UnequalExchange

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[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 1 points 4 minutes ago

the birth rate has been decreasing generation after generation so at least this awful trend is dying out

And yes , I do agree that many people have followed along with this idea of just having a child with very little forethought as to how to psychologically and financially care for them... but people like this are becoming less common cause more and more people are having less sex overall.

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 4 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

Capitalism suck. Ya there I said it. Now hurry up and downvote me cause youre too childish to accept the truth or to put in the effort to make permanent changes in our lives.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Distribution_of_wealth

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

....so youre struggling and you just cant admit it?

...Wot?

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

...Why help each other when we can just kill the hoarding puppeteers?! Then everyine will be able to easily help themselves!

Lol dafuq are you on about?

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

Capitalism Enshittifies The Internet - Scammers and Influencers Version©®™ 😂🤣

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago (2 children)

lol any straight man who relies on online dating is planning to die alone lol.

Didnt tinder and other dating apps relase daa that actually proves that the ratio of men to women is lioe 5 to 1 on average for all of them? And we dont jnow how many straight men to straight women are in that ratio. COuld be 10 to 1 or 7 to 1 ....

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago

I dont think its not thst they shouldnt be themselves its rather that people like the OP, if they exist, should change themselves to be more respecting of tihers' private spaces or OP just has not matured to the point that they know thenselves.

A person who is secure in themeelves will never spy on a person's panties and 'correlate it to their supposed horniness'....

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 1 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago)

like 90% of the rejections were IRL

But also ....dude did you read what I typed? I said ots OK if nobody wants to date me . There have been millions of humans born before me who were just like me(and honestly there wil probably be millions more born after me) . Humans who worked out , got their mental health as well as one xan get it to be alone and put tjemselves out there.....and.....STILL didnt meet anyone who reciprocated their love. Thats perfectly OK. Thats just life. It is what it is🤷🏿‍♂️🫂 If someone cant accept that? They ought not be dating.

How am I anywhwre close to an incel? lool That term has been tarnished far and away from the lady that first invented it. its sad to be honest cause the term could have been used to describe those who are always feeling 'lwft out' from friendships, relationships, and physical love.....

Aoso incels tend to believe that 'tHeRe's OnLy tWo GemDeRs' lie and I believe in the Mosaic Model Of Gender so there could be unlimited genders and anyone of any gender can date anyone of any other gender as long as theyre consenting adults. And also incels tend to beleive that males are a 'sUpEriOr GeNdeR' (We obviously arent based on the state of the genocidal patriarchal world today) I will never beleive that. All genders deserve equality and equity

Also ive been to therapy for 3 years after I turned 23. It barely helped . My therapist told me about cognitive distorrtions which helped me get my. head right when I gave myself too mant ultimatums. SHe also told me about 'Self-Touch Meditation' for my touch starvation....its meh . It will DEFINIRELY not solve a person's problems related to f touch starvation. I realise that what I probably need now is a relief from my touch starvation and friends I can connect with and 'cry on their shoulders' whem im going through something. They can cry on my shoulders too. I will console them and hug them when they need me. Im tjinking about getting a pet or something soft I can cuddle like a BIG teddy bear .....

I will have to see what solutions I find 🤷🏿‍♂️

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 1 points 16 hours ago (2 children)

Thank you for your kind words but as I said before "some of the worst people in history have been able to find partners and keep those partners.* Heck, we read and watch about stories on true crime channels all the time where a persom who repeatedly punched and emotionally abused their partners was able to convince that abused party to keep om and keep om and keep on coming back to them.

And then you have people who wouldnt hurt a fly, take care of their body and their mind and put themselves oit there for others to date and they never met a single person , despite their hardest efforts. Dating is random

There are no soulmatess. There is no ethereal Space Gods perfectly glcrafting other humans for each of us obviously. Dating is very random. In the past dating was probably more random with the commonality of arranged marriages and impossibly difficult divorce laws that made loveless marriages waaay more common. (Well at least weve reduced those types of relationships . Phew! We need to keep on reducing such relationships since they hirt society.) As I said before datinfg is random.

Also about the defeatiam. Ive been rejected probably 200 times (I actually lost count after about 120 but Im guessing Ive almost reached 300 so far) It is actually normal for the human brain to accept a defeatist attitude to something that youve failed 200 times. Thats how the brain works, no? If a person has failed a test 200 times ....what do you think theyll be thinking the 201st time? ...

