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Married in '91. Wore mine for the first few years, then took it off on a jobsite to wash my hands, left it on the sideboard of the sink and it was taken. No big deal, it was made out of a 10 dollar length of silver. Eh. My husband lost his a few years later, so we decided to not bother to replace them.
The metal isn't what's kept us together for 35 years..
as a woman (and maybe this is more of a thing in the Southern US), I find it's important to wear a ring to signal to men that I'm not available (not that this is like foolproof, there are men who will still transgress those boundaries, but ... it feels like a kind of social shield for sure)
and it is also important to wear both the engagement and the wedding ring together - conservative culture is weirdly catty about that
The fact that I know you mean the South of the United States of America exactly because you did not say the country annoys me so much. Sorry for the off topic rant.
ah good point, I edited it to add the country. It's true there is a US-centrism both in the mindsets of Americans, but also online in general (at least in English speaking spaces), so it does become a kind of "default place" that way
yay imperialism 🫠
Yeah, I'm not the kind of woman that men would hit up on (too butch..) and now of course I'm old and weathered and other than the really old guys that appreciate someone that can tune up their own car (I have had men decades older than I am, come up to me and shake my hand when working on the car in the driveway.. go figure!) no one looks twice at me. What I wear also doesn't help. LOL!
I hate wearing anything on my hands, gloves, rings, watches, etc. Also, I worked with tools a lot. So, I didn't wear mine most of the time, only during special occasions. My wife was the same.
Actually, my wife preferred I didn't wear my ring, because I got hit on more when I had it on. She saw it happen.
My wife and I made our own wedding rings from wood. We don't wear them since they are fairly fragile.
Yeah, my wedding ring is a really nice black-stained wood with a malachite band, but I noticed it was getting scratched from daily wear, so I wear a silicone workout ring day to day. I bust out the real one for special occasions.
Yup. All day, every day.
Same. Only take mine off if I'm washing my hands and need to dry under it.
Mine doesn't even come off for that. You'd think it would get nasty under there not being dried properly, but it's been about (two wives with a gap between - can't be bothered working out the exact time) 35 years and zero problems.
Yes and yes. I dislike jewelry, but I never take my ring off.
My skin is an asshole and the ring didn't help. After some days it started itching and peeling and I just wore it on special occasions afterwards.
We're divorced now, but I kept it out in the open, because it reminds me of the good times we had together. And we had a lot (and we're still friends).
Neither of us do. We stopped after the first year or so since neither of us like rings.
Same here. It was just annoying
I bought a bunch of silicone rings because I'm a cheap bitch who eloped and works in factories. At some point I will probably buy a fancier ring, but I've got basically no sense of style for jewelry. And no I wear it to work and generally when I'm out, but not really when I'm at home. I also have a piercing that symbolizes my relationship with my wife and I only remove that when medically necessary
I don’t like jewelry so my wife and I got matching tattoos on our ring fingers. It’s our first initials in Morse code with a heart between them.
I used to. But it gets in the way. I work on things that can have angry electrons. 12v 50A. 48V 100A and sometimes 500v to 5000v. I like my finger more than any pretentious or misguided thinking about a piece of metal meaning anything. I keep mine somewhere in clean part of a shelve at home I use it for when we go out together. I wouldn't want someone there think I'm up for grabs or something.
The other day i was saying i had to go pick up my wife and the tea-shop attendant instantly laughed and asked, "Then where's your wedding ring?"
So i had to think of a polite way to say that the state can fuck right off out of my relationships and take it's bullshit patriarchal ownership rituals with it. That sounded something like, "oh ah we're not actually ... we didn't need to... so we haven't... so i don't have... yeah."
... Did I miss out on some state sponsored wedding ring!?
Yes because I can't trust myself with(out) it. There was this one time I removed it to put hand cream and I popped the ring on a bottle of nail polish next to me. I immediately forgot what I did and spent a good couple of hours on the verge of tears because I thought I lost the ring. It's very dear to me, it belonged to my husband's grandma who got married in 1944 so I can't exactly get a replacement for it.
Husband only removes it when he showers because he's not a scatterbrain.
Yes and I always wear it all the time except when I make pizza
Have one (two), never wear it.
