I made a major improvement in my ability to not give a fuck about my job.
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I work in American retail.
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Thanks.
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i made a person
Congratulations! Me too!
Congratulations! Me three!
I made the decision to go back to school. There were various life reasons why I was unable to make that decision in my 20's, but I am happy to have the opportunity to learn again with a renewed sense of drive and direction.
Hey there, I went back at 33, and it took me 4 years to get my AA. But I did it, and got a job that more than doubled what I was making before.
You're going to love classes in your 30s! It's so fun to learn, and you'll make friends with your teachers. It was hard at times, but it felt really good to accomplish! If you need support to talk about it, r/backtoschool was a great place for me to vent or ask for advice.
First, let me say thank you for this kind comment. Oddly enough I also happen to be 33, so it really means a lot to me to get that encouragement from someone else who was literally in the same boat, and made it out the other side successfully. If you don't mind me asking, what did you study when you went back?
I'm happy it was helpful! I love that we went back at the same age! :)
I went back for drafting and industrial design. I got a job as a CAD drafter at a Substation engineering firm, and was promoted to a designer about 8 months in. Been there for 1.5 years now. Best job I've ever had. :)
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I met a wonderful woman. We are dating now
My parents officially cut the life line -- I didn't need their money anymore and they're retired now.
But it made me take stock of my expenditure in a way I hadn't previously.
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I got an invitation from someone I had been talking to online to come and have dinner with their family. It. Was. Awesome. I got a tour of their gardens, talked pest management, chicken composting, and propagation strategies, got a ukulele concert from their usually shy daughter with some special medical needs (and got to play something for her on the instrument she never shares), and had a lovely meal from their garden. Oh, and we traded plants and cuttings with each other to help diversify our gardens (and who they support)!
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For complicated reasons over which we have had very little control, we have had to move house 3 times in the last 5 years.
In April of this year, thoigh, we finally found somewhere that we both really love and which should be pretty much permanent. I am very happy about that.
Moving sucks so much, and can be extremely emotionally and physically disruptive for a lot of people. So, massive congratulations π
My car was totaled and I walked away.
I got hella teeth pulled.
I know it sounds terrible, but it really needed to happen. I'm waiting on my bone grafts to set before starting on my first set of implants. Even with my plastic partials, it's a whole new world. I don't think I had cracked a genuine smile since highschool. Now I can't stop.
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Bought a house and started my dream job
I started turning away from atheism. I've always wanted to believe in God but i was literally unable to.
it is really bugging me that you are getting heavily downvoted for this. it's not like you are actively proselytizing here. i am sorry people are so shitty.
i think belief in (some type of) god is probably pretty healthy. unfortunately, my life experience has led me to a failure to believe in anything at all.
anyways.... you do you. be well.
i did not say "atheism bad". sure, i dont agree with a lot of atheist beliefs, but the last thing i want to do is spread hate.
and, if you feel good about yourself, "failure to believe in anything" might not actually be a failure. π
What are atheist beliefs? I thought being atheist just meant you were non-religious?
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As someone who has found a faith that works for me, personal, nonreligious and without a figurehead god, I've seen a lot of concrete benefits from exploring different ways of walking through reality. For me there was a huge difference between the sensation of feeling like a cosmic fluke, blown around in a confusing and random reality, and finding a way to feel like I'm an integral part of time and space.
It was a decision I had to make, years ago, for my own well-being. I've seen many others make their own personal, spiritual changes, for similar reasons to mine. Some move away from their childhood religions, towards faith structures that feel more healthy to them. Some return to theirs. I've also known people who've found meaning, comfort and purpose through studied, focused atheism and agnosticism.
You can probably tell by my tone that I'm not a big fan of organized religion. Any god that can be boxed up isn't really what I'm looking for. That said, I know from personal experience how powerful that sort of change in perspective can be. It's exactly the type of thing that could find high ranks in one's best of the year list.
Happy New Year!
Definitely would like some more detail on this.
