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It means they're having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.

It should not be tolerated at the workplace. I'm forced to listen to this rhetoric because my shift isn't done yet, and I can't leave without getting fired. I'm forced into a sexual discussion without consent, and it's so graphically disgusting that I feel nauseous.

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[–] lemmus@lemmy.world 100 points 1 week ago (4 children)

It’s a euphemism designed to avoid explicit detail. You should be thankful for the phrase.

Also, it’s one of the most natural things imaginable, maybe work on understanding your own sensitivity rather than bringing other people down for being human.

[–] FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world 33 points 1 week ago (1 children)

By OP's logic, you shouldn't be able to tell anyone you are pregnant or that you have children because that eludes to the fact that at one point you've had sex. Next HR is going to remove the bathrooms from the office, because it assumes that people are pissing somewhere.

[–] ChexMax@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago

You probably also shouldn't mention that you have a mother or a father because that forces OP to picture your parents doing the deed to make you. Same goes for siblings and grandparents.

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[–] Crispycrebs@lemmy.world 80 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Grow up love, your dad shot a fucking red hot load into your mum and thats why you're here. 21st century ridiculousness. Very unpopular opinion have an upvote.

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[–] Hegar@fedia.io 65 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This is a truly US level of being uncomfortable with the basic fact of life.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Us Suburban cutlure breeds this shite

[–] Makhno@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, in the city we fuckin

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[–] zelgo@lemmy.world 57 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Bro, how do you think human life works? This is natural, sorry you are sensitive by very tame terminology. Perhaps you should talk to someone about why a necessary natural process causes you so much turmoil. I get that this is a workplace but is it too much to ask to allow for some personal freedom rather than sitting quietly working as a bot all day for your corporate overlords?

[–] Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 28 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Based on the name of the community and the responses I’ve seen here, this is exactly the right place for this opinion.

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[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 52 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I am very happy to see, reading the responses, that this is indeed an unpopular opinion. You sound quite squeamish and prudish. The couple is already presumably having sex, why in the world does it bother you that they acknowledge (with a completely not graphic euphemistic comment) that they want a baby? It's not a sexual comment.

Upvoted for unpopularity.

[–] Zorque@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago

I think it's a common opinion in childfree circles. anything to dunk on "natalists".

[–] henfredemars 43 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Fantastic unpopular opinion. Post is work of a scholar.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 24 points 1 week ago (14 children)

Yeah... OP is a clown but the post is actually proper for the community haha

Good job!

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[–] Doll_Tow_Jet-ski@fedia.io 13 points 1 week ago

Look at the up and down votes. You did it, OP <3

[–] Mediocre_Bard@lemmy.world 40 points 1 week ago

The phrase "we're trying for a baby" communicates the intent to start a family without eliciting unwanted images of raw dog cream pies. That is why we use it. If you are having these thoughts about your coworkers from this phrase, I submit that you are the problem.

[–] nebulaone@lemmy.world 38 points 1 week ago (12 children)

No offense, but there is a point at which others aren't at fault and the behavior you're asking of them is ridiculous.

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[–] markovs_gun@lemmy.world 37 points 1 week ago

Why are kids these days such prudes? How do you think you got here lol.

[–] njm1314@lemmy.world 36 points 1 week ago

Even the Victorian era thinks you might be a prude.

[–] remon@ani.social 33 points 1 week ago

Ridiculous ... but certainly unpopular, take an upvote.

[–] Hadriscus@jlai.lu 30 points 1 week ago

Graphic ? meaning you're picturing it mentally ? that's you lacking control over your own brain

[–] pjwestin@lemmy.world 28 points 1 week ago

You are definitionally wrong. A graphic description means, "Describing or depicting in vivid and realistic detail." Saying, "We're trying for a baby," would be considered euphemistically sexual at best. A graphically sexual description would be something like, I don't know..."having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her."

