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I ask because I caught myself being a huge hypocrite again.

I'm a millennial and I criticized a Gen Z friend for her constant use of the word 'lowkey.'

I then realized do I not do the same thing? I often say 'sorta' or 'kinda' when I do just mean I did the thing in the same way she uses 'lowkey.'

No, I didn't 'kinda' delete a guy's account at my stupid IT job. I DELETED HIS ACCOUNT! I didn't 'sorta' leave too late for work. I FUCKING LEFT LATE!

So I am a massive fucking hypocrite who needs to just let Gen Z chill and do what the want as I am the same flavor of asshole, but what about you?

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[–] flubba86@lemmy.world 2 points 14 minutes ago

Yes, I definitely do. It's because my brain runs quite slowly, slower than I talk. So I often need to put in filler words to let my brain catch up. Or I repeat the same thing I just said but in a different way.

It's odd how the brain can kindof pre-load the mouth with a sentence, then while the sentence is playing, it hunts for the next sentence to play. If the next sentence is not ready yet, then the mouth goes into autopilot. It puts in filler words to make the sentence longer, and loops back on other things I've already said.

[–] spittingimage@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago

I try not to. When I catch myself doing it, I remind myself not to.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 3 hours ago
[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 2 points 2 hours ago

I'm ready for people to move on from describing 85% of things as "unhinged".

[–] tal@lemmy.today 7 points 4 hours ago

I, like, totally do!

[–] Nonprophet@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

My fave was when a GenZ said, in all seriousness, that they were 'starting to think Andy Warhol was LOWKEY obsessed with celebrities'!!!

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 4 points 4 hours ago

Wouldn't call it 'needless' exactly.

[–] Malica@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 hours ago

We're all hypocrites, it happens, just don't let it happen with important shit.

[–] rustydrd@sh.itjust.works 3 points 5 hours ago

For sure, I do. I also think that's normal, because you sometimes need filler to let your brain catch up with your words. The filler words I find annoying are the ones that don't "fit" the context, but that's subjective, and younger people probably think "low-key" fits more often than I do.

[–] Kaligalis@lemmy.world 5 points 6 hours ago

I, you know, low-key do sometimes, ahem, use, like, some, ahem, filler, ahem, you know, words, right.
No really, I do. Not as bad as above "sentence." But I tend to sprinkle some "basically" and "just" into each comment I make.
And yes, I hate when others do it.

[–] AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world 10 points 7 hours ago

I grew up in a house with a swear word jar, and a filler word jar. The swear word jar worked differently than most. We didn't put a quarter in every time we used a swear word. We put a dollar in every time we use a swear word incorrectly or as a filler word. According to my parents, "profanity should be used as punctuation and emphasis, not decoration."

The filler word jar worked like a normal swear word jar. $0.25 in the jar for each and every filler word we used. Since this was in the '80s and '90s, we learned to think about what we said before we started speaking.

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world -1 points 3 hours ago

I wouldn't call you a hypocrite, let alone a massive fucking one, but definitely self-absorbed and guilty of overgeneralizing one person to a whole generation - which is not only grossly inaccurate but I think is more significant than being annoyed by throwaway words, which is more of a little pet peeve. Do you srsly categorize your friends as "my GenZ friend" or "the boomer guy I work with" etc? That's kinda fucked up, and I say "kinda" because it's not like you burned down an orphanage or anything.

[–] THE_GR8_MIKE@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)
[–] rustydrd@sh.itjust.works 1 points 5 hours ago

Short and to the point. Gotta hand it to you.

[–] Imhotep@feddit.fr 2 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I'm the opposite in a way, I tend to look for a specific word and when I can't find it right away it can make for awkward pauses in my speech. I'm working on it.

But when I was younger, sure, tons of filler words. It gets better

[–] Proprietary_Blend@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

I prefer the pause. Especially when it's followed by thoughtful responses.

[–] Cherry@piefed.social 13 points 9 hours ago (7 children)

IRL I often use too few filler words and get perceived to be blunt or direct. So I think there is a middle ground.

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[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 7 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

It's only when I see "lowkey" used to mean the exact opposite of its intended meaning, and without being sarcastic that I get annoyed. If it's hella loud and/or flashy, that shit is not lowkey, kiddos.

[–] elephantium@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

Eh, think about "bad" in the 90s.

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 1 points 3 hours ago

I'm not sure I see how the two are comparable here.

[–] queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone 51 points 13 hours ago* (last edited 13 hours ago) (4 children)

Filler words carry meaning, even if they don't have specific definitions in context. Like, "like" has a dictionary definition, but if you use it as, like, a filler word, you aren't using that definition (necessarily), but it still conveys something about how the speaker is thinking. They don't just pop up in speech at random. I like catching them and trying to interpret why speakers insert them where they do.