I found out the hard way that I was allergic to something in my first one. It was tungsten carbide and I think that's sometimes bound with cobalt or nickel which some people are allergic to. Luckily, I got it off before my finger swelled too much... reminder that super strong metals are not a good idea for rings. I was young, dumb, and thought "tungsten carbide = cool" without thinking all the way through it.
After that, I made a replacement but I'm a code monkey with very thin fingers and it was constantly annoying me by moving around so I took it off and never put it back on. If silicone rings had been readily available back then I might've switched to one of those and stuck with it since they don't move.
The spouse wears their band all the time and has never expressed annoyance about me not wearing mine... it's been about 25 years.
I have one, but hate the feeling of wearing it so never wore it after the honeymoon. It is some really durable metal (maybe titanium?) and has been on my keyring for the last two decades so it has always been with me, just not on a finger.
To be honest if we end up getting divorced it will probably stay on the keychain.
Marrying soon. My partner wanted a ring, but after seeing the prices changed minds.
We got a very inexpensive ring.
There's a trend where the cheaper the wedding, the better odds for the relationship. I think this includes the cost of jewelry.
I have a simple band, not gold. She has a silver ring that she replaces every few years.
I remove the oura ring when I'm working but not the wedding band, unless I'm frustrated at a bit of code and ev-er-y-thing bugs me.
I did for the first year or two, but I don’t really like jewelry, never have, so I haven’t worn one in the last decade. My wife wears hers regularly. Hasn’t been an issue.
Yes, and no - I only wear it when I leave my house (but I don't wear it around the house).
I remember my parents wearing their wedding rings all the time, though 🤔
No. I occasionally have to lift heavy objects and if there's one kind of injury I really want to prevent it's degloving. Do not look it up if you're squeamish.
Wore mine for about the first 10 years. Always catching it on something and needing expensive repairs. I'm not a jewellery person otherwise so eventually I quit wearing it except special occasions. It's been another 25 years and no one asks. If I meet someone new the first things they learn about me are my husband and kids - no ring needed. I got hit on more when I wore my wedding ring than I do now but that may simply be an age thing. My husband continued to wear his but in the last few years has worn it less, mainly because he has new hobbies where it could be a danger and then he forgets to put it back on. He wears a family ring and an engineers ring as well so he is more accustomed to wearing rings. Only one who bugs me about it is my SIL. She's angling for another ring and my BIL points out that I don't wear one, let alone have 3 different sets.
no it hurts when I jerk off
Technically not married (long uninteresting story, not worth getting into), but for simplicity let's pretend that I am.
I have a ring, yes. White gold. And I always wear it, but I do so Frodo-style d/t rings being incompatible with a lot of my work. I started putting it on a chain only when I was going offshore, but I found that I prefer it that way, so now it's there permanently, even if most of my work is done from my couch these days.
Plus that way I don't run the risk of it slipping off and disappearing.
Yes; and no: I take it off to type, play videogames, wash dishes, swim, or shower. And since I spend the majority of my time at home washing dishes and playing videogames, I often just put it back on as I leave the house in the morning.
Got it a year after we were married still wear it.
She had a ring I gave her for the holidays until my mother gave her my grandmother's ring, from her marriage in 1928.
29 years.
Yes, and yes.
At this point my wedding ring feels like a part of me. When I take it off and especially if I hand it to someday else that feels weird and alarming.
Yeah I got a platinum ring that felt pricey but it was easily stretched half a size at a jeweler for free and it should be easy to cut if I ever get in a stuck situation. It did irritate my skin at first when water got trapped in there but I take it off for showers/washing dishes now.
On a serious note, I do like it and I love that it gets worn and has scratches. I could polish it up but looking forward to being old and seeing physical wear marks of having a long marriage.
Recently married, I try to wear it as often as possible, but realistically it's about 2/3 the time.
Was married before and had a cheap $20 tungsten one from Amazon. It's supposed to not irritate skin, but it flared up my mild eczema, so I wasn't really wanting anything this time around.
I didn't want anything this time around, but she wanted to get me something since I got her a nice ring set.
