you care you're already on the way there. They're just phones, I enjoy them but I'm not going champion any as being NUMBER WAN! lol