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Opportunity? Losing my baggage? Admittedly not in a hurry until my kids graduate but it would probably be wise to start laying the groundwork.
Currently my hobbies and activities tend to be home oriented so I really don’t meet anyone. I’ve always been introverted and most of my adult friends were couple friends or her friends. The few times I’ve looked into dating apps I’m immediately horrified by the personal information they collect
My ex has been amicable and reasonable and we’ve done a decent job of co-parenting but it’s tough to get past dedicating your life to someone for so many years. I wouldn’t take her back since things got toxic but I’m having a hard time leaving completely. At the same time I’d feel like I need to protect myself from anyone new, both in not opening myself to attack and not risking what little I have left for supporting my kids and retirement
I’m a real catch, right?
For someone you will be. When I went through my breakup I thought I'd just try to find a couple casual guys but not relationship with anyone - 4 kids, a job, digging out financially but not quickly, and I'd never considered myself 'sexy' though I've always had a high sex drive, because I was skinny without much in the way of T&A - like even when I was nursing kids my boobs didn't get big at all! And my ex (and I thought all guys) was into curvy plush built women, liked me despite my build not because of it.
Anyway - met my husband in the course of trying to find my casual guys and he had kids, more than I did actually because he'd gotten custody of all the kids, including his stepkids when he split from his ex. Well, who's not afraid of a lady with 4 kids? A guy who raised 5 as a single dad, that's who. Finally down to just 2 at home, one finishing college the other just finished high school.
Believe me, there are women out there who will consider you a perfect fit.
Oh and I also found out there are plenty of guys who like skinny, though I now have more weight still look more athletic than curvy.