A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
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When I took a class to get my Concealed Carry Permit, on the very first day the instructor made a very interesting statement.
"If you are somewhere where you feel you need a gun to feel safe... Why are you there in the first place?"
While I did go on to get my permit I never once carried. I never went anywhere where I felt I needed it. If I became uncomfortable at a location, I left.
I got mine so it would be easier to transport weapons to a range. I got the weapons in case trump starts a civil war or something.
I did self-defense training, both learning and teaching for close to 15 years or so, I did the CCW thing, took classes in firearms as well as martial arts and the whole nine-yards for many years.
I will often reiterate what you cited there, that if you're in a dangerous situation that you already expect to be dangerous, your first priority is changing your situation. Not going to that place, working towards moving, etc. Kind of like step-one of any fight is to not get into a fight.
I eventually also stopped carrying my gun, because all it did was add extra stress to my life. Always making sure you know where it is, if you're somewhere that legally prohibits you having it, then if you do have to leave it outside of a store or business, you are always thinking about it inside your car. My greatest worry was someone breaking into my vehicle and using the gun to commit a crime, which statistically is much, much more likely than actually being in a situation where you need to use it.
I still own guns but keep them locked up. But I don't enjoy guns broadly because I've had too much time think about it. I've had to learn the law, I've had to take responsibility for teaching others how to defend themselves, I've spent too much time playing out situations and the post-event situations that most gun-chuds NEVER spend a moment thinking about.
I feel strongly now that a lot of the gun violence in the US can be connected to the general lack of respect and knowledge about firearms. The only "training" most owners get is action movies. I think if more people were required to actually study the law and play out scenarios they might be far less likely to reach for a gun to solve all their problems.
Never really thought about the logistics of having to leave it in your car. Are you allowed to take the ammo in with you?
Interestingly, a lot of gun violence in the US comes down to neglected spaces. Without changing anything else, cleaning up vacant lots, demolishing abandoned buildings, adding street lights, and general neighborhood beautification cuts down on a LOT of gun violence. Violence intervention programs--teaching kids restraint, essentially--does a lot too.
I know that building community is not only an answer to violence, but broadly speaking the answer to a lot of social problems. I am curious though if you're referencing a source or study, if the neighborhood beautification projects lead to people becoming more involved in their communities, or if it's communities already coming together to beautify their neighborhoods.
I got a conceal carry and virtually never carried. The main reason I got it was because the rules for transporting your weapons/ammo without it in my state was overly convoluted. So even just going to the shooting range was more involved.
As another carry permit holder, this is most certainly true. But there are a few places I will carry due to the remoteness and some of the wildlife that can eat you if they really want to. But mostly it remains at my bedside as an "in case" if it's needed. If something were to go sideways, law enforcement is probably going to be at least 20 to 30 minutes away and possibly up to 90 minutes. I cannot rely on either one of the two deputies on duty at 2AM to be anywhere near me if things go bad. Things will be well and done long before I can expect help.
Another thing most of the rabid "Gotta have my pistol and 3 spare mags on me at all times" never think about is the cost of shooting someone even in self-defense. By the time it's all said and done, it can cost upwards and beyond of $100,000+ in lawyer, expert testimony, and court fees. And you are likely to lose your job due to being jailed for at least large parts of it.
I have, it's not fun
It happened to me once. I was sitting on the back porch on a farm in Tennessee, and there were cans on the ground about 100yds away. Things would have been better if I could have put some holes in those cans
I've never been in a situation where I'd need to know how to do cpr. Yet I've learned how to do it.
I'm happy for you. It sucks having to use one. But it sucks more not having one and having to use one.
Not so fun fact: Gun suicides are far more common than any other type of gun related death. Having a gun in the house is a big risk factor for suicide.
I've faced many attempts to severely harm me but I usually escaped. I failed to escape twice: got kneecapped with a bat once (leaving me with a permanent injury), and stabbed once miraculously missing anything vital.
My crime: having to work late, growing up in a poor neighbourhood.
I'd feel a lot safer if I could be armed. I don't want to die.
The pig who shot Michal Brown said he had to shoot because Brown could have taken his piece away. If you accept that, then you agree that, at least in this situation, the public and the police would be safer without guns.
It used to be: I had to shoot him judge, he had a gun
Then it was: I had to shoot him judge, I thought he had a gun
Now it's: I had to shoot him judge, I had a gun.
I have lived in Oakland. I have lived in some of the seediest areas in Northern California. I have known gang members that wore colors. I have seen bikers with patches all over the place.
Not once have I been in a situation where a gun outweighs treating people like they are people.
