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[–] JackOfAllTraits@lemmy.world 42 points 2 years ago (5 children)

Not demanding, asking. Declining a call is always an option.

[–] magikmw@lemm.ee 17 points 2 years ago

I like to compare calling to someone knocking on your door incessantly for several seconds.

You can ignore it or decline to answer. It's still annoying af.

[–] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 years ago (3 children)

So why call in the first place? And how will I ever know what the call was about? Unless you text, of course, so why not just do that in the first place?

You may not intent for it to be a demand, but unless you have your phone on silent, it will keep ringing and making noise until you do something about it. It demands an action, and tries to get your attention as much as possible.

Which is why it's designated to emergencies. This makes calling more useful as well, because now you know calls are more important, and can actually treat them with more urgency. Otherwise you're just gonna end up ignoring what may be an actual emergency, because you treat every phone call the same.

[–] Spendrill@lemm.ee 7 points 2 years ago (4 children)

Gen X here, only had a smartphone 5 years as before I was avoiding it. Typing is painful. Just answer the phone and we'll get that query sorted in less time than I would take to type the initial question. Don't be a big baby about it.

[–] SnowdenHeroOfOurTime@unilem.org 9 points 2 years ago

Millennial here and totally agree. There are times I don't feel like talking and I simply don't answer. How hard is it to answer normally though? If it's not during work hours... If I'm busy I just call back. No idea why this is a weird awkward thing for so many

[–] xePBMg9@lemmynsfw.com 2 points 2 years ago (2 children)

If it was not important enough to type it out, you can tell me next time we meet. I'll stop answering your call after the second nonsense call you make.

[–] SnowdenHeroOfOurTime@unilem.org 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Such a sense of entitlement. You're not royalty.

[–] Rodeo@lemmy.ca 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Nor are you entitled to anyone else's time or attention.

[–] SnowdenHeroOfOurTime@unilem.org 3 points 2 years ago

I never said if someone doesn't answer they're an asshole. Unlike what you're saying about incoming phone calls.

[–] Spendrill@lemm.ee -5 points 2 years ago

Your loss, I was phoning you to offer you something that would make your life better or more entertaining.

[–] Ataraxia@lemm.ee -1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I hate typing too but having to answer a phone call triggers PTSD. NOPE.

[–] Spendrill@lemm.ee 8 points 2 years ago

If it's genuine PTSD then you have my every sympathy and I hope that you can get some peace from it.

Nobody I'm calling have anything worse than lazyitis.

[–] SRo@lemmy.sdf.org 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You have a psychological problem. You in therapy I hope?

[–] SkyeStarfall@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Can you elaborate on why you think this is a psychological problem?

[–] SRo@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 2 years ago

I could but I honestly don't want to, it would take time and be a long post. If you really are in therapy you can talk with your therapist about the issue. But so I won't let you go empty handed the simplest point: it's a phone, it's there to primarily make calls. Yes, in the last decade it finally got access to the internet; something I wished for for at least 20 years, but nevertheless, it's a phone. It exists to make phone calls. If that's really a big problem for you it's not the phones problem, it's not the caller's problem, it's your problem.

[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 1 points 2 years ago

lol exactly why my phone is on silent

[–] aidan@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

When you decline a call you don't know what it's about. The only thing I can think of when I family member calls and I decline a call is that they needed desperate help/were in an emergency and I just hung up on them.

[–] echodot@feddit.uk -4 points 2 years ago (3 children)

Except the problem is I don't know what the call is about so you're asking me to make a except/declined decision with no information.

If you send a text message I have the information.

[–] JackOfAllTraits@lemmy.world 10 points 2 years ago (3 children)

You don't know what text is about without opening it eather. Precognition is not a common trait.

[–] PaulAtreides@lemmings.world 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] JackOfAllTraits@lemmy.world 2 points 2 years ago

Best kind of disagreement!

[–] _Lory98_@discuss.tchncs.de -1 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Notifications have a preview of the message tho.

[–] SnowdenHeroOfOurTime@unilem.org 8 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I have received many scary cryptic texts which the phone calls version would've involved, at worst, 5 seconds of confusion. With the cryptic texts I often have to wait hours to understand. The problem with texting is that people use it even when it's wildly inappropriate to and they don't seem to understand that.

[–] JackOfAllTraits@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)
[–] SnowdenHeroOfOurTime@unilem.org 3 points 2 years ago

I feel like it's sort of simple minded to make rules for oneself like people in this thread seem to have done. Context is key.

Am I excited to answer a call from my landlord? Absolutely not, but I'd rather do that and talk for 5 minutes than text for a couple hours about when the repairman is coming or whatever. Calls can be much more convenient than these people with their rules seem to know...

[–] JackOfAllTraits@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

But then you are already reading it, and getting partial informarion at that. Worst of both worlds.

[–] Stumblinbear@pawb.social -1 points 2 years ago

And yet I can look at it on my own time when I'm not busy with other things

[–] iegod@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

The horror. Just let it ring.

[–] SnowdenHeroOfOurTime@unilem.org -2 points 2 years ago

Your time really is not that valuable. No one's is.