lady_maria

Are there exceptions? Absolutely.

Exceptions imply that these roles are not strictly inherent to animal (including human) behavior. If colonizing countries weren't all patriarchal, I'm sure we would've seen many more exceptions.

These exceptions exist for a reason, whether or not they fit your personal worldview.

But for most of the existence of the human species, it was just like that - males were taking care of food and protection, while females were doing the "safer" jobs, like childcare of gathering.

This is just a bad argument, and has been used to justify all kinds of awful things. why would the fact that humans have always done things a certain way imply that that's a good thing? Is slavery a good thing? rape? colonization? genocide?

Rigid gender roles have only truly served half of the human population. Even so, men have also suffered in other ways because of them. Why shouldn't we work to better everyone's lives, in as many ways as we can manage?

Yes, biology is complex, but the case of humans is rather clear-cut.

This is demonstrably false. Biologists have known as much for... quite a while. Please consider informing yourself before making claims about important topics.

do you have an old cell phone? (or, don't underestimate freecycle!) You could put it under your bed or something, so it's closer to the sound, and leave it recording. Maybe turn up the mic's sensitivity. Portable charge banks are helpful if you have one.

I don't necessarily believe that this trait is inherent to humankind; instead, I think it's a product of cultures that value things like power and hyperindividualism.

I do believe that there will always be (insecure) people who seek some level of power and/or wealth without regard for others. Whether or not they succeed would—I assume—depend on how that society views authority/skepticism/community/ect; if allowed, that would nudge society a little bit in that direction. And so on.

Sadly, , some governments and corporations have spent millenia aquiring and wielding their vast power and wealth to cripple and exploit other societies that they can benefit from without too much pushback. Which obviously ravages those cultures, too, and often by design.

So... it's a little hard to know for certain what is truly in our nature.

sure, some people would, but the opinions of the kinds of people who'd be judgemental over something as trivial as a goddamn pillow really aren't worth much imo.

Firstly, a disclaimer...while I shouldn't really have to say this given the language I've used, I will anyway: I am by no means talking about ALL men.

The problem is that this is not an unfounded stereotype, made evident by the fact that the discrepancy between how household and childcare tasks are divided between partners (heterosexual, at least) is still a significant and prevalent issue.

Subconsciously or otherwise, this sadly rings true with a lot of men, who, at least in part, want—and sometimes expect—a woman who will adopt every role a mother would take. That is, taking care of most of the chores/household management/childcare duties, and without protest. Even when, say, both of them work full-time jobs.

Too many of these men either 1. do not know how to do simple household tasks (and are not unlikely to have adopted learned helplessness as a result), 2. deliberately delay or fuck up chores to get their partner to get frustrated and give up on asking for help altogether, or 3. simply don't notice how much more work their partner is doing than they are.

I acknowledge that a lot of boys aren't taught how to cook do chores as much as girls are, and those who haven't been were failed by the adults in their life in that regard. It's not a valid excuse once you're an adult, though.

yeah, I've been wondering how much I should be sharing about my political opinions now... and a little concerned about my 15+ years of social media history.

The first thought that came to mind is, why would your uncle lie about that? I can't imagine he would have something to gain from it.

I would tell her that, regardless of which of them (or both) were truly "bad" people, they both likely did bad any number of bad, abusive, unforgivable things. Neither she nor her brother ever had any control over it. Your grandparents made their choices, as adults, and failed to properly care for their children. Period. All she can really do now is focus on doing what's best for herself and those around her.

I would strongly suggest that she go see a therapist to discuss all of this, if she hasn't already. It WILL be harmful for her mental health if she continues to ruminate about this or keeps cycling through the what-ifs without having ways to cope or focus attention elsewhere. Talking to you (or other family/friends) about it can only help so much.

this is really cool!

I hope you don't mind some hyper-detailed constructive criticism :) I don't know how to use Blender, but I'm good with faces and watched a loooot of Supernatural back in the day.

• while the bridge of Jensen's nose is pretty narrow, his lower nostrils are quite a bit wider than that, and the tip of his nose is a little more upturned.
• his nose is also more angular. I'd take a look at multiple pictures of him with various different kinds of lighting to see it more easily, but here's a good one:

-cheekbones are also more angular and (I think?) protrude slightly more in front. hard to explain. I think this pic shows it more clearly though

• cheekbones are also too wide
• lips are slightly too wide, too, and the upper vermilion border is more rounded/doesn't "swoop down" like that, so to speak. you got the pout down, though. lol
• his face shorter than that; there's too much space between the bottom of his nose/lips and lips/chin.
• I also want to say that his chin is slightly wider than that.

hope at least one of these things helps!

it depends on the game. there are some games that I will never really stop playing, even if I take long breaks. for others, if I lose interest partway through the story, I either move on or set it aside for another go in the future... assuming I still think it's worth playing.

I just go with what I want to play (or sometimes what I want to want to play, if it's not what I typically go for). I deal with enough rules and pressures in my life to add yet another thing to the list.

we have such a limited amount of precious time on earth. why would you waste it on something that has practically no benefit except for a number on a screen?

do you have nothing better to do than to complain over and over and over again about the posts of a single user?

the block button exists for a reason, if it upsets you this much.

I started 6, but so far I've only completed the first level. I feel like I'm letting our beloved Miyazaki down. 😔

one day I'll play it for real.