Sometimes there are dating rules that make no sense (like people who repeatedly choose to go back to partners that are abusive and even deadly.....) Sometims there are rules that make a lot of sense (Males should make an effort to ensure that the ladies that they ask out feel safe and can say no and that they can escape if those ladies feeo that the situation is too awkward for the ladies, seeing as how males are the taller and heavier of our species) Daring is veery random . Most of the rules of dating are sort of like quantum mechanics - there are many things we dont know.

If you want to keep on and keep on trying to complete this difficult test even though youve failed 3 million times ? Up to you! If one failure is enough? Up to you. If dating is just to nonsensical for you to ever get into? Up to you. We are all adults here . We shouod not judge or restrict a kind, peaceful person who doesnt want to date or does want to date. Regardless of whatever gender they are or whoever they want to date. Love is love at the end of the day

TLDR. Dating is random. If youre a lonely, kind person who takes care of yourself , your communites , and your mental health and your still lonely? Its not your fault. Sometimes it just is what it is🫂 Some awful people have had dozens of partners. Some kind people never met a single person who reciprocated their love. Soulmates dont really exist if you think carefully about. Love and peace y'all . Bye. ❤️‍🩹🫂

P.S. If anyone wants to read more about that TLDR I would recommend that 'The Nuance Pill' articles from substack

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 2 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

OP learned that day that you dedinitely should not be spying on a person's panties lol ewww wtf?!

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 1 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

and it is experienced more intensely than pleasure.

....Says who?

[–] UnequalExchange@lemmy.world 3 points 23 hours ago

The Indigenous nod in agreement

 

Basically I have some merino wool stuff to clean but most people who have read a little about merino wool knows that you cant use different enzymes on them and most detergents on the planet have enzymes.

So that basically made me go search around for detergents thst dont have enzymes and there's quite a few but there is two problems : Some of them are unusually expensive , like the eucalan brand scentless one is 4 litres for 90 dollars and soak's scentless brand's is 96 dollars for 2.25 litres . And then the second problem is that you have others like eco -max brand scentless, hypoallergenic detergent and other brands that have so few surfactants and such a tiny concentration of surfactants that the people who use them t say that it is practically water.

So now my questions are how can someone know if a detergent is practically water based on the surfactants in it and the concentration of surfactants? And what would be the cheapest brands of

  1. scentless non-wool wash detergent with surfacfanrs that arent BS

  2. and scentless wool wash detergent with surfactants that arent BS (Ive heard that baby shamppoo is an alternative but is it a long term alternative? It trully has nothing in it that can destroy certain fabrics?? Is it a cheaper alternative?)

If I have to make this myself cause itll be cheaper that way? I probably will. Or should I just use a trillion litres every time I use that eco-max brand stuff?

ALSO I dont buy anything from companies complicit in the Palestinian Genocide. So no tide brand scentless

 

Where can I go to learn about homeless shelters in ontario please?

Amd Im talking about homeless shelters located in ANY, YYES A.N.Y. part of ontario. It doesnnt matter if its cornwall, fort severn, windsor, niagara falls, thunder bay, lonndon, whatever.

Are they all full as Ive heard? Can I confirm this for myself? Is that why they always drop the call when you call 211?

How long does one get to stay there and how much does it cost to stay there per month?

Thank you.

 

Where can I go to learn about homeless shelters in ontario please?

Amd Im talking about homeless shelters located in ANY, YYES A.N.Y. part of ontario. It doesnnt matter if its cornwall, fort severn, windsor, niagara falls, thunder bay, lonndon, whatever.

Are they all full as Ive heard? Can I confirm this for myself? Is that why they always drop the call when you call 211?

How long does one get to stay there and how much does it cost to stay there per month?

Thank you.

 

Where can I go to learn about homeless shelters in ontario please?

Amd Im talking about homeless shelters located in ANY, YYES A.N.Y. part of ontario. It doesnnt matter if its cornwall, fort severn, windsor, niagara falls, thunder bay, lonndon, whatever.

Are they all full as Ive heard? Can I confirm this for myself? Is that why they always drop the call when you call 211?

How long does one get to stay there and how much does it cost to stay there per month?

Thank you.

 

Do it! Fucking prove me wrong!

It doesnt matter what you say or think about a person until you or someone else does that thing to them or someone associated to them.

 

If anyone has any advice for BIFL , wide toed winter boots that are also waterproof , available to be shipped to canada, dont use goretex, AND have good traction on ice or steel cleats? please let me know.

Edit : I forgot to add I dont buy from lem’s shoes. Ever again.I plan on walking like 10 or 20 KMs in -30 °C weather with these almost every day. Yes in the snow, mud, rain, or ice. Whatevver I encounter.

https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Foot-sole-area-measurement-The-surface-areas-of-9-different-individual-regions-were_fig3_325610182

My feet are extremely wide through it s entirety .

