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My partner has a similar deal going on. She also needs specialty shoes because of a condition. She would get sneakers, since they were in style. My advice comes from this experience. She cannot wear anything that isn't flat to the ground due to the aforementioned foot condition and her styles available to her are limited.
If you want to minimize your foot, choose darker colors. It doesn't have to be black, you could go for brown, gray, or blue. A dark shoe with some light accents would also be fine. Choose styles that aren't just one color/flat texture. It needs to be broken up with some sort of detail. You don't need to worry about this with sneakers, since they always seem to have something going on, even ones that are all one color.
Avoid this, which is pretty same-y in the front
This has a little more going on and doesn't look like one big, unbroken expanse
The other thing: look at the rest of your outfit.
I think skinny jeans or regular leggings (where you're not wearing them under something like a skirt) would highlight your feet since these will just visually get smaller from your rear to your feet, until your feet. It would definitely cause a lot of contrast. Skirts should be fine, or any cut of jeans not skinny.
But of course, these are just suggestions. Only take the guidelines you like, and rock whatever you want. Fuck the haters.
Thanks that's really helpful. I favour boot cut jeans usually, so it's pretty easy to hide most of the time. But I also live in the arctic, so I need something that goes a fair way up the leg in the winter. So I can't rely on the cut of the trousers.