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Just the title.

Do you know people who display serial dishonesty or other bad attitudes, and find yourself setting them on the right path?

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[–] EnsignWashout@startrek.website 10 points 1 month ago

No. Calling them out would be talking to them when I don't strictly need to. That sounds like no fun.

[–] Cheebus@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Praise publicly, criticize privately. I’d never publicly call someone out, but I may approach them individually and offer constructive criticism

[–] FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

Yeah that makes sense

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Only because they are constantly wrong. Generally just in a professional capacity, though. Otherwise, not my circus, not my monkey.

[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

Only with my son. Only when he was young. That was part of my job as a parent.

Otherwise, no. I only have one child. The other children of all ages are not my responsibility.

[–] HubertManne@piefed.social 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

No. I doubt I would have much a relationship with somone like that. One thing is when conversing with people I will sometimes disagree or say im not sure about that. Some people seem to take umbridge at that. Its like they can't have a conversation without everyone agree with them. Which means I have no idea what their opinion is since maybe they are just agreeing with me because thats what they think one should do. I really miss the high school and college days.

[–] FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

Which means I have no idea what their opinion is since maybe they are just agreeing with me because thats what they think one should do.

Such people can be a real problem, actually! It means that talking to them is a huge waste of time

[–] DJKJuicy@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Professionally I have way too many opportunities for this, but a quarter century in my field has taught me that calling people out just makes more work for me. Sometimes you just have to let people dig their own hole.

Personally I don't let people like that in my life, and my wife and kids and immediate family are great people so we don't really have that problem in our family life. I realize I am lucky in that regard.

I would say unless you're management and that's part of your job, then for your own sanity you might have to let it go. Keep notes so you know who's who, but it's not your job to fix other people.

[–] FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago

Really well thought out answer, thanks for sharing!

I would say unless you’re management and that’s part of your job, then for your own sanity you might have to let it go. Keep notes so you know who’s who, but it’s not your job to fix other people.

Unfortunately, management has the same attitude 😕

[–] AskewLord@piefed.social 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

No, because I'm not a self-righteous jerk.

All you have to do is avoid those people as much as possible. If you find ourself around them frequently, you need to make some changes to your life.

Anytime bad actors join something I do, I just quit. It's not worth it and you will never win against people who have no honest or morality.

[–] Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafe 2 points 1 month ago
[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Not really my place to decide what the right path is for someone else.

[–] FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

But i'm sure you do sometimes? If someone says something you know to be scientifically wrong, is it not the loving thing to do, to correct them on it?

[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 1 points 1 month ago

Scientific subjects don't tend to come up in conversations I have with people. If a friend had a different understanding of some scientific subject of mutual interest, I might observe that I'd understood differently, but I wouldn't assume that I'm right, nor would I characterize that as setting them on the right path.

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

No not really. Socially I really just cut off people like that. FYI I had cut off all my problematic family members, and since most of them are dead.

Professionally, there is some of that, but not really. In my experience those people end of taking care of themselves.

[–] FavouriteShapes@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm sorry to hear that, I've had to burn a lot of bridges too

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 2 points 1 month ago

No man, don’t be sorry. It was liberating to be free of them.

[–] sin_free_for_00_days@sopuli.xyz 1 points 1 month ago

I enjoy letting others be wrong. When I break my own rule, I just end up liking the individual even less.