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Are we thinking in the short or long term here?
Short term (enjoyment for this year): I bought a motorcycle, something I've wanted to do for years but finally had the money and independence to do so this year
Long term (this will affect my future life in a good way): I got a summer research internship as a college student, which gives me valuable experience for later in life
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Well... there's not much. I have 2 nominations. They're not much, but it's something.
Discovering https://free-mp3-download.net/
I used to download low quality music from YouTube. Now I get FLACs.
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I got to ride an old ZSSK 012 carriage. It's not comfortable, and it's also quite loud inside, but there's passenger seats in the back. The view makes it really worth it.
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There's also possibly another one, but I'll just keep that one in my head. It's a bit weird.
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I bought a house after saving for 6 long years.
Yay! Iβm proud of you, thatβs a massive accomplishment!
I actually followed through on my "lose weight" resolution and dropped about 50lbs and put on some muscle.
I started volunteering at a childrenβs theatre. Just finished the third of three production runs, seeing kids from 8 to 18 astound audiences with performances that surpass professional productions Iβve seen. Itβs renewed my belief in the power of the arts to change lives, when my whole training and professional life has been in the sciences.
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Got to see the northern lights together with my so!
My daughter (born 3 months early in mid-2022) was discharged from needing oxygen 24/7. After months of having to lug her tank and pulse oximeter around everywhere, even across a room, a wireless baby was a game-changer.
She's made huge progress in so many other ways, but this was the big one for us
My eldest daughter is doing so well in violin that her school had to create a special level just for her and is busing her around to other string groups in the district for performances so they sound better.
So proud of that kid.
I made the first step in starting my own company. 2024 Iβll be working on getting more clients so that I can quit my 9-5
I went fishing.
I got a job that doubled my income and gave me the free time to do things like start a garden, learn macrame and spend a lot more uninterrupted time with my family. It was really life changing.
If I could undo this year I might though. I had 5 family members die including my grandma who raised me, my wife and I had a devastating miscarriage, my causing got hit by a car and may not be able to walk, I was diagnosed with a heart condition and put on lifelong medication and still might need open heart surgery, my deadbeat dad got out of jail and has been harrasing my mom and sister, and the icing on the cake, last week our best cat died.
I got a promotion, from a drafter to a designer. :)
This year has been a bit mundane. Good has been a steady stream with no particular highlights. Not complaining. I like stability.
Quit my corporate job for a small place with a mission to do good. Never going back to bigtech.
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Brother's family moved to my city, leading to lots of time with the niblings
This was my covid makeup year. I sold the house I bought in 2020 and got one that suited me instead of whatever I could afford (my old apt was intentionally too small to spend time in so I could save for a house), I had a proper wedding ceremony to make up for the courthouse one in 2020 (which I attended on crutches). We went to some music festivals. Even at work I got to lead a project after the one i was meant to lead in 2020 got canceled by the pandemic.
Got a job that I really like and is very lenient when I come in. I have some medical condition that makes a job and life nearly impossible, some days I feel debilitatingly horrible at complete random. It feels like there's 200 pounds strapped to my back, and I have done that before so I know it really feels like that. Thankfully my boss is very lenient when I come in so if I feel like crap I can take the day off. If I suddenly feel like crap 2 hours into the day, no biggie I can go home early.
Granted it's minimum wage and I'm arguably being underpaid for my level of expertise but the flexibility of my workplace is priceless.
My ability to do math and predict my monthly budget costs is bad enough that it finally worked out in my favor... I'm still curious how that's happening, but I'm not inclined to look to deeply else I tip the balance of the universe out of my favor sooner that is bound to happen.
It's a split between two things:
Firstly, I finally got my degree. People in my immediate surroundings got tired of the confirmed bachelor jokes after the first week of me making them.
And secondly, after a year and a half of waiting I got to talk to a gender service doctor back in February. Now I'm well on the way to get the bureaucracy part of my transition out of the way. And I'll be getting my hormones soon.
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