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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

appointment is for 11 on Saturday but you got work at 2

okay whatever, i can grab the stuff after the appointment

appointment goes until like 12:30

okay whatever, i can grab the stuff tomorrow

fucking pharmacy is closed on Sunday

kiryu-slam monke-rage

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[–] DerEwigeAtheist@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I really like painting my nails, as i recently discovered, but buying new colours is so expensive, and if one makes a mistake, it is a kinda expensive mistake, also I don't need a full bottle, just to try things. I guess the ideal solution would be founding a nailpolish club, or something, where people could pool ressources. That is however way above my current comfort level, also I don't have the social connections to start one really.

In slightly related news, I have been unable to go to a meeting of local lgbtq+ ppl, due to their online presence being closed off. Their website hasn't been update since before I moved here. Their alternative is an instagramm page, I don't have an insta account, and I also don't want one to just look at a jpeg, but I might just have to do it anyway. They change location every meeting, which seems like good opsec in a rightwing place, but is deeply frustrating to me, in the moment.

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

one of the best parts about being trans now is that i actually like myself enough to say nice things about myself and genuinely believe them. I was completely and utterly incapable of doing that when I was "cis". That dumb Family Guy ramble was absolute top tier posting, and it was really funny. I'm not funny, I'm a fucking riot, and I actually believe myself when I say that now

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[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Hanging out in the mega with all of you has made me woefully aware of how bad I am at femme stuff trans-sad I would love to give advice on femme hairstyles and fashion and you would think I'd have some knowledge about it all considering I spent 16 years of my life nominally as a girl, but I keep drawing blanks. (It's not even that I don't enjoy feminine fashion, I actually like wearing dresses and skirts, but I was only able to start caring about it once I discovered I wasn't a girl myself. And also I have no idea how to style long hair.)

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[–] Kiagz@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago

Wow, I had just gotten out of the shower, my hair looked really nice and I actually felt happy about my appearance for once. The euphoria was so strong it made me cry tears of joy, which I don't think has ever happened to me before. Yeah, I might be struggling with every other aspect of my life, but at least I get to be a cute trans girl! transshork-happy

[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)

i knew going through HRT would be basically a second puberty but honestly I've been so moody/hormonal in the last month I think just telling myself I'm trans has fucked with my hormones subtly. I haven't felt like this since I was like 17

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (2 children)
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[–] Bat@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

Are 139 pg/mL estradiol 15 ng/dL testosterone (total) good levels? I don't trust my endo and I'm getting myself all in a panic thinking that maybe my levels have just been off which is why things have been the way they've been for the past two years

just checked old paperwork and my e level was in the 200s 6 months prior wtfff how'd it go down after getting my dose upped?

[–] Babs@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Transfeminine hormone therapy aims to achieve estradiol and testosterone levels within the normal female range. Commonly recommended ranges for transfeminine people in the literature are 100 to 200 pg/mL (367–734 pmol/L) for estradiol levels and less than 50 ng/dL (1.7 nmol/L) for testosterone levels (Table). However, higher estradiol levels of more than 200 pg/mL (734 pmol/L) can be useful in transfeminine hormone therapy to help suppress testosterone levels.

https://transfemscience.org/articles/transfem-intro/

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[–] SexUnderSocialism@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

AH FUCK I JUST GOT A PHONE CALL FROM PLANNED PARENTHOOD LIKE AN HOUR AGO AND I MISSED IT

[–] Yor@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Thongs

less affirmation
more discomfort by midday
why did I buy this?

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[–] Jenniferrr@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

So like idk this is a vent post and I have a lot of fear wrapped up in this but recently my mental health has been quite bad. I am starting to think its my estrogen but really it started after a mushroom trip that left me with a lot of obsessive and intrusive thoughts and anxieties (about 2 months ago). Those specific anxieties have mostly dissipated but I'm still left with this feeling of... general anxiety in my chest. Like, it feels hard to breathe kind of? Everything feels overwhelming. And I've noticed that this gets worse when I inject estrogen, and honestly this scares the fuck out of me.

Before this trip honestly I felt for the most part better than I ever have in my entire life. I was so sure that I was a trans woman. I was on the right path. But now it's like, the estrogen seems to be making me feel like shit? Idk what to do. I don't wanna get off estrogen, I don't want to go back to being a man that's for sure. But like I can't even think straight. I feel miserable and I'm scared I was never meant to be a woman or I made all this up in my head and it'll be like this forever. It's incredibly scary.

Honestly idk what to do. I'm 5 Months in. Maybe my levels are too high? Idk. Maybe I need to get my levels checked

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[–] Leon_Frotsky@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (5 children)

posting to friends like im in transgendercirclejerk but unironically rn. making a long list of which historical periods are fembrained or masc brained rn, was having trouble with the islamic caliphate, but decided that the Ummayads were gender neutral brained, and all the other iterations of the Caliphates were masc brained but Al Andalus and the Ayyubid Sultanate were fembrained

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[–] Tommasi@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Weird thing about presenting as a woman outside is that there's now a sub-species of guy who will literally make zero effort to not crash into you if you're walking in opposite directions on a sidewalk.

