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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I admire you conviction, but I don't think you have to forbid yourself having pets. Some pets required less efforts than others. If you have enough resources (time, money, space) to care for a pet, than I would say go try it out.
I would say that dogs are high effort pets that you should avoid, because they require lots of your time. In some ways they are like little kids and the sense that they require constant supervision.
And then there are cats. They are much more independent animals than dogs. They only require a place to eat, another place to shit, and that is basically it.
If there is an animal shelter near you then I would suggest talking to the people there. In my experience the people who work there are loving and caring, and they will tell you what is best both for the animal, and the potential owner.
I grew up with doggos (they're VERY clingy and require a lot of attention and time), but i have a cat now. I prefer cats. I struggle to look after myself (i always make sure my cat is looked after though), so having an animal that is content to just lounge around with me is perfect.
I didn't mention, but I also grew up with lots of pets. My home life wasn't always the best, and I saw a lot of animal neglect and had some experiences as a kid that make me feel like not owning pets. I do love them, but I know the grief and suffering would be too much for me.
Also on a practical level, pets are expensive and restrict where you can live. They are a very long term commitment. I also prefer to be vegan and it's pretty hard to be a vegan pet owner.
Anyway, yes - my darling pets are houseplants, for reasons that are hopefully clear now. 😊