From the lat arch to med arch of my foot that is probably wider than the distance from the lat met to med met for my foot. So there is the possibility that barefoot boots might be a best option for me since they are probably the most malleable shoes in the world so they should be able to hug around my sole without squeezing too tight.

 

answers please.

Edit : So I probably should have been more specific . Im looking for a big cooking pot , not one of those factory mixing tanks lol. I guess something that is about the size of about 150 Litres

Someone here suggested I speak to a black smith about it an I honestly have no Idea how to even begin contacting blacksmiths in toronto. If you can let me know then please do. I do have a couple things Im willing to pay to have welded , this pot included. But my biggest questions to the blacksmith would be:

  1. 'How do I determine the 'quality' of the steel thst is being used? What the hell is 'steel quality' anyways? can it be quantified or is it qualitatively determined or both?

  2. I am looking for steel that could almost last me a lifetime so any ideas as to what I should evem begin to research about when it comes to steel like this? ?

  3. ' Im looking for steel that is resistant to water and hot water for the pot that I need welded and then I am looking for steel that is resitant to sweat and external forces (both horizontal and vertical) for this pull up station I need welded where can I research what types of steels I need for these two types of products?

 
  1. Why does lemmy not have a laundry dedicated forum? How have lemmy been a thing for this long with no laundry dedicated forum? lol.

  2. . I live in an apartment where there are public washing machines available but the filter for the washing machines are DEFINITRLY not regularly cleaned (most of my laundry smells like vomit right now T-T) so should I just clean it all on my own? in the wash bin? What tyoe of wash bin should I get ? What else should I consider?

  3. If I do get a washbin do you have any suggestions as to what washbin I should get or sny special considerations I should consider? I plan on getting a steel one. Also I live in canada

  4. I have a lot of merino wool stuff to clean so does anyone have any advice on surfactants that shouldnt be used on merino wool stuff other than enzymes and bleaching agents?

Thanks to anyone that helps.

Edit THIS is a similar model of machine than what we have here https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mWzJ1gw3-j8&pp=ygUobWF5dGFnIGNvbW1lcmNpYWwgd2FzaGVyIGZpbHRlciBsb2NhdGlvbg%3D%3D and I dont know how much trouble Ill get intk for takong off the back part and cleaning out the filter.

 
  1. Why does lemmy not have a laundry dedicated forum? How have lemmy been a thing for this long with no laundry dedicated forum?

  2. I live in an apartment where there are public washing machines available but the filter for the washing machines are DEFINITRLY not regularly cleaned (most of my laundry smells like vomit right now T-T) so should I just clean it all on my own? in the wash bin? What tyoe of wash bin should ? What else should I consider?

  3. If I do get a washbin do you have any suggestions as to what washbin I should get or sny special considerations I should consider? I plan on getting a steel one. Also I live in canada

  4. I have a lot of merino wool stuff to clean so does anyone have any advice on suirfactants that shouldnt be used on merino wool stuff other than enzymes and bleaching agents?

Thanks to anyone that helps.

Edit THIS is a similar model of machine than what we have here https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=mWzJ1gw3-j8&pp=ygUobWF5dGFnIGNvbW1lcmNpYWwgd2FzaGVyIGZpbHRlciBsb2NhdGlvbg%3D%3D and I dont know how much trouble Ill get intk for takong off the back part and cleaning out the filter.

 

I mean those people who you look at them and they have the body and responsibilities of a 43 year old but then you hear them talk about other people or other ethnicities or other situations that people are experiencing elsewhere and the person had might as well be a remorseless 3 year old that was raised wrongly.... The thing that floors me is hen you meet a very old person, Im talking in their 60s or older, and they start spewing some of the most idiotic, narcisisstic garbage a person could ever talk of... 'How have you spent all these years learning nothing?!'

Is it really THAT hard to break free of the chains of your terrible childhood and develop just a little empathy , understanding and humanity towards others? I DEFINITELY didnt have the best childhood seeing as how I was bullied and ostracized for decades , even by my parents lol, but I came to realize that 'Hurt people will hurt people.' so why am I going to go out of my way to be selfish and make more people who are hurt? But on the other hand I see , and Im sure most of you also have seen, that humans are not a very logicsl species sometimes. We have the potential to be more logical than Einstein but it doesnt always play out like that... We as a species do A LOOOT of things based on anti-logic, emotions, our pains, our traumas, or our cognitive distortions and this in turn sometimes creates more 'hurt people' ...

