Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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I had one of those friends too. I had no idea, until I came out, and then they started asking a lot of vague questions, and even talked about having experiences similar to when I talked about my experience with dysphoria. But then one day, they blocked me everywhere and cut me off.
I'm guessing because they decided that they can't come out in their life, and didn't want me being a reminder to them... But I don't know if that was why, because they just dropped me without any communication.
I'm pretty sure they transitioned around 18 years ago. I just remember once when we were both extremely drunk (I'm talking 3 bottles of cheap Italian red each drunk) me asking them what was wrong because they looked troubled and them blurting out either "I want to be a fucking woman" or "I'm a fucking woman" stumbling off to bed and passing out.
I've since tried to look them up by both their given name and the feminine version of that name, but both are extremely common in Britain and their surname is even more common (especially where they're from where it is possibly the most common surname). So adding their home town to the surch terms doesn't help.
I just feel like if they knew we'd be able to reconnect, but I guess I'll never know. It just hurts that someone could think of me as someone who wasn't safe to come out to.