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[–] vzqq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 92 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

Not any greenhouse! A conservatory!!

[–] tiramichu@sh.itjust.works 33 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

How about an orangery? If we really want to spice things up

[–] sundray@lemmus.org 8 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Kew Gardens. Go big or go home.

In the butterfly house?

[–] ummthatguy@lemmy.world 24 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] vzqq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] deacon@lemmy.world 10 points 2 weeks ago

I’ll fetch the butter…

[–] Septimaeus 15 points 2 weeks ago

Solarium or GTFO

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 51 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)
  • "greenhouse"
  • looks inside
  • is transparent

anyway - woa.... the .... the combo of greenhouse n thunderstorm is... quite somthin-

not much of a victorian dress kindsa peep tho.,.,. thad jus sounds uncomfy.,.,. but u do u <3<3<3

[–] sausager@lemmy.world 17 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I imagine the windows would be all fogged up from the steamy sex, right? ..right??

[–] moseschrute@lemmy.zip 14 points 2 weeks ago

Only one way to find out.

Unrelated, but can you rent a greenhouse on Airbnb?

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 weeks ago

i believe peeps jus wouldn see u cuz of the plants n also the thunder, distractin the eye away from it-

i imagine peeps jus producing steam rn-

[–] hazl@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Not just uncomfy. A Victorian dress is basically a contraceptive. Try having sex in this thing.

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Pretty tho...

[–] QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 week ago

as a (borderline) asexual I wouldn't be surprised if people find 27 different positions with hands tied behind their backs. People with a sex drive are SO creative about it

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

It's Victorian dress or fursuit. choose your poison.

[–] coaxil@lemmy.zip 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Can they be combined into a Victorian dress-fursuit?

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm having a hard time visualising that. Pics?

[–] coaxil@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 43 points 2 weeks ago

I think this is the origin story of Victorians hearing 'banshees' in the storm

[–] happy_wheels@lemmy.blahaj.zone 37 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I now have a new addition to my bucket list. Thank youuu!! :D

[–] abbotsbury@lemmy.world 13 points 2 weeks ago

more like your rhymes-with-bucket list

[–] Bombastic@sopuli.xyz 35 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Karl@programming.dev 4 points 2 weeks ago
[–] Samdell@lemmy.eco.br 29 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

A greenhouse? In this economy?

[–] Nasan@sopuli.xyz 10 points 2 weeks ago

The local botanical garden by me charges $6 entry for area residents. I'm assuming this includes coital entry on the premises.

[–] kerrigan778@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 2 weeks ago

I've never felt so sniped

[–] socsa@piefed.social 17 points 2 weeks ago

I'm a Victorian dress btw.

[–] espurr@sopuli.xyz 13 points 2 weeks ago

What were you reading?

[–] unconsequential@slrpnk.net 12 points 2 weeks ago

So that’s where babies come from!

[–] Rose_Thorne@lemmy.zip 7 points 2 weeks ago

Botanical gardens.

I wanna get that extra-risky public space thrill. Just maybe not during Rafflesia bloom.

[–] tetris11@feddit.uk 4 points 1 week ago

So how was your weekend?

[–] ValarieLenin@midwest.social 4 points 1 week ago

Stole this for my grindr thanks op!

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm a guy btw

Are you sure?

[–] not_IO@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)
[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Sadly I can't put on a dress that doesn't exist :(

[–] Berengaria_of_Navarre@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 week ago

nsfwI'm size 16 extra long. I look forward to receiving my dress and getting railed by an Amazonian goddess with a foot long strapon. <3

[–] MidsizedSedan@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I'm not saying no....