Im not saying that humans have gotten worse over time cause anybody here can open up wikipedia and read about all the awful things we used to do to each other , if anything we have gotten better just a little bit. But why are there STILL in the year of 2026 people who choose to just not 'grow up' ?

TL;DR too many adults , and even seniors , Ive emcountered have illogical and sometimes psychopathic opinions . Why do so many people choose to not grow up and be more understanding?

What is your take on something like this?

Edit: from what Im seeing there are couple takes I ld agree with 5o explain this phenomena

  1. there could be neurological disorders like CTE , schizoaffective disorders, etc... that causes an older individual to do and say unusual things ....and hurtful things. Cures for these are barely existent so if someone suffers from them? Theyre just out of luck and hvlave to hope they dont do anything too hurtful

  2. The overal lack of mmental health care , mental health breaks, mental health interventions , and psychiatric medication access globally. Some people are lucky and are born in a region that has such things easily. ..others sadly arent...

  3. Some people get stuck in a cycle of self destructive cognitive distortions that impairs their ability to grow. there is the possibility that it is a reactive defensive mechanism that one has in response to our very flawed societies that humans have evolved from thousands of years that although it was probably w useful reaction thousands of years ago the current world is very much differenr than it was thousands or years ago . So these cognitive distortions become detrimental more than they are beneficial. Very few people are born innately malicious and/or with an antisocial personality disorder , but a person can clearly become both of these things with enough prompting. And not all humans are the same we all have different genetics ans different stories , all because one oerson reacts in a healthy and self-loving manner to malicious stimulation that doesnt mean all other peoole will do the same. This also has the chance to lead to echo chambering or self imoosed isolation and both if these makes recovery and interventions from external sources more difficult. So basicallt both nurture and nature can play a role in the self-destructive practices abd thought process a person conducts in response to the sad and lonely society of today.

  4. Humans havent really evolved to or adapted well to modern society. Like empathy of other groups or for other groups of people on the other side of the planet may be difficult for some people to understand and learn. Humans have created and stuck tio 'outgroups' and 'ingroups' for millenia and very rarely have humans acknowledge the truth that 'We are ALL part of. the ingroup since we are ALL humans' . I dont think this completely excuses a person to treat other groups of people in awful ways though.

  5. Soceties that have encouraged ignorance all in the name of listening only to a few politicians and very rich people will clearly create more and more ignorant peoples. And this clearly occurs tor the detriment of those people who cjoose to be ignorant. Being very rich or a politician doesnt mean that you kniw everything that each human needs

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submitted 1 month ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by UnequalExchange@lemmy.world to c/fitness@lemmy.world
 

I need a pull up station, NOT a pull up bar, because I plan on doing bodyweight dead lifts in the middle of summer AND winter and jungle gyms just dont cut it in the fall and winter obviously. Im only 5’9 and Im in toronto if that helps.

Any ideas please? Could I just go to like a landfill and pick up some discarded metal bars and like get them welded together? Or do I just buy one of those big coat racks and remove the wheels on the legs and weld on a steel platform for each of the legs??

Thanks to anyone who answers.

Edit: oh sorry forgot to add that I live in an apartment so I cant screew in anything cause its illegal . also those pull up bars that use thresholds to stay put are also not enough for me because I plan on doing some absolutely looney stuff on that pull up station lol.

and by Bodyweight Deadlifts I mean this: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/SjqhGRQcMJE

I also plan on doing this: https://m.youtube.com/shorts/EVCeuFlBRHc though I have no idea what the exercise is called but FlexyDave showed it to me and I fell inlove with it. And Ill even be swinging while Im upside down like that. AND Ill be doing abdominal curls or 'upside down sit-ups' (if thats what theyre called) as Im upside down like that.

And Muscle Ups.

Edit 2 : I think Ive found what I was looking for: https://www.baseblocks.com/products/the-big-bar-pro . Very simplistic . and it appears tk be able to handle a lot of horizontal and vertical load. Also Im surprised that 50 pounds of steel can carry about 700 pounds of load! ... Huh?!...How?! Edit 3: The reviews on the website say that the station kind of slips and slides if you try to put any horizontal forces UNLESS you hold it down with sand bags. But Im gonna put this thing in my room so sandbags are kind of out of the question.... So my search is still on.

Edit 4: Ive decided that above the bar exercises probably wouldnt be the best exercises to do in an apartment bedroom as I dont know how high or low the bar will be when I purchase the product in relation to the height of the apartment’s ceilings-to-floor measurements. Ill just save those for the jungle gyms when summer and late spring come around.

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