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Folks, it's no good

The dating apps, folks, we all hate them. They're no good. No good!

This loneliness thing? It's a problem. More and more folks are saying it

Depression? Get rid of it, I say

doomer deeper-sadness dubois-depressed obama-sad

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[–] Stoneykins@hexbear.net 26 points 1 year ago

Here's the trick that works for me

Develop anger issues

Learn to manage them as well as you can

Harbor intense feelings of unresolved anger towards just... Generally everything going wrong.

Bottle all that shit up inside. It's best for this stage to have as little autonomy and self determination as possible, so there is a lot of internal pressure built

Whenever you feel anything, simply wash it away with a quick dose of released anger, like a power washer taking paint off the side of a house

Keep doing that for years

???

Eventually you're fine!

I'm definitely fine and doing ok.

[–] The_Jewish_Cuban@hexbear.net 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If anyone feeling lonely plays civ 6 I'm looking for buddies to play with on the weekends soy-cutie

[–] umbrella@lemmy.ml 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

as long as a pirated game works. and you accept someone really bad at the game.

[–] The_Jewish_Cuban@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago

Hell yeah bad at the game is fun. I'll get back to you on the pirated compatibility

[–] Yor@hexbear.net 12 points 1 year ago

Starting with just friends would probably be best. Have you tried online or offline groups for mutual interests? That's always been helpful for me

I'm sorry you're going through it comrademeow-hug

[–] corgiwithalaptop@hexbear.net 11 points 1 year ago

Many people are saying!

They come up to me, they say "corgi, how do you handle your depression?" Folks, im here to say, not well all the time. My shell, my big beautiful shell, it's such a great place to retreat into.

I can't keep the bit up fuck it. Sending love and good vibes.

[–] pooh@hexbear.net 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Just speaking for myself here, but having a dog is a massive mental health boost for me. There are lots of lonely pups that need to be rescued, so I recommend adopting one (or cat) for anyone who is able.

[–] FanonFan@hexbear.net 6 points 1 year ago

A pet is a great way to bridge the "so desperately lonely that I scare people off" gap.

[–] SkingradGuard@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago
[–] reagansrottencorpse@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago

The depression, is too damn high!

[–] JohnBrownNote@hexbear.net 9 points 1 year ago
[–] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I remember trying Bumble back in the day. I had better luck with Fetlife. Personally you just got better luck in general through just going outside and bumping into people. It's like that boomer thing about handing out resumes in person, but actually real.

[–] FourteenEyes@hexbear.net 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Signed up for Fetlife after reading this, I'll give it a shot. Might actually find someone looking for a blank slate to train.

[–] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago

I wish you well. Follow events so you can get to know your community and properly vet each other. From there you can meet some genuinely great people. At the very least, the circles I've hung out in have been great.

[–] bigboopballs@hexbear.net 2 points 1 year ago

Personally you just got better luck in general through just going outside and bumping into people.

I wish I could say that, but I'm 0 for 0 on both online and IRL agony-deep

[–] Dirt_Owl@hexbear.net 8 points 1 year ago
[–] DickFuckarelli@hexbear.net 7 points 1 year ago

I'm feeling this too. I have no advice. I have some hobbies (working out, bbq, and making beer).

Thank god my kid loves me and my wife and I are good with each other.

[–] Rojo27@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Feel you there. I've really been through it lately, just feeling kind of lost. I keep thinking that I might be feeling burned out since I feel fine and even thrive, but then I get home and end up in the soup of all of my negative thoughts. It got worse after this past week when I hung out with a couple of coworkers. Like I had some fun, but it also it felt like I was hanging out with the wrong people. IDK... sounds kind of weird.

[–] blakeus12@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago

feeling kind of lost

god damn, i can relate to this a lot

[–] jaykay@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Moved to another country, made some friends in college. Finished college, no friends anymore. I literally only talk to people from the other country I left lol I gotta go outside and meet people, but the people I would vibe with don’t go outside like me lmao

[–] bigboopballs@hexbear.net 4 points 1 year ago

I gotta go outside and meet people, but the people I would vibe with don’t go outside like me lmao

This is one of the binds I'm stuck in

[–] peppersky@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago

Everything fucking sucks all the fucking time

[–] Assian_Candor@hexbear.net 1 points 1 year ago

Pills baby 😎