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[–] peregrin5@lemm.ee 181 points 3 months ago (4 children)

The sizes of apartments on TV were also a blatant lie.

[–] egrets@lemmy.world 79 points 3 months ago (1 children)

On the plus side, my apartment has four walls and they meet the ceiling.

[–] myster0n@feddit.nl 16 points 3 months ago

What about the floor? Do the walls reach the floor? Do you even have a floor?

[–] bahbah23@lemmy.world 41 points 3 months ago (2 children)

The size of Monica's apartment was mentioned in the show. It was her grandma's apartment and under rent control; the apartment building didn't know that it wasn't the Grandma anymore. With that, it wasn't unreasonable for her to be able to afford it during the 90s

[–] troybot@midwest.social 93 points 3 months ago

Wow even in a 90's TV show they had to commit fraud to have affordable housing

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 37 points 3 months ago (2 children)

man it sounds like rent control might be kinda nice? maybe we shou- BANG BANG BANG BANG oh how unfortunate, this commenter seems to have suddenly decided to kill themselves..

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[–] kersploosh@sh.itjust.works 107 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Also that a group of underemployed 20-somethings can afford huge, well-furnished apartments in Manhattan.

[–] malle_yeno@pawb.social 64 points 3 months ago (3 children)

I believe in Friends, it's justified as Monika pretending that her grandmother is living there so she still gets her rent controlled tenancy agreement. I thought I remembered that there was an episode where she and the custodian were having a fight so he threatened to reveal the grandma isn't alive anymore so that Monika would have renegotiate the agreement (and it was resolved so he didn't do that.)

As for Joey and Chandler's apartment, no clue how that one happened lol

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 61 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

You’re recalling correctly. Joey has to agree to be the building manager’s dance partner in order to keep him from snitching. My wife watches Friends on repeat so it’s burned into my memory from proximity.

As for Joey and Chandler, Chandler has a well paying job that nobody can quite explain as a running gag. He’s not a “transpondster”, at a minimum.

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[–] kersploosh@sh.itjust.works 39 points 3 months ago (1 children)

IIRC Chandler was the only one with a substantial job. He worked in IT and then as a data scientist. There was a running joke that he couldn't explain his job in a way that his dense friends could understand.

[–] RidcullyTheBrown@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

The show is set in the 90s and IT wasn't something mainstream back then. The plot is not that they're too dense to understand, it's that it is too obscure to care

[–] kameecoding@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Well theirs is a rather small apartment, but I also think there as in implication that one of them has been there for quite a few years.

And you are right it's both mentioned and an explicit plot point that Rachel and Monica are in a rent controlled apartment after Monicas Nana, not sure what OC is on about

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[–] EndofLife@feddit.org 10 points 3 months ago (5 children)

I always notice all the useless junk people own in sitcoms. Like look at all that shit in the background of the screenshot.

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 13 points 3 months ago

You DON'T own useless junk? Only thing that's stopping me somewhat is that I don't really have anywhere to put it.

[–] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 7 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I mean, it looks mostly like kitchen implements, cutlery, cooking stuff. Not really useless junk. I have 8 cupboards of similar stuff in my kitchen.

[–] Dultas@lemmy.world 10 points 3 months ago

And Monica was a chef.

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[–] user224@lemmy.sdf.org 93 points 3 months ago (2 children)

You guys have breakfast?

I'll rather get my full 4 hours of sleep instead.

[–] Gloomy@mander.xyz 35 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

4 full hours of sleep and you only skip one meal?! Look at this guy living the life over there.

[–] RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 14 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

You guys are sleeping every day?

[–] Hikermick@lemmy.world 81 points 3 months ago (2 children)

How about the notion that one can afford to live in NYC while working at a coffee shop with only one roommate

[–] Genius@lemmy.zip 70 points 3 months ago (3 children)

The apartment was rent controlled, and legally leased by Monica's dead grandmother. Monica was committing fraud.

