Yeah, you kinda have to say it. Some of us are old and out of touch...
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Autism
How come?
A common quirk of autism is putting pressure on the fronts of your feet (though rarely as high as this) while walking.
I do it a bit, but the only sign that I am is that my shoes wear down on the front faster than other people, while the heel generally stays intact.
I really need Lemmy to stop pointing out things I didn’t notice I have been doing forever and then telling me it’s an autism thing.
Do you eat food... Cause its a known fact that 100 % of autistic people eat food!
I know some who forget to do that
I think people like to take any symptom related to autism and just claim that anything similar is also a symptom. Like, "autistic people do X a lot so if you ever did X you're probably autistic". Not how it works.
And why is that?
There can be a few reasons. Sensory, coordination, neurological... Usually it simply feels more natural.
Man, even that was a sign!? Is everything I've ever done just textbook autism?
If you're as old as me the only thing books ever mentioned on [behavior now correlated with autism] is that some kids do it but they'll "grow out of it."
Not necessarily a sign; just a common quirk to have with the condition.
Not all toe-walking is related to autism: it can also be musculoskeletal or related to other psychological conditions; and at the same time, not all autistic people walk like this.
that explains why I keep getting wear on the fronts of my shoes holy shit
I do this but only when I'm wearing sandals or am barefoot, if I'm in my boots I walking notably more on my heel. Seriously I have to swap the padding on them every once in awhile because I bore a hole in the damned things. I think it's a balance thing.
Toe walking is a fairly common childhood autistic trait and one of the main things researchers associated with it early on.
I even ran on my toes, never was diagnosed. It's funny (not actually) reaching adulthood and everything start making sense.
Running on the balls of your feet is a sprinting technique. It’s what a lot of people do. So not a definitive trait of autism.
Basically anything someone divergent does is instantly unique to them and needs to be screamed all over Lemmy as their personality.
In reality, people walk on their toes, heels or the balls of their feet. They often switch depending on context (walk on your heels in a hurry, in the balls of your feet rather than stomping etc.) No one really cares or feels special about it.
it'll never cease being ironic how this comment shows up like clockwork, you're doing the exact same thing you complain about!
Also ✨trauma✨!
Tiptoeing around your parents so they don't notice you 🥰 (but I am also the 'tism)
And holding a breath while you're quickly scamping across the room.
Is there more to it than just Spiderverse Gwen having a background in ballet and the artists coding her mannerisms around that (e.g. her costume using ballet shoes)?
It's an autism/ADHD coded behavior.
Now you've got me feeling self conscious about how often I walk around tiptoed for balance...
Also, there are serious textural references to her being trans, and well…
Let’s say I’m aware that there are neurotypical trans people out there but there’s definitely a certain correlation.
I don't think the trans themes in the movies(the color of her dimension mirroring the trans flag/etc) are literal, more that her journey is an allegory for the trans journey.
Her arc involves discovery herself, losing friends, hiding who she is from her parent, being abandoned when her true self is revealed, finding a found family, and finally reconciling with her parent when they finally accept her.
Its a trans arc, but is more shared experience that makes it roots clear than a literal statement of gender.
Its to increase posterior chain strength in her calves and plantar fascia to help with explosiveness as spider-woman.
I have a friend who would walk like this. Motherfucker can't squat. Can't even keep his feet flat when going into a half-squat.
Do you know how to reverse that? Like I can't squat either and I wanna learn cause my ass be flat lol
i mean, keep trying to squat? That's how basically all kinds of exercise works, do it until the body adapts.
Shortens your tendons, though, is the problem.
TIL another reason to get myself tested for that.
Who knows, maybe I could upgrade my ADHD diagnosis to AuDHD.
Or as I think of it since having read it around here, ADHD Gold^TM^
tippy toes to avoid being loud even when alone at home ~
I feel like this is where ASD and CPTSD meet
dunno if them letters got a thing to do with it. being silent is just a nice thing I believe---
buuuuut iguess it can have a thing to do with it.. fair-
its like, no one can percieve you and you cant ask anything or else you will Die instantly
Wait, does neurodivergence cause short calf muscles?
Walk on toes quieter than stomping around
Walking on toes is associated with autism. Maybe because it's less impact force and also less noise so generally less stuff to deal with.
erin know irl autistic person who walk like that