Her rings are platinum with blue/green sapphires as the main stones, with some tiny diamonds mostly from her grandmother's wedding ring. I liked the blueish sapphires, but platinum was way too expensive since I wasn't sure I could wear it.
I went with titanium this time, as the color seemed closer to platinum and was much cheaper and supposedly better for skin conditions with 3 small inlaid bluish sapphires, coincidentally similar to her father's ring. She lost both her parents recently before our wedding, so having so many family connections with the rings meant a lot to her.
I think it looks pretty sharp, which is good because this was more than $20 though not outrageous, it was tapping the upper end of what I'd have wanted her to spend on it. So far no skin irritation.
I wear it out and at my regular job. At home is 50/50 since I don't wear it doing a lot of cleaning chores since I don't want to trap chemicals or moisture under it and I usually have it off cooking since I wash things as I go. Sometimes I forget to put it on after that, but we have ring keepers in the kitchen, bathroom, and bedroom, so there's always a set place to stash it where we take them off.
I also won't be wearing it at the animal clinic. Don't need to both them with shiny objects or have someone's toes get caught in it, plus there's some tough disinfectants and of course random poo and other things I don't want in the books and crannies.
We picked out rings for our wedding, and wore them for the most part for the first couple years. We both worked at jobs where we couldn't wear them, and I work with my hands a lot at home so mine would come off there too. I haven't bothered putting it back on in years; my wife started wearing the silicone bands which are cheap and comfortable for her. Ring or not, married all the same after 20 years.
My partner and I wear silicon rings. We started out with regular rings, but we both ended up having sensory issues - mine was a giant heavy tungsten ring and theirs had too many sharp edges. I lost my massive ring and bought a silicon ring to wear while I looked for it. Never did find it but I loved the feel of silicon so much I bought my partner a set to wear too. We've been wearing them ever since, probably 10 years now. Highly recommend.
Nope. My wife can’t wear a ring and I don’t like the feeling of them. We both got tattoos instead. No names or human faces or anything blatant like that. Nobody would know what they mean unless we told them.
I have a ring and I always wear it unless there is a specific activity I shouldn't. Certain messy or risky tasks I will take it off. I sometimes take it off while chilling in bed but put it back on when I sleep.
My SO wears his but I don't wear mine.
Yes, but I only wear it when I remember to put it on, which is rarely. My wife is similar.
It’s for the best, really - whenever I wear it, there’s a 50% chance I misplace it. The typical scenario is: I go to wash my hands, pop the ring in my back pocket (so I don’t lose it down the sink), and then forget to put it back on. Then the trousers go back in the wardrobe, and three days later I’m turning the house upside down trying to remember where I put the ring.
It’s gone in the washing machine several times. Fished it out of a drain trap once. I lost the damn thing on our honeymoon and had to spend an hour retracing my steps. I can’t be trusted to wear it every day.
I have a metal ring of some sort but I almost never wear it. I usually don't wear one at all, though I do put one on when we go out for date nights, usually a silicone one
I go through streaks of wearing it and not wearing it. If I am honest I really don't like wearing it so I will like take it off to do some painting or general construction and then not put it back in for weeks.
I do like being able to pop beers with it though.
Nope. I have an engagement pendant though, and I wear it sometimes.
My wife doesn’t have a ring either, she wouldn’t wear it if she did cause she’s issues about wearing jewelry plus general clumsiness.
And that’s okay! We don’t need rings, we got each other.
That said, I do wear a ring on my left index, it’s got two spinners and with each spin, simulates four fudge dice being thrown.
Yes I have a cheapie tungsten carbide ring from a well-known online retailer. I’ve had to replace it once after several years of minor nicks and scratches. I get lots of compliments on it! I only take it off when I have to wear gloves for work.
tungsten carbide
nicks and scratches
How confident are you on that first point?
Yes I have one, no I don't wear it all the time, nor does my wife wear hers all the time. I go for stretches sometimes where I wear it a lot, but it is slightly oversized, which makes it slightly uncomfortable after a while, and I'm scared it will slip off (i lost my first band, this is my replacement). It's almost always in my pocket though. My wife mostly only wears hers for special occasions. Neither of us are jewelery people in general.