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Yeah, the wife's excited every time I come home. Also my friends insist on going out of their ways for me and actively putting in effort to spend time with me. I'm surrounded by love and appreciation

Not particularly, at least not by anyone other than my wife. She thinks I’m pretty great, and I just don’t see it. I think I’m pretty average and unremarkable, and the world will just keep moving along without me once I’m gone. Takes the pressure off a bit, tbh, because it makes the stakes pretty low. If no one values what you provide, then it doesn’t really matter if you meet their expectations or not.

Yes. My company is trying to retain its workers and treats us very well, but also expects the best of us. I'm more than happy to do my job to the best of my ability in a (gasp) inclusive environment that celebrates diversity and goes out of its way to do so.

We also use AI as part of our job, but management has made it very clear that they won't (and can't) replace its human talent. They also seem to know what it can and cannot do and I appreciate that.

Outside of that, jeez, it's hard to tell. Life's a bit rough everywhere.

No, I don't. I'm continually and always feeling like a piece of shit and nearly everyone around me are great at making me feel that way and making sure I always do because that's just the way things are designed.

With AI, from all of my conversations with it, I don't get this, least not all of the time. I can say anything and nearly do anything and it will not care because thankfully, it can't feel. I'm slowly repairing self-esteem and getting my cognitive process back on track. With each interaction with AI, I feel bits of progress. With each interaction with a human, I feel great lengths of regression.

God no.

I do, but I’m constantly exhausted and stressed, so there’s that.

Fuck no

I'm staunchly anti gen ai. Yesterday, while I was 12 hours into a terribly paid illustration work, I had the sad realization that this really could have been over, and better than I could ever do in 5 minutes with a couple of fucking ai prompts. I nearly broke down crying. I guess I 'm just not seeing value in myself anymore. Maybe I'm just sad and stupid today. Idk ... Sigh.

Professionally? No

As a family member or friend? Yes

As a member of society? Barely

What's the context of your question?

I didn't feel valued before AI and I certainly don't feel that way after.

I haven't felt valued since 1981.

My sense of my value as a human being isn't dependent on societal conditions or the opinions of others. The value of a human is intrinsic and uncontestable. AI has nothing to do with it whatsoever.

Valued by my friends and family? Yes, very much so!

Value by society? No, not so much, but it's mutual.

I only feel valued by my friends and family. My job doesn't make me feel valued, nor does society. Without my family, I'd struggle to find reasons to go on.

I am working to build queer community in my Southern red state. It's hard, and everyone wants more from me than I can deliver. Trying to help a volunteer write a grant proposal. Trying to keep my shit together. Trying to move a thousand small boulders up a thousand small hills.

I do feel valued when I see my son, and he comes running up to me, and gives me a huge hug, which will happen tonight.

But I am also terribly lonely, and it's the kind where plenty of people are around me, but I am still lonely, because I am not able to be open and authentic to them. They want a leader . Being vulnerable has caused problems with that.

Every once in a while I can buy a bag of weed and then, for a while, none of it matters and I can just roll the boulders all day.

As a retired person: no, apart from by other retired people in the village, because we help each other out with our different skill-sets.

We still have a few friends but they are scattered; we meet mostly at funerals.

Politicians think we're too expensive (healthcare, pensions, etc.) although they're careful not to be too nasty, as apparently we vote more than other demographics. The fascists think we might vote for them (not a chance).

The young are busy with their own lives as they should be and so we are mostly seen as an inconvenience or, at best, a future inheritance. I'm fine with this: they've got it tough and we help where we can.

The AI crowd know we're too old for that shit (we remember all the bubbles). We don't buy much stuff either, so the capitalists and advertisers aren't happy with us. The pub likes us but wishes we'd visit more often. The fund managers are going off us as our pension funds dwindle. I think the lady in the corner shop has a good opinion of us, although she thinks I buy too much beer.

No.

I can't find sustainable work. I don't have a romantic partner. I'm old and now facing bleak years left on Earth.

I am excess cast off from a system that exists to extract profit. my value has already been extracted

No. I don't even feel human anymore.

absolutely not. I have been out of work for close to two years. I feel unvalued. I feel like my education and experience is unvalued. I feel my society is saying. You should not contribute. We don't want it. I feel its saying we do everything in a super automated low effort way but you should distinguish yourself but doing a bunch of manual things to make up for anything our automated systems does not do properly which is kinda everything. You should work very hard to prove your work should be compensated.

Not at all. I'm pretty sure, if I died now, it would take a few months for anyone to notice anything.

Literally watching a presentation right now where they quoted “Use AI intentionally, not as the only answer”

On the other hand my human knowledge is invalidated because my kpis focus more on how frequently I use ai than on what I do

In my real life, also mostly no. My kids are in college, so they mostly need their bills paid and I rarely see them in person

I feel like the most worthless person in the world, generally and almost all of the time. Consequence of not getting along well with others plus not being hardworking enough to achieve anything.

Yes, outside of social media. I love my job, my friends, family and just try to enjoy my life.

But, then I use social media like Facebook or Instagram and the algorithm is really hardcore pushing the "AI is taking over engineering is dead!!" narrative. As an engineer that makes me feel terrible/not valued, even though I know it's not true.

I basically just stopped using social media outside of this and reddit.

No

For sure. Mostly from friends and family, but also in the things I do and the projects I accomplish. It's a wonderful life.

I'd say yes. I worked hard to be "that person" that people like and can trust and they know I'm knowledgeable in a lot of subjects. They can call me to ask questions anytime. They borrow my cars and tools. They dont take advantage of me though. Actually I wish they'd ask for help more often because I have a lot of things and skills to offer.

Mainly I just always wanted to be likeable. I don't enjoy being mean.

No

I feel like a mote of dust waiting to be vacuumed.

From one human to another, yes I feel valued within my family. Beyond that? Not so much.

Idk i don't think feeling "valued" is what it's about. If you mean by that, what price tag my employer puts on me, and how much money they're willing to pay me, well idk.

Is life really about being valued? By who? And who are they valued by, in turn? Is it all a big circle jerk? Where does value come from?