I really wish we could disable PMs from anyone but admins or mods of comms we subscribe to, like you can on reddit. There will never be a day when I want to receive a PM from anyone on Lemmy. It's nothing personal, there's lots of cool people here, but I'm not interested in being pen pals. I'm just here for the public forum.
this post was submitted on 01 Feb 2025
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Ooh! You sound sexy and I definitely want to be your pen pal! I’ve sent you a DM!
Also, I have a great business opportunity for you if you’re interested! Have you ever heard of NFTs?
NFTs went away for a while because of crime and scams, but they fixed all those problems I swear. NFTs are the sexiest investment a sexy person could make, and they’re even better now that the leaders are implementing AI! It’s going to be revolutionary! It’s like E = Mc2, but now it’s E = Mc2 + AI. It’s the bees knees! It’ll make Stephen Hawking blush! I’ll help broker it for you, and if you send me 1 NFT, I will send you 2 back just because I like you.
Can’t wait for your reply!! ❤️
Just pm'd you asking for more deets.
If we were on Reddit, OP's inbox would get flooded with messages, but Lemmy isn't active enough for that...
Got 4 copies of it, I don't even know how to send a message to "all" here, didn't think it was possible.
The API is pretty open. you can write a script that sends individual messages to however many people you like
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Yay I feel loved, just got my one of these!
I got it to. Did they send it to everyone? And exactly how would you do that?
I got it too!
Same
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Besides all that drama of OP:
Wouldn't that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like "Hey, I'm Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like" or "I'm jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect". That would be really cool. The problem is as always that we can not trust these messages because of the last decade of misuse on various platforms. Even if we take out all the scams, we only accept the right message in the right medium: If someone would write me what OP posted on LinkedIn, I would read it as a business inquire connection (at best). If she would write me that on Tinder&co, I would take it as an avance. If I would get a message like that on facebook, I do not believe in it as a honest request anymore. On Insta I would read it as a scam too. But where is the place where I can get a message like that and trust it as it is the norm in that social network? McLuhan said "The Medium is the Message". We need a Platform/Network/Medium to give a room to actually send a message like that where a connection without the aspect of business or sex is assumed because of the choosen Platform/Network/Medium.
The Fediverse will not solve this problem sadly, as it is mainly just decentralized, but is not out to solve societary tilts and disgraces. But it is nice to think that such a place/site/room could exist (one day?) where a person (even of another gender) could have an exchange like that without bad intentions. As usally, The good ones are silent, and the loud ones are scams.
The loneliness epidemic in a nutshell: we feel we can't trust people being open and friendly.
That isn't normal, by the way.
The problem isn't that we feel we can't trust them. It's that we actually can't trust them. Trusting someone that messages you that way is likely to end up with you in a bathtub full of ice, or at the very least, a compromised bank account.
I didn't mean to say the well hasn't been poisoned, only that we need a source of water.
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Most people are open and friendly but you have to meet them in real life.
I signed up for dinner with strangers thing, meeting five random strangers I didn't know before. Every single one was friendly and open about their lives.
We all need to be very careful not to think social media is real life. Outside of all this, most people are decent, specially when a bit older.
Wouldn’t that be THE BEST social media community where messages like that would actually happen? I would love to be a part of an open undivisive group of people who would write things like “Hey, I’m Joe, I do this and that and noticed you, lets band if you like” or “I’m jenna, I do the creative work for XY instance, lets connect”. That would be really cool.
Start c/penpals
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Take all my money, random dude on the web.
Even weirder, a user named "sognar" was posting their picture as a comment.
Seemed odd to me... Comment is removed now.
Probably the bot owner setting it up and doing a test post?
Created the same day so seems likely.
Also, the spammer linked above is now banned.
Interestingly there is a reddit user named Korvin-lin-sognar, who posts lots of pro-Russia, anti-Ukraine, pro-Trump, etc. you name it content on reddit and twitter.
They are also in IT with strong webdev skills, and possibly have an exemption from conscription for working more than a year in a Russian IT company(or are angry it doesn't apply to them?)
Just saying if I was a Russian foreign agent (or troll) trying to use bots to fish and setup a troll farm on lemmy/Fediverse, I'd probably look a like like this netizen.
Edit: I've now been messaged by the sognar account as well as the original missy29. Interesting that the message has changed to include links now. Did anyone else get contacted by sognar?
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Oh so that's why, I reverse searched the image earlier and it linked to that post. Looks like there is another image on that profile now
okay lol i feel less bad for reporting this user now that i know it was widespread
I got like 8 of those :-/
damn how did they think that was gonna look legit 🤣
As a mod in other coomunities, please report these as quickly as you can. They can generally be taken care of quickly.
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I didn't even know pms were a thing mbin until I got that one earlier. No pic on mine, but might be a cross-compatability issue or already the link died
I also just got it.
Got thar same message. Basic policy: ignore.
Shame. I've PM'd a few people and had good conversations.
Sure, but did you at least add context about why you're messaging them? Like some comment or post they made that you liked and you wanted to talk about similar stuff?
Because that would be kind of normal. That's what private messages are for. But this one is just bait.
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I got it too. Looks like maybe they were banned because it disappeared from my inbox
Ayyy we're.....winning?
Thanks for the heads up! I never PM anyone on social media platforms unless I’ve met them in real life and they expressed actual openness to talking to me.
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