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[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 102 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Coworkers like 75% spectrum. Office is DARK

When we have meetings, boss comes in and opens the blinds. We scurry around like roaches

[–] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 57 points 1 week ago (1 children)

We used to keep the light off in the tech bullpen. There were no windows but enough lights from the screens to keep people from tripping over themselves walking to their desks. Fucking director level POS hated it. When he didn't have anything to do he'd come back there and loudly exclaim "I don't see how y'all can work in the dark!"

It's almost like different people work different ways and have different levels of comfort. I can deal with either just fine but damn, don't just loudly pronounce shit and change the environment immediately. That absolutely stops pretty much everyone from working because they want to bitch about how it's different now.

I think it was 50/50 not giving a shit about the comfort of others and wanting attention because he was as useless as a bag of used microplastics.

[–] y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 24 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Lol people see me in the dark with a laptop and backlit keyboard and are like "how can you see / read in the dark?

Like wtf it's backlit. IDC what's happening in this - until recently - otherwise uninhabited room.

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[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 21 points 1 week ago

We did that as interns. Our official response was the light was causing interference with the testing and needed to be off.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 17 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I used to work in an IT call center like that. It wasn't even dark it was just dim because no one wanted the light over their desk turned on. There was enough light from the kitchenette area and the walkways to easily see. We got a new manager that hated that we all wanted the lights off so she used like 3 people who complained about it (and were in a corner of the room with the lights on so... stfu) as a pretext to do a poll to keep the rest of the lights turned on. She came back saying there was "a lot of" support for turning the lights on so now it was required but refused to release the results. Immediately lost all respect from the room. She would have eventually anyway because she was a shit manager but that was like right out of the gate.

[–] davidagain@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

She showed her true colours immediately. Didn't care about the people in the team.

[–] SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyz 60 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Can you imagine if we just started making snarky comments and turning off lights that people purposely put on? Wow, that'd be so rude! Right? Right??

[–] dumbass@leminal.space 37 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Why are you standing in a brightly lit room, do you need to be seen or something?

Why are you always in the light? Are you a plant or something?

[–] glimse@lemmy.world 54 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Doesn't matter if they're neurodivergent at all, it's rude to flashbang anyone like that

[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 16 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Tell that to any phone with the fingerprint reader behind the screen.

Apparently thumbs can now only be scanned by harnessing the power of the fucking sun.

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Another reason why my previous phone was better than my current one: backside fingerprint scanner. Infinitely superior to a screenside fingerprint scanner, as I was able to unlock my phone in the same motion as picking it up or removing it from my pocket. With a screenside fingerprint scanner, it is no longer more convenient than just inputting the lock code.

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[–] SlippiHUD@lemmy.world 48 points 1 week ago (2 children)

90% of the time, the explanation is "I was doing a thing that didnt require external light source and didnt notice the sun went down."

[–] stebo02@sopuli.xyz 18 points 1 week ago

yeah but even if i did notice the sun went down i prefer to stay in the dark as long as it's not necessary to have light

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[–] Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 41 points 1 week ago

“Why don’t you ever come out of your room?” flashbacks, lol

[–] WanderingThoughts@europe.pub 40 points 1 week ago (3 children)

"I rule from the shadows" is my usual response.

[–] Couldbealeotard@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago

"leave me to do my dark bidding in peace".
"Oh, what are you bidding on?".
"A table"

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 9 points 1 week ago

Normally I just hisss

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[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 40 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Also, we sometimes like the dark.

Would you like it if you were in a room with a comfortable lighting level and changed the lighting level to suit ourselves without saying anything first?

[–] y0kai@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I want a secret button that makes the room 100x brighter than normal lights so when this happens I can come back with, "idk how can you see in such dark spaces?" Then close my eyes and initate Operation Surface of the Sun.

[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

With home assistant and enough LED drivers you probably could.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana@lemmy.world 22 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

"Does a vampire live in here"!?

*flips switch*

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 14 points 1 week ago

Haha I used to get this from grandma who always complains about the electric bill. Like im trying to save money!

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 21 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I like to sit in my desolate room. No lights. No music. Just anger.

