Another week, another thread. Go out there and have a good one everyone! 
this post was submitted on 13 May 2024
67 points (100.0% liked)
traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns
936 readers
8 users here now
Welcome to /c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns, an anti-capitalist meme community for transgender and gender diverse people.
-
Please follow the Hexbear Code of Conduct
-
Selfies are not permitted for the personal safety of users.
-
No personal identifying information may be posted or commented.
-
Stay on topic (trans/gender stuff).
-
Bring a trans friend!
-
Any image post that gets 200 upvotes with "banner" or "rule 6" in the title becomes the new banner.
-
Posts about dysphoria/trauma/transphobia should be NSFW tagged for community health purposes.
-
When made outside of NSFW tagged posts, comments about dysphoria/traumatic/transphobic material should be spoiler tagged.
-
While this is mostly a meme community, we allow most trans related posts as we grow the trans community on the fediverse.
If you need your neopronouns added to the list, please contact the site admins.
Remember to report rulebreaking posts, don't assume someone else has already done it!
Matrix Group Chat:
Suggested Matrix Client: Cinny
https://matrix.to/#/#tracha:chapo.chat
WEBRINGS:
Transmasculine Pride Ring 
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
possibly ignorant take on femboy/tomboy discourse
I think I’m starting to understand the femboy discourse a bit better now because I think I have a similar experience with tomboy women.
I always wanted to be a boy deep inside but I wasn’t very aware that trans people exist so I couldn’t really explain te feeling. So I started to identify as tomboy or masculine woman. Now I’m seeing lots of tomboy/masc women around me and wondering if they might be trans as well because the way they describe their feelings is so similar to how I felt.
As far as I understand the (slight) annoyance on here about femboys it’s that a lot of femboys turn out to be trans but saying that to a femboy can lead to a lot of backlash from a part of the community because to them speculating on someone’s gender identity is a big no-no. Please tell me if I’m being ignorant/wrong
The annoyance on here comes from transphobic dorks misgendering every transfem in gaming and anime as a femboy. It's a common strategy to dogpile on any trans representation in these areas and to systematically form mobs to harass and attack trans women in these communities. That background makes cis men and obvious eggs complaining about being called trans in denial by one or two baby trans girls on reddit come off as whiny fucks drenched in cis privilege, especially when they outright used transphobic talking points and refuse to engage with criticism of that, as has happened on here.
Oh I wasn’t aware of the misgendering stuff. That’s awful. Thanks for the clarification
I tap the sign with enthusiasm:
First wolf wins if person is cis, second one wins in all other cases. :down-with-cis:
i'm totally on board.
unlimited feminization on the cis world
I would support a forced feminisation of all cis men movement because it would make me look and feel more masculine:) (even though achieving max masculinity definitely isn’t my goal)
I think it's just good practice to take people at how they identify now and support them. It doesn't make someone shitty to think "I wonder if that person is trans," but that changes when it's assuming someone must be.
I think it's a bit different for people assigned female at birth in that a lot of femininity is actively performed while I think you can easily end up being identified as a tomboy by just not actively performing femininity.
I would guess a lot of the more 'masculine' women I've known were agender as opposed to eventually identifying as men.
Tbh a lot of people afab also don’t want to identify as men because men have a very bad rep. But yeah non-masc people who don’t express femininity are often identified as tomboy as well.