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Can't say.

People's kids, especially toddlers/babies. Like, I'm so sorry but I literally could not give any less fucks. Even those I consider family, I'm like tolerant of but I don't want to sit and have a whole ass conversation about what your kid did at daycare. Talk to me when they're older and doing actual cool shit.

Work. I always felt kinda bad that I had a fun job and people always wanted to hear my work stories. Then it's their turn and they're like I crunched some numbers and printed some papers. I couldn't care less. There's an imbalance there we're I have to carry a convo and almost immediately stop caring when it's flipped to them.

Before you ask, sports broadcasting.

I do not need to know your money situation and you do not need to know mine. You ain't my family. Even then I don't care. Keep that shit to yourself.

That's none of your business.

Myself

The future, and how everything sucks now compared to the past, and how much worse it will get

Because all of that is true 😔 I'd rather stay in my "living in 2003" bubble. I'll go out to vote and then come back to hide again.

I'm exaggerating as I tend to do. But there aren't any discussions of the future that don't leave me depressed

Anything "deep" with parents...

"Hey dad did you know that if you go on a space ship and travel very fast then come back to earth, thousands or tens of thousands of years could pass on earth and it only feels like a few hours on the spaceship"

Dad: "Oh really? Cooool" sounds disinterested af and continues scrolling wechat

"Hey mom did you know that scientists detected that a brain has activity before the person makes a decision? Maybe we don't have free will and the universe is deterministic!"

Mom: "Of course we have free will! Why are you overthinking everything? 日日諗埋諗埋啲咁嘅嘢，一味鑽牛角尖 (not sure how to translate this part, something like 'Everyday you keep thinking these weird thoughts, keep going down a rabbit hole')"

Also I can't really mention suicide... or I'm "ungreatful for everything they've done for me"

Also politics:

"Why are you so worried about big things, just focus on yourself"

"If the government comes knocking and arrest you, then it's your fault, just don't drag us down with you" (aka: just don't dissent)

I don't like talking about anything if I don't get a reflective silence now and then. Some people just talk and talk to hear themselves talk and never take the time to let the words sink in or just plain cook before spitting them out.

My problems. It's not that I'm the strong, stoic type - because I'm not. But talking about them makes me feel sad all over again.

It is so fucking tempting to ask every single person in this thread to elaborate lol

Religion. I have my own views and I’m not interested in talking to most about it.

We don't talk about Bruno.

vibecoding/ai bs

Trans stuff. I really have no strong opinions on gender and it doesn't interest me in the slightest. Whenever I have discussed it when asked directly I just become aware of my own ignorance. I don't want to upset or hurt anyone and don't feel engaged enough to dig much beyond a basic sort of live and let live philosophy.

I kinda feel that way about like people just asking me how things are going because it feels like I have not been able to give a decent answer for long periods one of which I am in now. I will say I don't talk much about the environment anymore simply because we are so far down the unstoppable decline and partially because the effects are hitting our present day so much that the effects are basically day to day and much of the reason things are like they are now. We are a finite snake eating its tail.

Something along the lines of "she heard that he said when they were somewhere and then like she said that he thought that she said that they shouldn't say what he said when she thought they wouldn't anyway."

...I detest hearing about what other people did/said. I live in a tiny town and I absolutely refuse to take part in gossip. I will not spread it, and neither will I hear it.

As someone who moved from the US to Canada, where I come from. I was born in a Latin American country and speak fluent Spanish so I introduce myself with that first and foremost out of spite

Any personal project I'm doing. Talking about it seems to give enough satisfaction to keep me away from continuing it later.

I've been vegan for nearly ten years, I dread any time the topic comes up with people who aren't also vegan.

It usually becomes a pointless debate where I either have to heavily self-censor, or end up hurting the feelings of people who eat animal products. It's always the same conversations I've already had hundreds of times, no one's gonna change my mind and I probably won't change theirs either.

Work or myself. The second someone tries to make a conversation about either, I just shut down and give 1 or 2 word answers. I find work incredibly boring and I don't have anything interesting going on in my life.

/shrug

Interactive performance art, and D&D, probably for the same reasons. It's fine if it's your cup of tea, but I find them to be incredibly annoying. I don't want to participate in either of those worlds in any way. Oddly I love many videogames RPG's and can get behind a well written play. I just find there aforementioned extremes to be entirely tedious and grating.

Religion, spirituality, and the afterlife. They’re all really fucking stupid made-up nonsense and are an absolute waste of time and thought. May as well try to imagine a new color.

I can't think of a subject that I categorically dislike talking about. My dislike for conversation usually has more to do with the attitudes of the people I'm having the conversations with. Conversation requires at least a minimal agreement to take what your conversational partner says into account, otherwise it's more of a lecture. Lots of arguments are people who have already convinced themselves of their rightness lecturing at each other, and it tends to be a repetitive recycling of old points and counterpoints. Pretty boring, rhetorically.

It can be useful to deliver a lecture, especially if it's invited. That's basically what venting is. I grew up being taught that if I didn't have anything constructive to say I should just keep it to myself, and that's still a position I find myself defaulting to, but it can be helpful to try to frame the petty grievances of daily life into words, especially if you have a sympathetic and willing audience. I don't have a specific example to share that doesn't reveal too much about my personal life, but I'll just say that the insights that come from venting were surprising. I think the act of putting thoughts into words can make it easier to think about those thoughts.

Politics.

Not interested in the slightest.

My blood family. Its just always the same and it frustrates me only thinking about them, their actions, their thinking, their behaviours. Calling them snakes and sociopaths is insulting to snakes!!

Magic the Gathering, other TCGs and board games.

I can have fun while playing them, but that's mostly for the social aspect of it. I don't really care to discuss it outside of actually playing. Maybe it's because my friend group is full of people who do want to discuss it and I'm just... Not that interested.

Retirement portfolios / stock market and also PC motherboard / CPU / ram combos. These both seem learnable but they are both totally opaque to me. I just glaze over when those topics come up.