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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.

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The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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Reflecting on my transition hiatus (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago by possumparty@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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An analogy: knowing that I'm transgender and unable to transition due to my career is like water dripping into a cup, there's a few drops in there already, enough to cover the bottom, enough to go "well, there's definitely something in there" but sometimes random waves of dysphoria come and drip more into the cup. The tap is usually dripping, sometimes it doesn't drio, but usually it does. Eventually, that cup fills all the way up, and it starts overflowing, that's when it becomes too much to ignore, and it's sitting right there in front of you demanding you to do something. Sometimes you can dump some water out, sometimes you can nearly empty the cup, but there's always some drops left in it.

I think I need to get back in touch with my doctors, but the US is a hostile place and I'm stuck in a progressive industry surrounded by right wing chuds. My company has a strong DEI policy, but it's still a tricky position to be in knowing that even in the early days I'll still have to change in a locker room with co-workers and breast growth/shaven legs are hard to hide. I'm considering just going with compression tanktop and a compression sports bra with cooling base layer pants in the summer. Idk, being a thirty year old technician on an offshore rig while dealing with all of this is intimidating.

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[–] deviantfemboi@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago

Hey OP! I transitioned later in life, early 30s and people only really noticed after about 1 year. I never changed my pronouns at work and have never mentioned it or confirmed/denied anything. You don't owe people any explanation. You do owe yourself this, if it's what you really want. Do not let your "career" stop you from being who you want to be for years, that's just my conclusion. I'm gonna die soon, and like waiting for some nebulous time in the future when my transition would be perfect would be playing into their game. Screw them, and their norms. We are gonna show people that you can do this, be a kind soul, and still crush work. I just back off on the social things like I still go by masc. pronouns at work and dress masc, even with tits lol. I just wear sports bras and use the men's room still.

Best of luck! My advice: don't wait