It's the times you don't pull out that get ya.
avguser
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Still my favorite reaction to this song. https://youtu.be/D_o5LiToNp8
It sounds fun ... Until it happens to you!
I'm this person and I often get misunderstood. I can be the center of a room and I'm loud not quiet. People attribute this with being an extrovert. I am absolutely not, I am an introvert. It's draining for me to be front and center but I don't mind doing it. I recharge by being alone. I have to explain this to folks often.
In my mind, it's a best of both worlds being able to do both. But the introvert/extrovert is about how you gain energy, not whether you are shy or center of attention.
I read through the Penpal creepypastas. Gave off some really unsettling vibes that will stick with me.
They changed it a few years back to default to the Lifecycle fund which matches your retirement date.
Two strategies I employ that work for me:
- Each morning I commit to myself that I will not drink today. Committing for a month or a year or the rest of my life is a really big commitment. But committing for a day is doable. Using this strategy, I've chained together over 1000 sober days in a row and that number just snuck up on me because I simply track today.
- When I feel the urge to drink I "play the tape forward". There's a lot you can read on this subject, but for me it reminds me of why I chose to stop in the first place. That drinking doesn't solve any of my problems and if anything, it makes them more difficult for me to deal with.
IWNDWYT
It's been a long time but I remember it being something like 18-24 months. Not a short ordeal.
Microtonal guitars exist. Jacob Collier's content might be up your alley. He explores all the interesting crevices of sound and music
Shuffling around my peppers to make room for the tomatoes I just planted up.
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Good luck, I mean it. Caring and seeking to understand is a core first step. I'm not sure I have any sage advise but one thing that stood out to me is needing to quit "forever". That's a really big commitment. A lot of us are able to chain together single days that add up to bigger numbers. Forever is a long time, but a day is doable. Finding positive connections is a big deal and will help them on their journey. It's tough to find good ones, but they exist.