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[–] Kolibri@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I was checking out my emails and I badly misread one that, said like check out your transition photos and I was very ohnoes since I don't take pictures of myself. Instead I badly misread it, since the email said check out this transition portfolios. for transitions glasses, but with like the transition glasses left out out of the email title

[–] SnowySkyes@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (4 children)

Been a rough couple days. Really hoping things calm down a bit so I can be around a bit more.

CW: Bottom surgery talk, cycle talk, and talk of emotionsBeen having a pretty severe issue with my GI tract this week. Not gonna get into it, but I’m starting to become concerned. I’m hoping it’s not a severe complication.

On top of those physical problems, it’s been a rough week emotionally. Bring cooped up and unable to do things for myself is starting to affect me. I just wanna make some breakfast for myself. Gimme like 20 minutes to make a nice bowl of zosui damn it.

Also I slammed directly into my cycle tonight, so that’s going to make matters even worse. It seems it is going to heavily affect my emotions this time around as my brain is attempting to make me cry heavily every time I think of anything that triggers nostalgia or childhood memories. Which is more or less where my only remaining dysphoria lies. Things I can’t fix. Well, hopefully I escape the cramps unlike how I didn’t during the days immediately post-op. Feeling strong cramps right after you’ve had major surgery is actually a nightmare.

Coupled with some external problems and I’m just exhausted emotionally. I didn’t think post-op would be so taxing in the mind, but just the body. Can’t wait to be healed.

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[–] Bat@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (15 children)

If you had the opportunity to go perma stealth, never get misgendered again, never have anyone know, would you?

[–] ashinadash@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

Can I take this opportunity and then loudly, angrily yell about being trans anyway? Like wear a jacket that's just the trans flag colours? Cause I'd do that. A magic no-misgender button sounds great but I'm not gonna shut up and be invisible.

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[–] milistanaccount09@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I wouldn't, I can't give up being trans. one on hand it would feel like running away, and on the other hand my closest friends are all trans. there are definetly times where I want to be accepted by society at large but i wouldn't take that if it would mean giving up transness

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[–] Moss@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'd like to come out but I really don't want it to be a big deal. I know most people in my life would be very supportive, but I also know that a lot of them (the straight ones) will make it a big thing. I came out as pan to a few people and got hugs and encouragement and "I'm so proud of you." That's very nice and they acted with good intentions and I'm sure a lot of people would like that. But the best reaction, and the one I'm looking for, is just a thumbs up and an "ok". Like I dont want it to matter to anyone that I'm pansexual and agender. But I gotta tell people at some point.

Also I don't dislike the people who do a big celebration, I know they're happy for me. But I just want to be more low-key in general

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago (6 children)

i have no real way of saying it but i only ever felt like i was male ironically. this feels weird for a trans girl to say, but like, the most relatable fictional character i felt growing up was Ron Swanson from Parks and Rec. Like, the masculinity was just a dumb act.

"Look at me. I have big muscles and big mustache. I trim this big fucking mustache every morning! I took this job because I hate big government and so I can ensure nothing ever gets done. I hate government and love America and the Constitution and the flag! I don't trust banks so I store my money by burying gold in the fucking woods. The same woods where I have my log cabin where I go hunting in because I love hunting and eating lots of meat! I was a central character in a show that ran for 7 seasons and I only smiled like 3 times. I'm the manliest man on earth and no one else comes close, and as my reward I get to wear a visibly miserable stoic scowl in literally every scene for the rest of my life

at some point writing that i think i forgot that i was pretending to be ron swanson. honestly it's been like 8 years since i've seen that show anyway what the fuck do i remember of it

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[–] EpicKebabEater@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Cw for mentions of suicidality and childhood trauma.

Had a conversation with my mother yesterday where it seemed like she finally came to accept me but talking to her today, nothing has changed since my childhood where I was constantly of ending it. I can only get HRT because she does not know and if I keep living with her, which seems to be the case, I can only keep her from running her mouth by threatening to leave and basically babysitting her. She doesn't understand she did anything wrong and will never understand.

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[–] khizuo@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (3 children)

I’m so tired all the time and I know part of it is the ADHD and the OCD but also I wonder how much of it is the background dysphoria. It feels like I’m treading water through life. HRT save me…

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[–] DerEwigeAtheist@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago

I have my first meeting at a second hormone doctor this friday, this time one with recommendations of the local trans community, hopefully it goes better than last time. Also I should probably tell my father what's going on, sometimes soon. I am horrible at lying, it basically only works for me by keeping people from asking the right questions, and he is surely going to ask the right questions soon anyway.

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