[–] BedSharkPal@lemmy.ca 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Hey - I don't like the tone I used to read that comment young man. Fuck them landlords.

[–] WoodScientist@sh.itjust.works 11 points 3 months ago

Fuck it. I'm getting radicalized. It should only be legal to own one property at a time!

[–] Aggravationstation@feddit.uk 10 points 3 months ago (1 children)

But Joey and Chandler could afford to live across the hall from them which was never explained.

[–] alekwithak@lemmy.world 23 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (4 children)

sigh

Chandler had a good job, working in data science, which was still mysterious and paid well in the 90s. And Joey likely got unemployment between acting jobs.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 5 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (2 children)

If they lived across the hall then why is breakfast together implausible? 😭 What is happening??

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 8 points 3 months ago

Because most people are barely getting dressed and out the door in time.

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[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Admirable hustle

[–] jaggedrobotpubes@lemmy.world 21 points 3 months ago (1 children)

That's not an absurdity, and if it looks like one then it's the world that's wrong.

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 10 points 3 months ago

That's part of the point.

[–] samus12345@lemm.ee 77 points 3 months ago (2 children)

They lived across the hall from each other. It actually made sense in this case.

[–] MeatPilot@lemmy.world 35 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (4 children)

Good point. But, I don't even have breakfast with people in my own house. Just don't have time and different schedules.

Would have to be "perfectly" aligned with one another to pull this off in different apartments.

[–] RidcullyTheBrown@lemmy.world 6 points 3 months ago

These were supposed to be young people with very laid back schedules. That's what the vibe of the show was about. I'm pretty sure there isn't a shortage of groups of young adults with moderately wealthy parents living in this sort of bohemian setting now and there certainly wasn't one in the 90s.

But yeah, it isn't universal and it can come across badly in sine cases

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[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] Whelks_chance@lemmy.world 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Only across the street, they can see into the window

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[–] socsa@piefed.social 41 points 3 months ago

We did this in college when we all lived in the same apartment complex. It's was a whole thing where whoever had the latest class would cook eggs every Monday and Thursday morning, and it lasted an entire year before it fell apart due to various commitment issues.

[–] Diddlydee@feddit.uk 31 points 3 months ago (4 children)

I never have breakfast. The Kelloggs company lied when they said it's the most important meal of the day.

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[–] NigelFrobisher@aussie.zone 29 points 3 months ago

An apartment the size of a barn in the East Village at that.

[–] dylanmorgan@slrpnk.net 25 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It’s really hard to shoot six people eating in their cars during their commute to work.

[–] Ghost33313@beehaw.org 9 points 3 months ago

Eating cereal on their way to work like god intended.

[–] Midnitte@beehaw.org 17 points 3 months ago

Posting when you're supposed to be working?

[–] scruffy@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 3 months ago (3 children)

You can make it happen, with planning and willing friends!

[–] Psaldorn@lemmy.world 18 points 3 months ago

An impossible list of requirements

[–] P1k1e@lemmy.world 9 points 3 months ago
[–] jabathekek@sopuli.xyz 6 points 3 months ago

*Chugs down nutrient liquid

Ain't no one got time for that.

[–] latenightnoir@lemmy.world 15 points 3 months ago

We used to do this during Uni while living in the dorm, because we were penniless more frequently than not and had figured out that we could pool our leftovers together for a feast. And not just for breakfast, we'd also pool together for lunch and dinner - I still have a soft spot for spaghetti with no sauce and hot dogs. It was a tight-knit group and we usually had a lot of mornings together, as this was our main drinking group as well. We'd just crash wherever we landed first and that was that.

Coffee was usually the main issue, though, but thank fuck for those single-cup solubles!

[–] Maggoty@lemmy.world 15 points 3 months ago

It's totally possible, as long as everyone get up super fucking early.

[–] John@discuss.tchncs.de 14 points 3 months ago

My social batteries would be drained before leaving the house :D

[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

People with apartments (& work hours) like that just might, idk what rich folk do.

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