- That they give a shit about other people, and contribute in some way to their community/society.
- Capacity for/evidence of personal growth. This one's not always easy to see, but it's amazing when you do.
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... according to Wikipedia, body symmetry
Other qualities tend to rely on frequency of interaction and are not instant
This is like Nazi shit with "inherent attractiveness theories" or whatever bs imperialism
A good wink. A guy can be medium attractive or not my type, but if they make a little joke and then give me individually a subtle wink, I'm smitten.
Not talking about a compliment followed by a wink. A joke, and then they let me in on it with them with a wink.
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I confuse "attractive" and "naked" on a regular basis. I frequently have to remind myself to consider if I am seeing an attractive person, or just a person who currently is not wearing many clothes.
I, uh... think most people are pretty unattractive when they're naked.
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Not easily predictable without being completely random.
A really nice voice.
Being able to sing well.
Instantly hot? Sexuality. Dressing in clothing that shows off their body, the way they smile, being flirty, a sparkle in their eye, etc.
Being hot is just about attraction to me. It tells me they can be fun. Now, you can tank that hotness in an instant by being rude to a waiter, being shallow, unable to hold a conversation, etc. In my experience hot people tend to have weaker personalities because they don't have to work on them as much. Hot is often not worth it, but it can't be... hot.
A nice, plump dumper.
Aside from all the things that are instant turn-offs...
Being hopeful.
Also seem to get drawn to BPD
When someone laughs at my jokes they instantly become more attractive.
It's not the only thing needed to make someone hot - I don't think I know of one thing that would do the trick regardless of anything else... but it's a big leap towards it for anyone, because it combines them laughing and having fun (which is attractive) with making me feel appreciated and included and good about myself (which opens me up socially to feel attraction).
On the flip side, someone who doesn't laugh at my jokes will become irrevocably unattractive regardless of anything else.
For me, I’m good as long as they “get” the joke. If they think I’m abysmally unfunny, especially if they audibly groan, that’s just as good
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Integrity
Being equitable and fighting for other peoples rights as well as there own, to the best of that persons ability. And the ability to know what consent is and actually use it as best as they can to there ability.
They are charismatic.
The combination of a high EQ and IQ.
happiness
That is different for each person
Glasses