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Sounds like a red flag with a white circle and a black symbol within. But also romantic. They're not mutually exclusive.

As some say, romance is death...

RED FLAG.

No sane person does things like that.

A red flag.

Sharing dangerous ideas with somebody to show that you think they are safe is an honest signal of trust, but only if the dangerous ideas are genuine.

Someone who attempts to buy trust disingenuously is not to be trusted.

Someone who thinks in terms of kompromat and manipulation is dangerous to be around.

This is kinda unhinged in my opinion.
But then again, I grew up before social media, maybe this is the ultimate proof of love now? I don't know.

Anyway, putting herself completely at your mercy is not a good start into a healthy, mutually respectful relationship.

First, 100% a red flag. Even if they wanted to give some sort of "I trust you with my life" sort of video, there's a bunch of better ways to do it. Going for a racist rant makes me think that they're a racist.

Secondly, this is deeply submissive - they're giving you the power to ruin their life. If you want to do that sort of stuff as a couple you should really talk about it first and be on board with receiving that sort of power and responsibility. Entirely possible+reasonable for the receiver to find this shitty because they don't want to make a choice like this, especially if these are truly held beliefs.

The healthy response to this is to send them to a therapist. And definitely dump them if they're actually racist.

I have a fleeting suspicion that this girl now thinks, because of her own action, she can do this to you now as well. OP, be careful what you share with her because ruining someones life is an option in her book...

She is treating the relationship and trust as transactional. No bueno.

Red flag. Bad opsec. I wouldn't trust someone who trusts me.

The question that leaps to my mind is why would that idea have occurred to her in the first place?

Sounds like she is making a "joke" in poor taste while also fishing for your take on the things she is joking about.

or perhaps it's something sexual. Power imbalance Idk.

ITT: Everyone taking a shitpost from reddit posted to Funny@sh.itjust.works seriously

Also: both romantic and a red flag

Bright, shining, blinking, scrolling, red LED-illuminated flags m'dude.

She needs some therapy on boundaries and impulse control by the sound of it. Then again I'm going off a 5 second read and not a lifetime of experience so I am conceding that I do not know anything for certain.

I would say 'hey, out of respect for you I am deleting this video, thanks for the gift, please get me a gift card to XYZ next time'. But yeah, first time? Give her the pass. If it happens again, GTFO.

Sounds like a scene from Get Out lol.

She probably just has a blackmail fetish.

Relationships are no jokes. Neither is racism. Depending on how I feel about her, the video might leak. I would certainly not stay.

Big red flag to me.

Edit: I have broadened my mind. I had not considdered receiving such a video from somebody whom of I am certain has no racist mind at all.

In that case I would reciprocate by deleting the footage.

Maybe she's secretly hoping he'll use it to sexually blackmail her. That is a kink some people have.

Chinese military parade.

Personally, I’d delete it in case relationship took a turn for the worse. I wouldn’t want to be tempted to ruin someone’s life out of jealousy or a broken heart.

I see both sides. As off-putting as it is, the intent of showing complete trust and vulnerability should not be overlooked. Maybe just ask them to dial it back to a less offensive method of demonstration.

Cut off all communication with this girl, now!

It's a twisted romantic gesture. I like it. Being partners in crime strengthens the bond between two people.

Absolutely red flag.