I have. I've been in places and situations where being able to get someone to back down and slow their roll would have been a better outcome than what I was able to get without being armed. Shit just happened around me, and I couldn't exit the situation in good conscience. It's terrifying to try to stand up to stop shit from going really sideways knowing that if it does, there's not a lot you can do except be a meat shield for someone else. Almost all defensive gun use doesn't involve shooting; it involves having a gun, knowing how to use it, and using the threat of force to stop someone else from escalating a situation.
People say that when seconds count, the police are only minutes away, and fuck me, that is extremely optimistic. I've never had the cops show up in under five minutes; the closest was about ten minutes, and that was after a shooting in my 'hood in Chicago. CPD showed up after the ambulance.
Let’s imagine that the weapons are extremely hard to get, and people can’t afford even legal ones (because of checks and prices), not to say about illegal. Wouldn’t your place be better one if that was so?
Okay, but what if my self-esteem is predicated on the knowledge that I could kill anyone at a moment's notice.
Surely that suppressed libidinal desire to inflict unimaginable pain and suffering on everyone around me is worth something.
You've got a good point there... Have you ever considered using your car as a weapon against bicyclists who have indirectly offended you?
It's incredible that we feel the need to make up monsters for our movies and ghost stories when we've got prime examples living amongst us.
Realistic movies scare the shit out of me. Prisoners, Blue Ruin, The Tall Man. True psychos are way scarier than any fucking ghost or demon.
I can see situations where having one would be handy, especially in the US, but I think the likelihood of me blowing my brains out is greater than needing one to defend myself, so I don't have one.
Here's one my conceal carry instructor taught about, and I've seen it play in my own life:
If you have a machine in your pocket or pants that is capable of taking a human life, you think and act differently. You're more situationally aware, because you don't want to stumble into a situation where you have to use the fucking thing. A concrete and steel box may be the next place you find yourself. Forever.
I lack the words to put the reader in that emotional state, but it's real. Not like you're paranoid, constantly on the lookout, but you are more aware. Used to put myself into crazy situations when I was younger, got stories all night long, but now I'm way more chill.
In the past, I have been threatened with violence, many times, from the homeless downtown.
Unarmed me: "FUCK YOU!"
Armed me: I'm out, not a word. More to the point, I wouldn't be anywhere near that situation in the first place.
"But you can peace out without a gun!"
Very true, I'll grant that. But having one makes me more aware of what's going on around me, makes me less threatening. The vast majority of us are exactly like this. If you watch GunTubers, you will find none of them talking the way we're made out in social media, drooling for violence. Most of the "give me an excuse" people are already in jail or dead. It's a Darwinian thing.
The stories you hear on the news are outliers, or they wouldn't be news. (That applies to everything else in life.)
I'll only add this: Almost everyone in America is woefully ignorant of self-defense laws. Cops are the only shooters that can kill with impunity. You cannot, almost no matter how justified you think you are. Concrete and steel box.
Anyway, I'm sure a European from a healthy society will be right along to lecture me on how nuts I am.
"Yes, this is my emotional support firearm. Why do you ask?"
Maybe getting chill and more aware is just a function of getting older. I mean, I live in a country where nobody is armed and: I get in less dangerous situations and am more aware than in my youth.
Give it a bit, we all will.
But what if you wanted to shoot a gun? Surely that would make that situation better.
Glory to Mankind
I hunt. I depend on venison for food. Does that count? Honest question.
Queer leftist person with a trans partner and I have a Mexican name in a red state.
I really, really, REALLY don't want to need it.
I dread the day I might need it.
I'll probably just die. But I wanna believe it'll be on my feet if it comes to that.
I have, but it's because I'm trans and I lived in a bad place for trans people.
I've definitely had some rural evenings that would have been better with the ability to shoot some cans.
I don't think that's the kind of "better" you were talking about
I think guns make sense if you live in the wilderness and need to protect yourself from bears
Lucky you!
I have. Luckily I didn't have to pull it though, I just put my hand on it and the guy holding the knife at me decided "I'll catch the next one" and walked away.
And Iam thankful that in my life this is true. But not everyone is so lucky.
Clearly you’ve never spent time in the desert near Ship Rock at night. Never heard the stories told by the natives and the rangers and the soldiers. Never saw twisted shapes on four legs run backwards into the brush, living rot retreating from your headlights. Never heard the desert go completely silent, not the sound of coyotes or insects or wind, while you see shadows move in the starlight. Never seen things that look like deer but aren’t run as fast as your car on highway 191, taunting you, staring at you, trying to fool you into slowing down or stopping.
Not that a gun would do much good against them, but if your car breaks down just south of the state lines near four corners, some who know the area would say shooting yourself is a better death than the alternative…