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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (11 children)

No Unjust Depths spoilers just gay mushy garbage ❤

Ulyana sighed a little inside, but she should have expected this anyway.

It wasn't like she had put a ring on her finger or anything.

She had not even confessed just how deep her feelings for this furry- eared, bright-eyed, thin-tailed Shimii had become. How much any word of support from her meant to Ulyana. Aaliyah, more than she knew, turned immediately into Ulyana's guiding light whenever she spoke. With this woman at her side, the Captain felt like she could go anywhere and conquer any obstacle.

This was not something that Ulyana could say out loud.

Chin up, Captain Ulyana!! Let the far-flung goal of Aaliyah ear-scritches be your motivating force!! You can save this fumble!!! Uncritical support!!!!

Tbh the idea that Ulyana has like no experience actually being in a deep relationship is just, kel-bliss let your "irrational girlish longing" flow, captain. Ugh I adore her, she can do it.

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[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (12 children)

Discussion of slur reclaimation, I try to avoid reproducing slurs but I gotta here and there so CW slurs, 4ch discussion

Something I had kind of memoryholed until just recently is that the kids, broadly speaking I guess under-20s, are trying to take back the t-slur! I have seen it in a Black Dresses server (surely the most apt place for this to happen) and also on tumblr generally. I'm pretty sure people do it irl too.

This isn't new for the trans community, ofc; if you read the ultraclassic Gender Outlaw(Bornstein), or indeed Trans Liberation(Feinberg), you can catch people identifying by "he-she", "f*ggot", "transvestite" and many other quaint slurs, and generally I think I support the motion to reclaim the t-slur. It seems like /pol/ and the gang have had to move onto the etymologically poor, far less effective "tr**n" as a substitute, slur downgrade, which is what we wanna see.

I have permanent brainrot though, like some of those /lgbt/ brainworms might never come out. I've tried using it for myself and such once or twice, but it's just burned into my brain as a 4chan thing, and all I can remember is getting bullied by tripcodes and called AGP and stuff on /mtfg/. Classic.

It feels kind of lame, because I like "dyke" and "queer" for myself, and while I wouldn't use "f*ggot" for myself, it doesn't touch any nerves. But that stupid blue board ruined my mind, and I'll forever be unable to get with it, I guess.

Uh thoughts if you have em? Idk how old or young the average age skews here =) Curious for other people's takes on this specific instance of slur reclaimation.

[–] Yor@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

queer slursThere was a time earlier in my transition where I had trouble with this. I think gaining confidence in myself and spending more time around queer people really solidified the thought that these words are ours. They my be weaponized by others, but taking them as our own is pretty based

I'm comfortable with every variant of r/tgcj t slur reclamation. If someone says they aren't, I'd just respect that what they're comfortable with.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago

More of sameMaybe I need to get out more lol, I love talking to fellow queer people online but irl I barely go outside madeline-sadeline It is something I'd like to work at, get a bit more comfy with, cause I do love the whole ethos of reclaiming slurs, making words ours. Very based!

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[–] JohannaChittarra@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

All of the yeses and maybes on gender diverse survey is really uplifting. I love reading about everyone’s personal experiences with their gender. hexbear-trans leslie-shining

[–] Babs@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This is the most pro-trans website out there that isn't explicitly a trans community.

But also, big respect to the cis people in that thread who are like "yeah I've thought a lot about my gender and I'm definitely cis."

Even our cissies are more cis than the average person.

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[–] Babs@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago

Saw a new doctor today for my hrt - I have plenty of meds but really just want my blood tests covered by insurance. It's always been really nerve-wracking talking about DIY with doctors ever since I had some bad experiences with my first few, but this doctor was just respectfully curious, wanted to know where it came from. Seems the mood towards DIY has changed since the 2000s. Or maybe it's just because I've been on it so long. Either way, It's nice.

[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago

I still live with my family who are in that gray area of "we aren't going to actively be transphobic but we also aren't going to make any efforts to try to gender you correctly or show support to you" and my mom expressed some disapproval with trans/queer stuff in the past and I worry that if I start taking T it would be a step too far in her eyes. But maybe I should just bite the bullet and start looking for informed consent HRT near me because I don't know how much longer I can take this and also the changes might not be the most noticeable to start with.

[–] milistanaccount09@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

HRT question: I understand that smokers aren't supposed to take estradiol as pills due to the risk of blood clots. Is this true for all types of smoking or only nicotine? Wondering if it's safe for me to smoke weed.

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[–] vertexarray@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago

Really wanna hear the Ballroom Blitz in the club again

[–] queermunist@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 year ago

I was getting a factory warranty for my car registered and I had to give my legal name w/ driver's license --I haven't gotten that shit changed yet -- but my voice training must have paid off because person on the phone just carried on calling me ma'am for the rest of the call. ☺️

[–] Ho_Chi_Chungus@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

is there like a single reddit post or brief guide out there on how to do trans femme shit? i don't want to bumble around asking the same question that's been asked 100,000 times before like "where the fuck do i get estrogen?" and "there an informed consent clinic nearby, do i just call them ask for an appointment or what?"

i honestly just prefer reading stuff rather than watching youtube tutorials but really i just want to know how to ask that informed consent clinic for E. god i'm fucking sick of this cisgender shit.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I think you do just call them to set up an appointment. Ring them and be like "Hi, I am looking to talk to a physician about getting prescribed hormone replacement therapy, because I want this summer to be a Hot Girl Summer for me"! Very exciting.

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[–] Ho_Chi_Chungus@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago (4 children)

i feel like i'm going to get banned from the trans mega if i post too much so i only post like 15% of the stuff that i want to. still fun though :)

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I feel this way too (I am a loud poster) but when are you not supposed to POST HARD on bear website?? The people here are very nice.

meow-hug

[–] SnowySkyes@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Post however you wish imo. Activity is always welcome in my eyes. Plus it’s always fun to see a babby trans work through their feelings. It’s stuff that almost all of us went through at some point.

[–] Ho_Chi_Chungus@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (5 children)

alright but i'm screenshotting this comment and pulling it up again when next week's trans megathread has 500 comments and half of them are mine

[–] SnowySkyes@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago

I’ve been had! kitty-cri-screm

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago

I woke up at 4 AM from a nightmare that a shadowy organization had broken into my house and confiscated all my estrogen vials and it took me several minutes to realize it was just a dream cri

[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Got an massive wave of dysphoria at work today because of the boymoding. Started to question why I fucking do this to myself. I'm lucky enough to be in a place where it wouldn't cause problems for me if people knew that I'm trans, the only reason I boymode is because it would be a little bit scary not to. It's really not worth feeling like shit just to avoid that. I'm done with this and I'm just gonna show up fem next week.

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

You can do it, it's gonna be rad meow-hug

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