Ask Lemmy

I have no need to be remembered by anyone. Memories and legacies are fake human constructs that we’ve made up. We live approx 60ish years and then die. Only kids and or some relatives/spouses will remember you for another few decades before they die too and you’re completely forgotten.

To hang onto the idea that you must leave a legacy behind and be remembered by other people just adds unnecessary stress to one’s life. Not a single person cares about anyone except for themselves (save for some people who may care in some manner about their significant others, kids, maybe a best friend).

Right now, knowing my public execution won't be cause for national celebration is a weirdly comforting bit of knowledge.

i grew up in a BIG mormon family.

a decade or so ago, a group of 20-ish cousins and i were sitting round the campfire at the reunion. they all discussed among themselves and decided that i am the original black-sheep of the family and they thanked me for being a strong role model for their own journey out of the truly awful mormon religion.

i am very proud of that.

I hope friends will occasionally remember having fun with me and smile.

Like this:

Is it weird that i dont want to be remembered? I just want to fade into nothingness. None of it matters anyway

I don't need people to remember me, personally by name or what I looked like, but I would be happy if others would be positively affected by whatever I manage to accomplish in this life.

Actually I really like the idea that I will die and join the legions of humans who lived interesting lives and disappeared in the sands of time.

I want to be remembered as that guy that once threw his socks in the hamper and BOTH went in.

I don't.

Someone who worked an honest life. Not someone who took advantage of others directly or indirectly (working for a scummy company). I observed many places abusing uninformed customers for work. It was sickening seeing these guys tack on random shit to the bill since they knew they could trick the customer.

For the women reading, you are often targeted and scammed this way. Learn about what you are getting fixed so you know if the bill is bullshit. Ive seen places press a couple buttons on a computer and charge for replacing the OS, updating drivers and other nonsense.

Contractors and service places (repair and automotive shops) are prime examples. I know good contractors who don't like being watched, but you as the paying customer deserve and have the right to watch. Once a plumber stole 600$ from my grandpa's wallet, money he was going to give to his grandkids. I worked for an honest computer shop I was proud of, but it was constantly on the verge. It was extremely depressing.

Now after a career change (woodworking) I hope to provide decent products for an honest price. Materials and equipment + labour (with an hourly rate of a livable wage).

I honestly think obscurity wouldn't be that bad, that would be a victory

"He was just starting to get pretty okay at playing the Appalachian dulcimer."

vaguely

Someone who really was helpful and friendly and supportive.

Don't remember me, when I die let me just be gone.

I have no great desire to be remembered. It is neither here nor there from my point of view. As to how people are likely to remember me, 'quiet' and 'intelligent' are two words that crop up a lot from people who I interact with casually or occasionally. Those who know be better would probably focus on my environmental and conservation work etc.

Related to that, due to the role that I played in stopping an area being sold for development and instead becoming designated as a nature reserve on one occasion, there is a meadow that is casually called after me by some people that I worked with. I suppose that I would be happy to be remembered as a meadow.

I doubt I will be remembered at all.

“Drowned in the Caspian Sea.”

I hope I am one day a sort of Patronus Charm that my kids can utilize to ward off crippling thoughts.

I agree. I hope that one day I will be remembered as a decent person by everyone who has gotten to know me a little. If that is the case, I think I will have lived my life well.

I want to be remembered for my so-far meager and obscure contributions to the field of mathematics.

Most likely I'll be remembered as intelligent, kind and sarcastic by a few friends.

Like Luigi 😉

The same as I live - I just hope people say about me that I am a good guy who is nice to people. I would like to be remembered as a person who gives more than he takes.

“You want my treasure? You can have it! I left everything I gathered together in one place. Now you just have to find it.”

I want my funeral to be a roast but my fiancee asked me not to.

I don't know. I really want people to like me. I wouldn't describe myself as attention starved, but I get upset pretty easily when I learn people don't like me. I try to be a good friend. I try to be fun. I try to be the life of the party and a social butterfly but not overstay my welcome in the limelight.

I would rather be forgotten in short order without a legacy or anything that lasts longer than those I've interacted with in person. For those that know me, hopefully they mostly remember the good times.