Some repeat the same argument again and again in different words and get mad if getting interrupted. Its exhausting.
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How do you know my wife?
Rhetorical question, right?
We all do?
I met her at Joanne's single mingle...
The way to defeat this is to say you think you understand, then repeat back their argument in your own words. You don’t have to agree, but people are often satisfied if they know they are at least understood.
You don't need ADHD for that.
it's completely normal, i do it too
:>
Oh boy do I have news for you.

I often find that, when talking to my project manager, I'm wrong when I assume I know where the sentence will end. Even if just a little bit (and even if sometimes it's because she's wrong in what she's saying).
How can I get better at shutting up and listening to people? It's absolutely fucking mortifying and makes me feel childish when I notice I keep interrupting people and getting it wrong.
Zen meditation, patience, age...
Thank you, I appreciate the response 🙏
Mindfulness... Just try to remember not to do it in the moment. It's hard at first, but it gets easier the more you do it.
Why are you in such a rush in the first place? Maybe try treating these human interactions as a break from your usual pace. Just enjoy their company. People will notice if you are relaxed and listening carefully.
Cos they're work, and I'd like to not have to talk to my colleagues as I don't particularly like them. I do make an effort to enjoy my time with my friends, and I am better at not interrupting them.
Work communication sucks because you have the competing tensions of "you have to listen to this person because it's your job to and it would look bad on you if you don't" and "it feels like this person is doing everything in their power to make listening to them a grueling experience." Then there's also the tension of "The time im spending here is time I could be doing my actual job." I run into this a lot at work
I dont have perfect solutions for that. People have mentioned mindfulness, and yeah thats probably the healthiest way of coping. But for work specifically, ive found writing while people talk helps, since people see that and act differently. I also treat it as a bit of a memory game where i try to recall what they said earlier in the convo to keep myself interested.
edits: how can you tell I turned my auto correct off recently?
Worse: they have a PowerPoint slide behind them showing 99% of the stuff they're saying and you're done reading the slide when their audio track is only 20% in
I was "sick" during our last all hands meeting for this reason. My ADHD was acting up.
Me, waiting for my ADHD partner to circle back to the original topic before they got distracted by tangents.
You have no idea how hard it is to listen to an autistic person who tries to explain something in extreme detail... Lol.
Its not like the plank, its like doing 20 burpies...
But its alright. I need to practice my patience.
And then you try to finish my sentence and get it wrong. So I have to awkwardly pause, and say "No..." and then continue to explain the important part of the safety presentation that tells you how not to burn your eyeballs out with the laser.
when will we get a skip dialogue option in real life
You have to build it within yourself.
i already skip my own dialogue, I need to skip other people's dialogue
Same place for both dude.
It's a picture of me dealing with ADHD customers who ask me a question, then never stop talking to allow me to answer it. Often a question is followed by 30 minutes of them telling me unrelated personal stories. Before eventually asking the original question again, but followed by another 5-10 questions in rapid succession without giving me a chance to respond.
That's even a thing without adhd.
we THINK we understand and stop listening. It isn't true. It took me having kids to understand just WHY I don't form lasting relationships with anyone.
And we get it wrong about 97% of the time. Come on, guys. You need to stop pretending being annoying is a good thing.
It's difficult sometimes because I get distracted by things on their face and end up forgetting what they just said. >.>
I have ADHD and I don't have this
ADHD is a syndrom, a spectrum.
Even worse is when you don't care about what ever it was they started talking about, makes it impossible to pay attention until the end.
I don't get it. Do you mere mortals consider this trivial pose difficult?
What?
I asked if you soft ones consider such a simple positioning of the body to be "Hell on earth".
Or is it meant to portray the emotion of Anguish?
I'm just fighting the overwhelming urge to do this.

On the other side of this; I often feel like people think they already know what's being said and then interrupt or at least show that they aren't listening anymore but they actually don't know. So all that ends up happening is that they misunderstand and now the whole conversation has gotten bad. It's very common for people to say stuff to give context, and that might sound like that's all they're saying but they are just making sure the listener is aware of that context. And when people explain things over and over with different words it just means they're doing their best to describe something in a specific way and translating that into a conversation is not easy. It's either because they themselves aren't satisfied with how they said it and are actually showing you respect by really trying to find the right words. Or it's because they see that your understanding of what they said isn't what they really meant.
Don't ever think you know exactly what someone is saying until they show you they are satisfied with both their own explanation and your replies that show you understand. Show some respect to people by giving them the extra few seconds or minutes to get to where they need, especially with friends and family.
A reoccurring thing throughout my whole life with friends and acquaintances that have ADHD is just this, they think they know the whole story and that there's nothing more to it and that every second after that is wasted time etc. but SO many times that is a huge mistake. And it can easily fuck up relationships, it's not a good thing.
And just to be clear: I have ADHD, though mine works pretty differently than how it does for the vast majority of people. In no way saying better or worse, those words don't exist in this topic for me, just differently. And every single person is different from the next, both including and excluding any kind of "disorder" (not a fan ot the word). Just saying that I see similarities with the vast majority of people that have a diagnosis (or not but are clearly on the spectrum) and have only ever met two people who have the same "wavelength" as me in this.
is it that necessary to add adhd in front of every occurrence you have. if it is this relatable to the majority of users it obviously isn't a symptom of a condition only a minority have.
No no no you forget if they are impatient then it’s because of their ADHD and that means apparently it’s just oh too hard to relate to or empathize with other people…
Conversely, if they’re confused or behind it’s because of their ADHD and apparently it’s just oh too hard to understand why they feel no one can relate or empathize with them…
Apparently its helpless and there is nothing else to possibly consider… also we all need to hear about it non-stop.
It’s the nauseating equivalent of the joke “some people be like this… but other people be like that… amiright?” Next up “Non-Adhd women are shopping!!!! Lord knows those Non-adhd folks be shopping…!”

Do autistic people really believe this?
I generally like to assume that even autistic people have enough self awareness and humility to understand that they don't know everything.
This thread is full of comments that suggest people don't actually believe it. Multiple people note that if they actually try to "tune out" they'll have no idea what the sentence was about when the start paying attention again. That's direct evidence that the completed sentence was not correctly predicted.
I would challenge anyone who believes this to test it for themselves. Try to predict the actual string of words from the first few words of the other person and see of often you're correct. There's no need to tell me the result, just check to see for yourself if you still believe it after the experiment.
If you want to be more rigorous; watch some videos of people speaking candidly, pause the video at random intervals and see if you can predict the next few words.
This is a well known issue for people with ADHD. You comprehend what is being said from context, not predicting the exact words the other person will say. There is a struggle with keeping one's self from talking over the other person with a response to what they are saying as that is rude. But one method of stopping ADHD behaviors is to tune everything out for a short moment which often leads to forgetting what you were even talking about in the first place. Another symptom of ADHD is retention of short term memory.
Lots of studies about all three of these things in ADHD individuals.
Take autism out of it for a moment and just consider the abstracted communication stream.
Person A has an idea that they want to communicate to Person B. They create a symbol string (ie words) of length N that they believe are isomorphic to that idea.
Person B believes that they have they have captured the entire isomorphism after <N symbols have been received. They start to send their own symbol string in response.
Person A receives this symbol string and decides that it cannot be produced by a process that is isomorphic to their own idea so they say something along the lines of, "No. Let me finish."
Based on available information, who is more likely to be correct in their assessment?
Do you need some more hay for your strawman?