[–] CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world 27 points 1 week ago (1 children)

OP does not know what "sexually graphic" means.

[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 9 points 1 week ago

Well technically he is projecting sexually graphic here for us.

[–] expr@programming.dev 25 points 1 week ago

Honestly, you might need therapy. But definitely an unpopular opinion, I'll give you that.

[–] FenderStratocaster@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (4 children)

It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.

Did you just find this out? Welcome to humanity. Every human being around you also farts, shits, and pisses too. That means if they excuse themselves to go to the bathroom that they very well may be creating a devastatingly disgusting mountain of shit covered in blood and bowel mucus that would humble Shrek himself. Does that mean someone excusing themselves to the bathroom is disgusting too?

You are focusing on .000000001% of what actually "trying for a baby" entails. It's not just the act of sex. It's the acceptance of two loving people that they are attempting to change their lives forever and be responsible for a child. It's letting other people know that a life change is coming and expect an emotional roller coaster. For YOU to focus on the sex aspect is actually kind of weird.

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[–] BassTurd@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago (1 children)

If I were to tell you that I have 3 kids, would you also be disgusted that I've had vaginal sex at least 3 times? Or is that somehow different?

Unpopular opinion for sure, but one built on immaturity and inability to reason as an adult.

If you were in an office and someone says that they are dropping loads in their wife, yea, that's fucked up and significantly different from saying that they're trying to have a child.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Just wait until they realize their parents had sex, maybe even more than once!

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[–] ikidd@lemmy.world 22 points 1 week ago

This must be an American.

[–] Reddfugee42@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago

You're broken.

[–] Hello_there@fedia.io 15 points 1 week ago (3 children)

It's part of life. Like, literally. That's how this all works. Best to get used to the concept.

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[–] possumparty@lemm.ee 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

OP is definitely a virgin, and very likely an incel. Also a high chance that OP is gay. It's okay, you can come out of the closet.

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[–] bstix@feddit.dk 13 points 1 week ago

It might be a cultural thing, but where I live, people usually don't talk about it at work until the pregnancy has been successfully confirmed, in order to avoid the uncomfortable talks that a potential unsuccessful pregnancy would result in.

The only ones who talk about trying are often the ones who have difficulties with it. They could be getting a baby through insemination or fertility treatment and need time off for that etc.

[–] MotoAsh@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

You're a gay man with the same level of prudishness that makes conservatives not even want to allow you to be able to hold hands in public with your partner.

Congratulations on the unpopular opinion, but your levels of self-awareness need A LOT of work.

[–] callouscomic@lemm.ee 11 points 1 week ago

Hahahahaha. I often imagine other people having sex. It's sometimes hilarious. Nobody can stop me.

Also some people get pregnant other ways. They could be referring to in vitro or related procedures. For those people it can be very difficult and expensive. Be more positive and supportive of other people's hopes and dreams, or at least be neutral.

[–] vivalapivo@lemmy.today 10 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Had a colleague who said that he's disgusted when another colleague talks about his boyfriend. He advocated it basically because he was imagining anal sex between them all the time.

Three years later, these colleagues are boyfriends 💞💞💞

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[–] Noite_Etion@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago

Sounds like something Hank Hill would get upset about.

"I'm going to go number 2" - Disgusting and graphic.

[–] Taco2112@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

What if they are trying to have a baby through in vitro fertilization? Your mind is what’s immediately going to sex. If someone is being more graphic in their description and talking about raw dogging and how often, then I think you have a case.

I don’t want to hear about people trying for kids either but I personally don’t care and just don’t engage in the conversation.

[–] spankmonkey@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

People also say this when they are doing IVF and other fertility treatments. In fact every time I have heard this it involved fertility treatment because otherwise they just announce they are expecting.

It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.

Most of the time announcing a pregnancy or even just seeing kids at the park also means someone had sweaty bareback sex. Is it only bad when they announce it before the pregnancy?

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