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Ye Power Trippin' Bastards

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Today, i couldnt upvote a post from anarchymemes@anarchist.nexus so i decided to check it out on my pc. i noticed that i was banned from the com even though i havent posted anything on the com nor the instance. i guess the reason for the ban is that i posted a meme to different comm a while ago. The meme is homophobic but i didnt know it when i was posting it. After finding out it was homophonic, i added a disclaimer to my post.

i dont think i deserved the ban, and i want to hear your thoughts.

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[–] sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Wait what.

I'm queer... ... this counts as homophobic?

Like... yeah I guess you could interperet it that way, as if a candid photo of two men in bed (yes I know its not real) is just, de facto embarassing, which makes it homophobic...

But its also just a silly pun, on Bill Clinton's name.

I guess you could... say its technically body shaming or objectifies men as well, by setting up the implied juxtaposition of 'Big Beautiful Bill' to Trump's tiny ... hands.

But like... the joke does not require a homophobic interpretation to work as a joke. There are a number of other ways in which it is a joke.

Thus, its not inherently a homophobic joke.


Like, if I say that the people who did think this joke are homophobic, well they're just butthurt... is that also homophobic?

(Lemme tell ya', I've been butthurt before... but not from a joke!)


The meta joke is that this would presumably trigger extremely insecure, performative hetero male magas (and I guess hetero female magas?)... but... thats mostly just by way of implying that Trump could have done some gay stuff with Bill.

Which... in my mind, only reads as offensive... if you, the viewer, are homophobic.

So... its just trolling those people, because other people generally are considerably less likely innately disgusted by the simple idea of a gay relationship.

But also: Magas hate Bill Clinton, thanks to decades of dittohead conditioning from Rush Limbaugh, so more than it just being 'gay', its... well, sleeping with the enemy.

So it trolls magas in that way as well. Its not just that its 'gay sex bad', its the particular two participants given the uh, context of their political existences.

Otherwise, its just funny, mostly just due to innate absurdity of the idea that a former and future President would have had a gay sexual encounter of at least some kind.

(Its like, a fan fiction level plot, but apparently, not entirely divorced from reality.)


This joke works in so many different ways other than 'the joke is that gay relationships are bad and gross'.

If the only way to read it as a joke was the homophobia angle, then yes it'd be homophobic.

But uh... yeah, I see many ways in which this is funny... the homophobia angle for this one didn't even occur to me, and I'm a person who has been bullied quite a lot for my sexuality, I've heard a lot of the jokes.

[–] Dupelet@piefed.social 10 points 1 day ago

That's... A really gray area to be declaring homophobia and a lifetime ban, imo. One of those instances where talking it out and education would probably have been the better response, but it's not way over the line either.

[–] naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 day ago

Ban is excessive and probably you should have just had a chance to learn how it's not very funny to be like "Haha X is gay, hilarious"

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[–] Wren@lemmy.today 9 points 1 day ago

Looks like you learned not to joke about straight people being gay like it's something to make fun of. Probaby should have just deleted. Still, PTB — a forever ban is a bit much, especially when you tried to use it as a teaching moment.

And yes, part of the joke is a play on Trump's Big Beautiful Bill. Part of the joke is also about being gay.

[–] RobotToaster@mander.xyz 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Calling that homophobic is such a stretch it should be a yoga pose.

[–] diffaldo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago

It is not blatantly homophobic but I find the meme distasteful.

[–] Chozo@fedia.io 16 points 1 day ago

PTB. It's not even homophobic. In no way does the meme imply anything negative about homosexuality to begin with; it's a play on words with a twist ending.

[–] remon@ani.social 2 points 1 day ago

Mh, this is a hard one. I'm not sure what is stupider ... the ban or your disclaimer.

[–] punkisundead@slrpnk.net 9 points 1 day ago

Sometimes actions have consequences. And getting banned in one of dozens of anarchist communities on the Fediverse is really not a big consequence.

Small tip: If you truly believe that what you did was homophobic, dont put "homophobia" in quotes. This makes it seem like you are not actually using your own words and are actually not meaning it.

[–] frongt@lemmy.zip 11 points 1 day ago

PTB. The joke is a "secret lover", nothing about sex or gender.

[–] irelephant@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 day ago

I think the meme has homophobic undertones, but it wasn't posted with the intent to be homophobic.

[–] Forester@pawb.social 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Admins seem pretty gay. Post seems slightly gay. Source am 50%gay.

[–] HuntressHimbo@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 day ago

PTB if this is indeed the only homophobic thing you posted. IMO the disclaimer pretty much covers it, and a permaban isn't warranted if that is truly all you did

[–] rustyfish@piefed.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Did you contact the mods and told them your viewpoint?

[–] diffaldo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

One of the mods _cryptagion was on my post calling me to be instance banned instead of explaining. So I avoided them.

[–] rustyfish@piefed.world 11 points 1 day ago

Sorry, I am just seeing their behaviour. This is straight up Power Tripping Reddit Mod Bullshit. You did right to avoid them, they sound perpetually upset.

Maybe dont post stuff where the butt of the "joke" is homosexuality.

[–] PiraHxCx@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

lol
in these cases is there a way to know who banned you? I preemptively block some people so I never get the displeasure of interacting with them.

[–] punkisundead@slrpnk.net 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

you could check your modlog: https://slrpnk.net/modlog?userId=23146731

You do not receive notifications for moderator actions on your post/comments/account, but you can regularly check this page.

(also I think lemmy should implement moderation notifications)

[–] PiraHxCx@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago

I had other profile that had a couple of comments removed but modlog only said "mod".

[–] Chakravanti@monero.town -5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Explain that you can't see what we know is right there because it's a fucking black hole does not make this comment a black hole.

But if you think that fucking pun was, then try to pull your head out before you say it. When you fail to point out that anyone thinks anything other than shit is leaving your mouth, then let me redirect you to high school.

Those teachers won't help you learn shit, obviously. They will make a damn good character example for everyone else to understand how politics handle Pinnocio.

[–] Chozo@fedia.io 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

This comment reads like somebody spammed the auto-prediction on their mobile keyboard.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 4 points 1 day ago

Thanks for saying something, thought my meds stopped working.