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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

For someone you will be. When I went through my breakup I thought I'd just try to find a couple casual guys but not relationship with anyone - 4 kids, a job, digging out financially but not quickly, and I'd never considered myself 'sexy' though I've always had a high sex drive, because I was skinny without much in the way of T&A - like even when I was nursing kids my boobs didn't get big at all! And my ex (and I thought all guys) was into curvy plush built women, liked me despite my build not because of it.

Anyway - met my husband in the course of trying to find my casual guys and he had kids, more than I did actually because he'd gotten custody of all the kids, including his stepkids when he split from his ex. Well, who's not afraid of a lady with 4 kids? A guy who raised 5 as a single dad, that's who. Finally down to just 2 at home, one finishing college the other just finished high school.

Believe me, there are women out there who will consider you a perfect fit.

Oh and I also found out there are plenty of guys who like skinny, though I now have more weight still look more athletic than curvy.