karthnemesis

i went to a parade and it knocked me out for a week :(

(did not help i had random little kids bonking into my camping fabric chair the entire time on a touchy-no-good day)

I usually don't have to do this at all, but this is my system for the rare hiccups, in order.

• ProtonDB
• Are they using an incompatible anticheat?
• Different proton (usually one a few versions behind esp if it's an old game, maybe GE, more than that isn't useful)
• Verify installed files through steam
• Make sure my mod load order isn't crap (if applicable)

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• Check if the game launcher actually points to the correctly named file + rename / change the exe if not (usually this gives an error box saying the file is not present)
• Uninstall + reinstall (esp if previously worked)
• Broad internet search for game + linux distro
• Launch options I've used for other games (PROTON_USE_WINED3D11=1 often is my first tried)

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• Protontricks, tell it to use a different version of windows
• Uninstall DLC, launch vanilla once, reinstall DLC (yes this has worked more than once for various weird issues, no i don't know why)
• Backup personal data files, + delete all installed files / workshop files + verify installed files again
• Wait for someone smarter than me to figure it out / a system update that addresses it / new proton and check in a few months

Agree, and a slight tangent, but I feel like it's a closely related set of poor behaviours.

It's exhausting to go into spaces that are supposed to be centered around support and uplifting the community, and be faced with people tearing down other people "because they have [mental illness I diagnosed myself]."

Why speculate? An asshole is an asshole. Deal with what is actually there, don't demonize some random community and pretend what that person does is somehow related to it.

People repeatedly pretending some random disorder is "the reason" that person was mean to them, perpetuates stigma that leads to straight up just hurting people... people who are just struggling to survive with a nontypical brainset in a world that hates divergence, people who did nothing wrong to anyone.

Being told you invited yourself, and somehow before the event had a premonition that you would need evidence that you were invited, and sent a text to yourself beforehand, is fucking wild.

Like that's almost a compliment at that point, if you spitefully take it at face value. They're telling you you have magic powers!

Oh, gosh. Was just talking about him to one of my friends. If you want reccs by him, I like "Dance or Die," and "Freak Night."

A van slammed a door into him and THEN he got run over, just a failure on multiple levels, jesus.

I feel both simultaneously very often. Always overwhelmed, but incredibly painfully restless with constantly doing self-care catch-up, and being unable to go anywhere or do things I like doing. Maddening.

Been struggling with feeling like there is no zone to be okay in, lately.

I've found with my ADHD friends, as well as my (autistic, bipolar, ?maybe adhd?) self, that "doing something for others" is somehow easier than doing it just for myself. That might put into perspective why it felt easier to make meals before a divorce. Feel like there's a way to hack that quirk, solo, but haven't figured it out exactly yet.

Coming a bit from the opposite angle-- I haven't eaten well for my entire life, and I'm trying to learn how to create a diet on my own, from scratch.

I rely on a lot of soup. Just cut veggies, freeze them. Dump them all in broth when I have energy. Spices are "whatever feels right." Cutting and cooking does not need to be on the same day. Very simple, gets me veggies, reliable. It's something to build from. Does not require much planning.

Neutrally: Do you feel like your comment is a mature, adult response?

I'm a bit curious-- your hobby seems to be attempting to antagonize others on the internet. Do you have anyone in your life that feels like a support system? Are they someone that does not hurt you?

If your only support system consists of people who talk like you do, to you-- please try to get out of your current situation. It's a painful place to be. Life can be better.

Thank you for removing the ragebait post; it makes me optimistic this sub could remain an actually useful support space to people with autism.

I was gonna say "didn't they create their own instance?"
But if you go there from the sidebar, that appears to be gone, soooo... :s

If you're looking for feedback and thoughts about how one way one could approach this; these are mine.

If we were not that close, I would distance quite heavily from the relationship, if I kept him in my life at all. I personally would not do any further steps unless Liam were incredibly dear to me. Death and violence is a huge part of my life and it is not avoidable. It sounds like it is this way for you, too.

But if he was that important to me, and approaching this as if I were in your position:

I would be certain I would have to have a talk with Liam-- uncertain boundaries are a hard limit of mine.

I would mention that I need to have a conversation regarding clarity in his boundary towards violence, and ask him for a good time to meet up. This lets him adequately prepare for a discussion, which is important when the discussion will likely contain triggers.

I would ask if he'd like to know some of the questions beforehand to prepare his answers. I would keep the outline as snappy as possible without omitting the most important context.

Even if he didn't want the outline, I would keep it for myself for the discussion, so I could stay on task properly and not draw out a hard conversation.

I would talk to my therapist before reaching out, to feel more solid in my plan.

Other thoughts:

It's not a "wrong" thing to be traumatized by violence, but it does sound like his boundary might make your relationship incompatible. If he is triggered by what is a huge part of your life, there's only so much that can be done with that.

I do not think that your own feelings are invalid, and your concerns regarding this make a lot of sense to me. If it turns out that it would make your relationship extremely shallow, it's up to you to decide if it's worth keeping.

You can sort of block publishers/devs, if they have their own "steam page." If you click on the publisher/dev in the listings underneath review scores, if it takes you to an actual dedicated page you can click the gear icon on the right and click "ignore this creator."

This does not completely block them but it has them show up in less places (or are greyed out in some places.) Basically they can pop kinda randomly up in sales when steam forgets to add that, or greyed out in the tabs section on the front page (new and trending, top sellers, popular upcoming tabs)

It's not the cure-all "erase EA" button I'm sure we'd all prefer, but it does help a little.