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[–] jwsmrz@hexbear.net 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

high waisted stuff is your friend, a lot of more fem stuff is meant to fit around the belly button or just below. If you're used to wearing dude clothes you're probably used to fitting stuff near your hip bones.

An easy thing to try to start building outfits is "big shirt small pants" or "big pants small shirt" to see what proportions of things look good on you. High waisted baggyish stuff will go a long way to making your proportions look like you have hips.

Take your measurements for shopping online using string then measuring it

Prepare for disappointment; womens clothing is a lot harder to size. Just because something doesn't flatter your body doesn't mean you're failing, it's hard for every fem person. A combination of HRT changing your figure / finding out what works for you will expand your wardrobe options. Pay attention to what works and persevere

It's a process.

Learn how to take care of your hair properly. Google around for hair types, figure out what yours is, then google further to find recommendations on washing / conditioning routines / products. You probably need to shampoo than you have been, and condition more than you have been.

Don't panic about browsing the women's section. No one's watching, no one cares, the staff aren't paid enough to give a fuck. It's relatively common for even cis straight men to shop partially out of the women's section. Lots of cishet men fashion influencers will recommend this especially since more cropped shirts are in style right now. If you're too anxious to use the changeroom, just buy a bunch of shit and return what you dislike, no one cares.

Good luck comrade

[–] tetrabrick@hexbear.net 1 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Walk throught the street watching what people wear and see if you like it for yourself.

Use pinterest for inspiration or follow the algorithm in tiktok.

Also, dont forget that is free to experiment with clothing at a clothing store, go with someone you feel safe.

[–] GaveUp@hexbear.net 1 points 2 years ago

Instagram too

Check out skate parks, music shows, museums, any artsy event

[–] onlinely@lemm.ee 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

I mean, I recommend stitch fix to anyone who isn’t happy with how they dress. https://www.stitchfix.com/women

Idk if it’s good for everyone but hey here it is

[–] SpookyGenderCommunist@hexbear.net 0 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Aaaaand it requires my email address πŸ˜‘

A friend forwarded me a test like this, about make-up, which did the same thing. I wish I could figure this shit out without every resource trying to acquire every detail of my digital life, to beam advertising at me 24/7

[–] StickyPickle@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 years ago

You could use a mail masking forward service like https://simplelogin.io/ or https://ironvest.com/.

They give you a custom email address that forwards to your main email. It lets you stop forwarding the address at any time. Helps cut down on spam and lets me know when a service is breached since it's always a unique email address. There's a few others out there as well that do basically the same thing. Some may offer additional goodies like ome time credit cards or forwarding phone numbers.