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Like how we all face the door in an elevator or feel the need to say 'ope' when we almost bump into someone. What’s a silent rule of society that you find hilarious or totally unnecessary?

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[–] titanicx@lemmy.zip 3 points 11 hours ago

I personally really enjoy facing the back of an elevator especially if it's crowded. And then I start talking to everybody and asking them various sorts of questions. Often asking them to give a speech during the meeting that I impromptly called. It's wonderful to see how nervous people get.

[–] nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 12 hours ago

cool I don't do any of that stuff on account of im retarded

[–] FosterMolasses@leminal.space 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Neurodivergent peeps in this thread: 👀

[–] starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] cymor@midwest.social 15 points 22 hours ago

Showing respect to or emulating rich people.

[–] stringere@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 day ago

feel the need to say 'ope' when we almost bump into someone

Found the midwesterner?

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 27 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Order of Adjectives. You do this unconsciously and don't even know you're doing it.

https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/grammar/british-grammar/adjectives-order

"The big black house up on the hill."

Never "The black big up on the hill house."

1 - opinion - unusual, lovely, beautiful
2 - size - big, small, tall
3 - physical quality - thin, rough, untidy
4 - shape - round, square, rectangular
5 - age - young, old, youthful
6 - colour - blue, red, pink
7 - origin - Dutch, Japanese, Turkish
8 - material - metal, wood, plastic
9 - type - general-purpose, four-sided, U-shaped
10 - purpose - cleaning, hammering, cooking

[–] ChonkyOwlbear@lemmy.world 3 points 12 hours ago

My favorite one of these unconscious linguistic rules is expletive infixation. We say "fan-fucking-tastic" but "fanta-fucking-stic" sounds completely wrong.

[–] ICastFist@programming.dev 10 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's a language rule, tho

[–] agent_nycto@lemmy.world 6 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

One could argue language rules are social rules tho

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago

Yup, if you mix up the adjective order, people will look at you like you're an alien.

"Your leader, to him take me!"

[–] leadore@lemmy.world 56 points 1 day ago (2 children)

No one alive today agreed to Daylight Saving Time.

[–] BCsven@lemmy.ca 4 points 11 hours ago

In BC Canada we are now on permanent Daylight Savings time woohoo!

[–] Multiplexer@discuss.tchncs.de 20 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It has been introduced in my country during the early 80s, so I have to disagree on that one.
That's just about 40 years ago, so pretty sure there are still people left who agreed to it.

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[–] otter@lemmy.dbzer0.com 76 points 1 day ago (10 children)

Not discussing pay rate with coworkers/colleagues. I mean, talk about complicity via fear. 🫪

Might be true for non-union gigs, but from my experience in union shops nobody cares because everyone can see what the pay rates are. Same with retirement plans.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 21 points 1 day ago

Not discussing pay rate with coworkers/colleagues. I

My day job is Union. Everyone's rates are well-published. We have less boring things to talk about.

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[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 31 points 1 day ago (3 children)

‘How are you today?”

“Good, you?”

“Good, thanks.”

[–] JennaR8r@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Aw hell no. I trauma dump on everyone who asks me "How are you?"

[–] OldChicoAle@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Okay everyone avoid Jenna.

[–] Corporal_Punishment@feddit.uk 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

UK version (male)- any deviation, even with your best friend/dad is a capital offence.

-Alright?

-Not bad, you?

-Yeah not bad.

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[–] starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I usually give an "eh I'm doing okay" since that gives a chance if they actually wanted to know what's up.

[–] Alberat@lemmy.world 1 points 17 hours ago
[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 49 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Hands clasped behind the back means, "just looking". Seems pretty universal. People do this in stores all the time.

[–] ArseAssassin@sopuli.xyz 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It helps you balance when you're leaning forward to look at something.

[–] iamericandre@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

This is my typical art museum pose, so I can get close without touching or falling into the paintings

[–] Gerudo@lemmy.zip 16 points 1 day ago

Honestly I do this because I like to fidget and I'm afraid I'll reach out to grab something I'm not supposed to.

[–] FosterMolasses@leminal.space 3 points 1 day ago

I did this during the entire training day of one of my first jobs, and at the end my boss asked me if I'd ever been in the ROTC. I said no, having no clue what it was, until I looked it up later at home.

The job was BOH at a pizza joint 🫠

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[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 75 points 1 day ago (13 children)

Socrates would say, and I would agree, that by following the rule we have already agreed to it.

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[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 39 points 1 day ago (15 children)

The elevator one seems pretty universal, but "ope" is regional.

These kinds of social norms aren't universal.

One that I wish were more universal would be standing on the right when using an escalator, and leaving the left side for walking.

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