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Dude, I wasn't saying you aren't supportive enough. Just, that you are taking up too much space! This day is (was) literally meant to be a celebration of trans people and their struggles and you try to make it about yourself. So yes, it would be exactly the right occasion to for one day validate us. And if you don't want to, then just shut up.
I take back my previous comment about you trying to be an ally. This attitude is hostile to trans people. Wake the fuck up.
Siiiiiiiiiiiigh
Why are the cis like this
By this logic, anyone who isn't Black shouldn't talk for all of Black History Month. It's an absurd expectation.
That's a false equivalent, Black History Month is a full month, TDoV is one day.
No one is suggesting a total ban on speech. We’re pointing out the difference between participating in a conversation and directing it. The goal of a day like TDoV is for trans people to be the subject of the conversation, rather than the audience for someone else’s memories.
You're still saying your supporters have no right to a voice unless they're exactly like you. That is a very slippery slope, since, ostensibly, the point of a day of awareness is to promote conversation. That's exactly the sort of argument people make to oppose trans rights in the first place.
I didn't say that.
Then what are you saying? Because from my perspective, you're trying to proclaim activism without having taken Activism 098.
First day on beehaw as a trans woman. Sure do feel welcome here, thank you Powderhorn.
Your anecdotes are cute but I think you're kinda missing the point where it's very explicitly about trans voices.
With friends like you who needs enemies?
Read what I said again, slower, and ask yourself why asking for a space for our voices to be heard feels like an attack to you.
🥺 okay then buddy, grow up?
No my thesis is you're playing the victim card and it's fucking pathetic.
How am I doing so? Please, let me know so that I can avoid doing so in the future. "Fucking pathetic" only indicates that you did not like what I said, not any alternative worldview other than "you're cis, and therefore the enemy."
I think there’s a misunderstanding about the intent here. Asking for space on TDoV isn’t meant as an attack, but as a boundary. Support shouldn't be conditional on a community being perfectly polite while they're asking to be heard. Telling a marginalized group they aren't doing themselves any favors by setting boundaries on their own visibility day feels more like a lecture than allyship.
Wtf? Are you trying to berate us how to fight for our rights now?