[–] Zenith@lemm.ee 12 points 1 week ago

I had to spend six months in the ICU and I always had the lights off and no sound, not tv or music, no talking, all the staff would comment on it or ask if I wanted them to turn things on for the first few months but by the end they were always telling me how my room was so peaceful and they actually preferred it to other patients rooms. I just want peace!!

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[–] Aurenkin@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 week ago

Reminds me of an Aussie comedian who said that when someone turns the light on suddenly you get momentarily transported to hell.

[–] DarthObi@feddit.org 20 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Everytime I read something about neurodivergent behavior I am astonished that another atypical thing I do is actually typical behaviour just not for neurotypical persons. (sry for my English - not a native speaker)

Your English is good, don't worry! In fact I quite like the way you worded that. Isn't it comforting to realize you're not as alone as you had thought you were?

[–] frog_brawler@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago

Ooooh story time…

I worked for a small company in 2017/2018 that had recently expanded its building and added offices into their second floor, which had previously been a storage area. The second floor offices didn’t have any windows, but is also the spot that they decided IT would go.

One day I came in and the fluorescent lights didn’t turn on. There happened to be some random old lamp (I think from the 60’s or 70’s) in a storage closet so I grabbed it and put it on the intersection of 4 cubicles to light the area. There were only 6 IT people that worked in the area and as people were coming into work, no one mentioned the light. We all just did our work.

Halfway though the day, one of our senior devs asked “hey, so what’s with the light?”

I let him know the overhead lights didn’t come on when I got here this morning so I just grabbed a lamp.

5 of us discussing the lighting situation all vocally said “yea, this is much better, the fluorescent lights suck.” One person was quiet.

The overhead lights were “fixed” not too long after but people started opting for turning them off in favor of the lamp. This upset 1 of the 6 IT people working in the area.

It eventually became an HR issue, and the one person won; to the detriment of the other 5.

I ended up quitting about 2 weeks after that, not from the light issue; but I let them believe it was a large contributing factor in the exit interview.

[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 17 points 1 week ago

Be honest. At least half the time, it's because you've forgotten lights are a thing.

[–] vaultdweller013@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 week ago (6 children)

Somewhat related but does anyone else like driving in the dark? Like no other cars back roads in the middle of nowhere, the only light is from my instruments, radio, and headlights? Fucken peak especially out in the truly middle of nowhere with minimal light pollution with the cosmos visible.

[–] BigPotato@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (3 children)

The Prius (and more historically Saab) used to have a near blackout mode which shut off interior lights and dash indicators, basically only leaving the indicator that shows your headlights are on. It was wonderful to drive with the blackout mode and just have your eyes perfectly adjusted to the light outside the cabin.

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[–] whelk@lemm.ee 8 points 1 week ago

Agreed, I love this part of long drives to out of the way destinations. Definitely better in older cars without obnoxious touch screens.

I enjoy some games that can simulate this too, like Elite Dangerous scooting around in the lander on the dark side of some barren planet deep in uninhabited space. Not the same as the real thing of course, but I still enjoy it.

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[–] Lexam@lemmy.world 16 points 1 week ago (3 children)

This is one of my great sensitivities. I can't drive without sunglasses. My eyes will tear up and I'm unable to keep them open.

[–] Zenith@lemm.ee 7 points 1 week ago

Going outside to let my dogs out in the AM is genuinely painful! The dark to light is SHOCKING mentally and physically, I used polarized glasses for driving for the same reason you do. I find certain kinds of lights to be agitating even not just uncomfortable or painful

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[–] Psaldorn@lemmy.world 14 points 1 week ago
[–] xor@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 1 week ago (5 children)

you don’t need to be neurodivergent to appreciate the dark….
for example, you could be one of those mole people with no pigment (i.e. northern white peoples)….

[–] Abnorc@lemm.ee 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You could also be a radiologist.

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[–] Evil_Shrubbery@lemm.ee 13 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah, why tf do people need to turn on my lights?

I'm not Vashta Nerada (I wish tho).

[–] WhiteRabbit_33@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yes! Please let me be part of the flesh devouring hive mind colony that likes books and lives in the dark.

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[–] quetzaldilla@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago

I just hiss as I retreat under the bed.

[–] dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This is why I wear sunglasses when in the office, it’s too damn bright. If in the first one in then it’s always the next guy asking why I don’t have the lights on and I’m like cause I can see just fine like this.

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