I figured out recently that you can set individual contacts to ignore silent mode, so they always ring. This is extreme power, so be careful who you choose.
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Only my partner has this honor. mostly so she can help me find my phone lol (and emergencies obviously, but we are rarely apart outside of work)
Exactly the same here, lol.
if android, just google "where is my phone" and it will tell you where your phone is and give a button to force it to ring even if silent.
Back in the early days of modern smartphones it was "find my Android". Regardless, either search will still get you where you need to be today. (That is unless of course you've degoogled.)
That's not autism. That's getting spam calls ten to twenty times a day.
That's not special.
If the screen lights up, that's still sometimes enough to find it.
Or the buzzing of the vibration. At least, that's what I listen for in this scenario. The only time I put the sound on for my phone is when I know there's a call coming that I have to listen for.
Sometimes that's even vibrations are disabled though. Not usually the case, but it's not really silent if it's on vibrate imo anyways.
If I'm waiting for a phone call, I often just turn music on and use that being interrupted to know I'm getting a call.
I bought an Apple Watch for exercise and the best feature I didn’t know existed is a little button that I can press to audibly ping my phone, even when it’s on silent.
…I get more use out of that than the exercise features nowadays.
I do that, but then it freaks my cats out.
Admittedly if they weren't sleeping on it, it'd be less of an issue...
Oh my gawd legitimately last night this happened to my partner and myself.
Our cat was NOT happy hahaha
Imagine if you didn't have the watch, all those calories burned while searching for your phone...
I feel you, I have a smart watch too. I can see how few steps I've taken, how low my blood oxygen level is, and best of all, how few hours I've slept.
i am happy to only have autism. if you get a chance to pick, choose autism
I'm not entirely convinced they are different things
Silence, plus DnD, plus everything muted. If my phone emits a sound without my request I have an immediate response to fight the phone back.
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This is the main reason I have a smart watch.
Same, but my watch has died too, so I have a backup watch.
Yeah, I'm neither autistic nor do I have ADHD, but I've definitely misplaced my phone. Since grabbing a smart watch for the purpose of fitness, I've discovered the benefit of "find my phone," saving me the step of having to go to my computer and type "where my phone" into the goog.
I don't have autism and I still do that.
Trifecta actually. Adhd, autism and I am also trans :3
Me too!
My type of person! Same!
You went for the treble!
Ouch. Way too close to home.
upvote
My fiance loses stuff all the time so she got a Tile (a locator gadget) for her keys and wallet. It has a phone mode too in the app, and it goes off when activated, even if it's on silent. The trick is you need another phone with the app too, of course, but that's easy enough for us to deal with.
Not officially, but I’m diagnosed ADHD and for now, self-diagnosed autistic
I managed to finally save up enough money to put myself on a waitlist to get called to setup an appointment to start my autism assessment in several months from now, so…yay?
Absolutely yay!
You can trigger the ‘find phone’ function on your Apple Watch. The phone will make a sound and your watch shows a live view of how far away the phone is and a general direction.
Ah yes, for all of the Lemmy FOSS enthusiasts with their Apple products /s :)
Lemmy isn’t just for FOSS enthousiasts.
Personally I run Linux/FreeBSD on my servers but use macOS / iOS on my laptop/tablet/phone, best of both worlds.
Hi, that's me.
I love foss, but there's only so much bad UI/UX I can tolerate. Also for my phone I want it to just kinda... phone. (and have a good camera)
There are ways to do this with android as well
Yeah my Garmin can do this on my Android.
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I'm an autistic sex addict. Does that count?
Ha ha I only ever put it on silent when I'm playing music on a Bluetooth speaker so that incoming alerts don't disrupt the music.
I literally never remember to turn it off silent.
If you're on android, try the do not disturb function maybe? it has a timer option so it's automatically back to normal after i.e. an hour or two.
Yeah on iOS I have to put it on focus or else notification sounds keep playing.
I plan to set my spouse's number to always audibly ring. Someday it will happen and then I'll never have to search again!
Someday because the spouse is missing or because you can't pull yourself together to set it up?
Hahaha, in this context I can say it's thankfully my inability to do it
Off topic: Google's "find my phone" bypasses silent mode.
Also, you can access the website from any device with a web browser. The same goes for Apple.
It also shows its location on a map if you have tracking on, which was useful the time it slipped under my truck's floor mat.
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This is why Find My has been a godsend for me. It'll ring no matter how many layers of Do Not Disturb you put your phone under. It'll still ring (unless the battery has run out, of course).
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