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I feel joy when I play boardgames or tabletop RPGs. With a good table, lots of banter and shit talking happens and that's perfect.

Never had weed. When I drink, I get more talkative, but it's a fine line before I get sleepy and depressed

I hear you. I'm a little different these days, but can totally relate. I drink beer usually one night each weekend, and get nicely drunk (pretty wasted). I feel shit the next day and my working week starts grouchy and tired. Fucks up my sleep pattern as well as wrecking my "health goals" (ie being less fat). However, mid week I'm fine and come Friday I'm excited for it.

Rince and repeat for the last 15 years. Before that I was drunk 3-4 nights a week. So I guess that's progress...

I mean, I don't, but I didn't feel joy with them either.

I guess, sometimes there's a cat to pat.

lol "joy"

Alcohol AND weed

By wearing myself out physically or behind engrossed in a project (s). Both seem to work. I also see a direct correlation of social media and feeling hopeless, even on the decentralized sites. I try to limit my use and try to have them focused on my personal interests and block\filter the doomers. I can always go find the daily shit-news when I feel like it.

You need a comprehensive detox. Both those substances are depressants. When you’re off the drugs, you’re not so much sober as hung over. It takes a while for the effects to wear off. The hangover is a bad time but it takes a lot longer than a day for your body to fully recover.

“Dissociative drugs make me happy.” Perhaps you have anxiety, depression, etc. Yeah, life sucks right now too. But always being high isn’t really a solution. Therapy, antidepressants, friends, and family can help but I can’t begin to guess what your situation is.

Never liked alcohol much, and while getting a nice weed buzz every now and again is fun to chill out, I do that twice a year at most. For me it's all about finding something that is both interesting, entertaining and calming at the same time. I get that from woodworking or general DIY stuff, reading, and Yoga. But everybody is different.

I mean, it's possible you're "treating" something with it, and you can switch to a pharmaceutical.

It's also possible you just need to quit smoking to get used to feeling sober and then that'll feel good as a baseline. You could even go back to smoking occasionally after a tolerance break.

Like, I get it seems like a general question, but the answer is very specific and there's no way anyone on here is going to be able to give you an informed answer.

But if you live in a place it's legal, and it's not causing any bad side effects, is it even a problem?

You assume I feel joy with those things?

Hobbies. So many hobbies and interests. My kids, my fiancee. Sports. TV shows, video games. Lots of stuff brings me joy. Spending time in the woods and outdoors can also help a lot. Tree showers, or whatever they're called. Forest showers? Try that.

🎶spent 15 years getting loaded... 15 years till his liver exploded....now what's Bob gonna do now that he can't drink? 🎶

music, rediscover music

Exercise releases endorphins, also it can take your mind off of troubles.

Because I know God loves me and I have His Holy Spirit.

Maybe you’re self medicating

Do you exist solely to do drugs??

Maybe try being sober. Couldn't hurt your chances with women

Walking. Community involvement. Sitting in silence. Recognizing the task at hand and knowing I can find a way to get it done. A berry smoothie. A cup of tea.

I'm entirely the opposite. I don't know how you find the will to breathe after more than a beer. I swear statues are made of people that smoke weed. I still feel smoke in my system after 3 weeks and take nearly a month to feel 100% again without the dull lag. After just one beer I am done for the day and won't get anything productive done. Back when I raced, my legs felt like they were weighted with lead bricks for a couple of days after just a beer. However, Adderall is like my super power.

I rather enjoy alcohol and weed, but I find I enjoy them more the less I use them. I think once a week or biweekly is the sweet spot for me, though twice a week is ok. More than that and the fun diminishes and the negative effects are felt more. My main relaxing hobby is video games, and I like the idea of beers/weed and gaming, but it really sucks for anything that’s not really casual. I’ve been running through hollow knight this month and I’ve noticed when I do partake in either that it makes the platforming and bosses much harder

How do you feel joy while using depressants like alcohol and weed? Personally I hate the loss of control, I feel less like myself, but I know everyone's different. To answer your question:

I go for walks and see the sunlight through the leaves. I ride my bike and, to paraphrase the poet, sing a song of the muscles of the leg. I read poetry. I hug my loved ones. I go dancing. I challenge myself with puzzles. I read YA fiction as a grown-ass adult just because I want the good guys to win every now and then.

Sugar

What's your sober life like?

I'm just sad all the time. When i drink i can stop being sad, and stop worrying about things like counting steps/breaths, the date, and whether the number of times i clicked my mouse was the right number before turning it off for the night.

I'm "differently happy" when I'm smoking, without it I just have more "empty moments" that need to be filled with engaging activities and social interactions else I'm restless. If you haven't tried going on a weed break, I highly recommend it. If anything, do it just to show you you can live without it. Again, it's gonna be really difficult if you're experiencing loneliness, IME the one thing that truly helped me battle the boredom was other people so maybe use that as motivation to engage more with your friends and family?

Alcohol doesn't do anything for me and I haven't drunk in ages.