Like, "lowkey" is ~~usually~~* sometimes used to soften harsh language e.g. "I'm lowkey gonna murder Sarah if she doesn't stop chewing her gum with her mouth open". Kinda how "kinda" works as a filler to tone down whatever is being said. I don't actually want to murder Sarah, I just kinda want to murder her. I don't even know if I would call them "proper filler words" in the same sense that "like" is, since they do have a particular function that "like" as a filler lacks. More research is needed it seems.

For me, I let 'em fly. If I had to deliver a speech I would probably include fewer than I usually use in casual conversation, but I don't hold with the rule that they're strictly to be avoided. I think they're neat.

* edit: I just know how I've heard it used, I have no idea how it's usually used. I'm lowkey not in the lowkey demographic.

[–] I_Fart_Glitter@lemmy.world 6 points 5 hours ago

“Like” can also be a softener.

“I ate like 20 corn dogs” is different than “I ate 20 corn dogs.”

The former means a larger than standard number of corn dogs, maybe six or seven. The latter means twenty.

It has other practical uses as well.

[–] Klear@piefed.world 20 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

I'm lowkey literally gonna murder Sarah.

[–] blackbrook@mander.xyz 2 points 8 hours ago

I heard someone use "literally" the other day in a way that made absolutely no sense, even in the not-literally-correct way we've all gotten used to. Almost like its heading for the sort of fits-anywhere role that "fucking" has.

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[–] Up_dog@lemmy.world 62 points 14 hours ago (5 children)

Why use more word when less word work

[–] Malica@lemmy.zip 2 points 3 hours ago

It can subtly influence meaning

[–] Kaligalis@lemmy.world 5 points 6 hours ago

For decoration, signalling emotional state, and to play with words.

[–] queerlilhayseed@piefed.blahaj.zone 29 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

More word sometimes make talk pretty and precise, but sometimes opposite. Words hard :(

[–] Up_dog@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

s** world 🐟🌎

[–] MasterBlaster@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

unga bunga, genius!

[–] Apeman42@lemmy.world 42 points 14 hours ago (3 children)

No, I mean I don't use them needlessly or whatever. I kinda use them to sorta let my thoughts buffer.

[–] Imhotep@feddit.fr 1 points 6 hours ago

You have a good point there, English is a quite efficient language (which gets shortened even more, like saying "o" instead of zero) and this maybe leaves less time to think.

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[–] 4am@lemmy.zip 20 points 12 hours ago (1 children)
[–] deHaga@feddit.uk 7 points 11 hours ago

You know what I mean?

I think I understand what you're talking about. I wouldn't classify the extra words I use as strictly "filler" words. My phrasing is designed to avoid speaking in absolutes. I'm sure it was intentional at one point but it's been a habit for so long that it's become automatic.

I've considered why I do this and come up with a few reasons. First, because I routinely doubt myself. Even on topics where I am an expert. Imposter syndrome is real. Second, because I often find myself having to deliver news that the other person(s) doesn't want to hear and I feel like it helps "soften the blow." And third, to give myself the feeling of plausible denyability; even if there really is none. e.g. "I said could happen, not would happen."

TLDR: Because I doubt myself and want to avoid conflict.

But there are times when I will drop the fillers. And it's not really a conscious effort. If I'm talking about something I feel morally responsible for, I will drop the bullshit and get straight to the point. It happens when I've decided that I'm going to die on this [proverbial] hill and that doing what I think is right outweighs any potential consequences. I can coun't on one, maybe two hands where I've felt I had to choose between a job or a friend and my personal ethics.

In those moments, the fillers go away because my choice is already made.

[–] alternategait@lemmy.world 2 points 7 hours ago

Maybe you let your friend know you realized you’re a hypocrite?

[–] new_world_odor@lemmy.world 2 points 7 hours ago

Oh definitely. The way I use language changes drastically based on the situation. I try to avoid it as much as I can - which means I still end up using them plenty often enough lol. And that's the biggest culprit right there, appending 'lol' in text to come across more agreeable/chill.

I do find it interesting how the filler words differ between generations. Lowkey I mix slang from millenials, gen z, and just a splash of gen x. Whatever suits the scenario and my mood :D

[–] MasterBlaster@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

such words can be useful to signal being slightly uncomfortable about the fact... when not overused. i see your point, of course!

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[–] DarrinBrunner@lemmy.world 2 points 8 hours ago

I use "really" and "very" way too much.

When editing my writings, I keep an eye out for those words especially, and either delete them or replace them. So, instead of "very happy", I might write "thrilled" or "ecstatic."

[–] Michal@programming.dev 13 points 12 hours ago (5 children)

I'm always annoyed by the term lowkey, because in music, low key means lower pitch, and not low in volume. It's essentially bass, and my brain cannot comprehend how it could mean what it's supposed to mean.

[–] bizarroland@lemmy.world 1 points 2 hours ago

What if they mean it like Loki?

[–] bequirtle@lemmy.world 4 points 9 hours ago

It's a photography term for low lighting

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[–] bizarroland@lemmy.world 22 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

For some reason, I have an incredibly difficult time not saying like.

I bet if there were a word cloud of mymost commonly used words of all of my posts, "like" would be the sun in my fucking word solar system.

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